Hey guys,

I've deleted dating apps long time ago, because they never "worked" for me.

I figured that that had something to do with me being too much of a niceguy, avoiding controversial topics etc. I'm working in that part.

What is still lacking is me understanding proper textgame. Therefore - and because my schedule doesn't allow me to go out very often currently - I want to try tinder and co. again.

So here comes the real question: How do I spark a girl's interest and get her to meet me? My former conversations went like the usual "how are you, where are you from, what are your hobbies". But that lead to nothing really. Should I just tell a funny story of my life out of the blue, or should I exchange a few basic sentences and then arrange a date immediately?

My goal is not to lay every woman I get a match with, but to meet them and get to know them in person to decide, whether or not to advance.

Apart from your suggestions, I'm open to any sources (books, website) which go over that. Because my "natural" textgame is horrible and I really want to change that.

So thanks in advance for your help =P