I need some advice on how to continue interacting with this girl. I just got into college (top choice!!) and was invited in my acceptance letter to join the Facebook group of the Class of 2021. So on the group, everyone was posting their social media such as Snapchat and Instagram. I added this girl on Snapchat on Thursday and we kind of hit it off- we are both interested in the same major, we both know mutual friends even though we're in different states, we both speak Chinese, etc. I'll give you a rundown of the highlights of my conversation so you can tell me how I'm doing and then you can let me know how to proceed.


IndianWise: Hey, I'm IndianWise! Good to know that we'll be seeing around at X university!

Girl: Hey, I'm Girl! I have to admit that I have another friend named IndianWise and I accidentally messaged him first before I messaged you!

IndianWise: Pretty sure he's not as handsome as this IndianWise.

Girl: Ahahaha he's pretty awesome, you have a lot to live up to.

IndianWise: You have a lot to live up yourself to compared to all the other Girls I know. Where are you from?

Girl: I live in abc state and no, I'm the best Girl you know.

IndianWise: Alright, let's agree that you're the best Girl I know and I'm the best IndianWise you know.

[conversation continues with just getting to know each other]

IndianWise: You know, you're actually pretty cool Girl. You're like the 4th best Girl I know.

Girl: Excuse me, how am I 4th best?

IndianWise: Fine, if I had to reconsider, 5th best.

Girl: Rude. I've known you for two hours and you're already throwing shade.

IndianWise: Nah, you're cool. I like my Chinese-speaking, mutual-friend knowing friends.

Girl: There's just a whole bunch of random stuff we have in common! Don't tell me you dance as well.

IndianWise: I mainly act but I can bust the odd move every now and then and embarrass myself.

Girl: Ahahaha what's your favorite play?

IndianWise: Richard III because I LOVE House of Cards.

Girl: I've never seen that live hahaha

IndianWise: What kind of dance do you do? You move up to 4th best if it involves poles.

Girl: Nice try. I do preprofessional ballet blah blah blah.......(I forgot the rest of her explanation). But no sorry.

IndianWise: Hahaha it was worth asking since you've surprised me so many times tonight.

Girl: Well maybe I'll have to take a pole dancing class just to surprise you a little bit more. Alright, I'm going to ptfo, goodnight IndianWise.


My takeaway, and feel free to agree or disagree, is that I had a fun conversation with enough flirting or fun banter here and there- especially since I haven't met this person in real life, there was the thing about getting to know her over text. I was able to challenge her and make her qualify herself with the whole "best" thing and I also made it risque by asking if she pole danced- to which she responded positively and kind of flirted back by saying that she could surprise me further by taking a pole dancing class. Overall, I thought it was pretty good.

So the next day, I send her a snap saying "Streaks" (if you don't know what this is, it's basically when you snap someone and they snap back within 24 hours everyday, you get this fire emoji called a "streak" and you maintain the streak by consistently snapping that person).

Girl: Hahaha we don't have a streak yet.

IndianWise: Lol let's start one!

Girl: True ahaha but I'm bad at keeping streaks.

IndianWise: You'll have to keep the streak if you want to move up to 4th best.

Girl: How am I 4th best, did you demote me?

IndianWise: No, I said you're 5th best but you move up if your dancing involves poles and/or removal of clothes.

Girl: Guess I'm stuck at 5th best then.

at this point I thought I blew it, but I realized that she probably didn't want to sound too whore-like. She had responded positively the previous night, so I should still be good. Let me know what your take is, however.

So that night, I smoked some weed with my friends and got a Shamrock shake from McDonalds- basically this really green-colored milkshake- and sent her a picture of it captioned "How to celebrate getting into college".

Girl: But you have to celebrate getting into college with a blue and white shake!

IndianWise: Blue and white shakes- we'll definitely do that together in August!

Girl: Lol deal.

Again, takeaway is that there has been some interest established and I have used an "us" mentality kind of thing. She responds positively and has snapped me today to maintain our streak.

My question lies in how to proceed- should I try to be more sexual? I feel like that's the wrong approach since I'm not going to meet her until August. I also don't want to just text her randomly every day because 1) she might think I'm desperate and 2) I might get friendzoned (again, give your thoughts). I feel like I've planted enough of a seed so that when she thinks of me, she'll think about a fun guy who isn't afraid to say certain things and that I should just maintain a streak (send a snap to her every day) with minimal actual contact until August, when we meet in person.

Thoughts?