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[–]Mechanickingpin 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
She doesn't seem interested in you.
[–]catchabody1212 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I figured that as a possibility, should i text her one time today just to see if its a possibility?
[–]Mechanickingpin 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If you want "closure" then sure. Text her. If she doesn't answer then that's the hint.
[–]catchabody1212 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
although she did say she would make it up to me, she seemed genuine. Could be just trying to avoid conflict though.
[–]Mechanickingpin 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've dealt with chicks like that. They don't tell you straight up that they're not interested in something more. I we t on 4 dates with a girl and ended every time fucking in her bed. After the 4th date she disappeared of the face of the earth. I tried calling her but the number was disconnected, Facebook was closed, email was gone. She had changed her number and met someone new.
[–]catchabody1212 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bummer. I would just like some closure and not have to worry about it anymore, Not really too bummed about it, just would be nice to hear her side.
[–]Diece 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
How did you fuck her on the first date but only kiss on the second...
[–]catchabody1212 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I believed that she was into me and used it as a tactic to keep me around for a third date. could me wishful thinking. Dinner and Movie then I dropped her off, went for kiss, no resistance on her part.
[–]Diece 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Investment = Sex. The more you have sex with a girl the more invested she becomes.
Why would a girl want to go on a third date when all she got on the second is a kiss. Your not playing hard to get you are just showing her you have no interest in her. If you go to kiss a girl and she is really receptive then that means you could of went a lot further. Did she initiate the sex on the first date?
Yes she did initiate the sex on the first date.
You meet a girl. Girl goes on a date. She is turned on, really loves the moves you put on her, and she puts out. Y'all are happy, she goes home. Guys at this point are notorious for running, hence the saying "hit it and quit it." Surprisingly, you set up another date with this girl. Now, you've already had sex, so her immediate thought is "he wants to have sex again." She goes out with you again, and this time she makes out with you but doesn't put out. She may want to, but she doesn't. She also doesn't make any mention of not putting out. Now, you ask her out on date #3 and she says yes. You may not have fucked her last time, but you're bound to fuck her now, right? It's your third date. The point is you came back. By withholding something that you explicitly want, you continue to go out with her trying to get that thing you once had (in this case it's sex). She very likely could have put out again right away, but she didn't because she felt like the only attribute to keep this guy interested was pussy, and by holding it off she could milk a couple more dates out of him because she liked him. By mere exposure effect, you eventually start to like this girl and by the time you start getting into FWB territory, you're starting to fall for her. The point is, her plan worked. If you don't fall for it, oh well, it's not a fool proof plan, but it kept you coming back long enough for her to try.
[–]Diece -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Well its clear what happened here, she initiated sex because you weren't able to be a man and initiate it like your supposed to.
If she had to initiate sex her first thought is
"I hope next time he isn't such a big fucking pussy that I have to do the work."
Then date 2 comes along and she has to fucking initiate the make out. At this point it's a sinking ship, her interest is draining quick and every minute you don't make a move it's only going to get lower and lower.
For date 3 she isn't thinking "maybe he will initiate this time" she's thinking "wow what a pussy this guy is" there will be no date 3. If he can't even kiss me without initiating then thats a man I don't want to be around.
When a girl initiates and you don't do anything beyond what she starts thats not "withholding something you want" that's "he's too big of a pussy to initiate ANYTHING with me".
You showed both disinterest and not in a good way plus you are too big of a pussy to do anything without her initiating. That's enough to have no date 3.
haha, how many girls have you sexually assaulted? just curious.
[–]Diece 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How often do you take the initiative and escalate?
[–]nobody_ja -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry about formatting etc, on my phone. Anyways..
Diece shouldn't be getting down voted here.
The first thing that struck me was the same thing he mentioned: " f close on date 1 then k close on date 2"
something is off there. Diece here is getting a little dramatic but I do agree with him, you probably should have continued after she welcomed the kiss on date 2. From what info we have to work with here, I'll assume that her welcoming the kiss is synonymous with her welcoming sex. Chaining on that I'll also assume that the 'no resistance' was in fact, her welcoming your initiative.
Diece has a very good point I think you should take this advice:
"When a girl initiates and you don't do anything beyond what she starts thats not "withholding something you want" that's "he's too big of a pussy to initiate ANYTHING with me".
You showed both disinterest and not in a good way plus you are too big of a pussy to do anything without her initiating. "
I do like the point you put forth but tbh I think you're just slightly shortsighted in that. But that's what seddit is here to help with.
I think you do recognize that you missed a window (of opportunity) here, that's why you came here asking what to do next to fix your mistake. Of course you are kind of confused where the mistake is, women are tricky bro , you'll get the hang of it. Don't laugh at other peoples above tho, you won't get far with that strategy. And sexual assault isn't really that funny, if you think someone is doing that you should be trying to help/correct them, not hiding behind a half-assed response with bad humour.
As for this girl, you started off with her obviously interested and it seems as if you've lost her interest. I don't imagine it's completely over but I'll say that a way to get her interest back is to show real interest in her as well. This interest that you communicate to her has to be strong tho, an empty call or an empty text are likely to communicate disinterest from you. Obviously it's your call, and you are the only one in the right position to judge her person but she's already shown you what happens when you don't escalate/show enough interest.
Or she could actually be really busy. But you're worried it's otherwise. This is your "pussyness" is showing BTW. this is probably why Diece started calling out your problem as he saw it. The fact that you came here and asked this specific question in this kind of situation, reeks of you being a 'pussy'.
You should probably try to answer his question ("How often do you take the initiative and escalate?"), his question isn't as useless as yours.
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