Successful couples adjust their use of function words to match each other, because that's indicative of people who are really listening to each other

kazucain · 2011-05-26T20:34:29+00:00

I wonder if this correlates to attraction between people of similar intelligence levels. I generally associate a high frequency of short words (i.e. "Omg we totally blah and like he was totally like hey omg wow.") with dumb people. Vice versa with smart people.

I, and I think most people would agree, don't want to be with someone too much smarter than me or dumber than me.

sockthepuppetry · 2011-05-27T04:29:59+00:00

He found that the conversations were these words were used in similar frequencies tended to be the most successful, suggesting similar use of these function words helps make for a better relationship.

ENGLISH, MOTHERFUCKER

katafrakt · 2011-05-26T20:45:25+00:00

Wasn't there some web page claiming to calculate 'dateability' of two people based on use of those function words in their IM conversations?

2011-05-26T20:57:07+00:00

This is what psychologists call attuning to one another.

Title	Successful couples adjust their use of function words to match each other, because that's indicative of people who are really listening to each other
Author	contrarianism
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Date	May 26, 2011 4:46 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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