Before I started reading this forum, I was probably not terribly attractive. I had some beta tendencies, appearing clingy and quick to shift opinions to please. Even though I worked out and was generally successful, my game was completely shit and my confidence was low. I remember the first night I found this subreddit. I stayed awake reading all the top posts, and I started to realize my mistakes, making me feel kinda shitty.

So, from there I started practicing being more confident. I practiced getting better at eye contact, listened to affirmations daily, and practiced talking to everyone I could. Over time, I was able to improve dramatically.

Then I met my current SO, and somehow, I was able to do all the right things automatically. The paralyzing fear I once had seemed gone! I could talk freely, express my opinions, tease her, and make moves unlike I ever could before. I remember previously I'd be paralyzed with fear over the idea of making a move for a first kiss, but this time around, it kinda just happened. I wasn't stuck in my head, I was grounded in my body and able to just act. I feel so free, and I feel like I owe my current happiness to this community, so thank you.

Good luck to everyone starting out on a journey to a better you!