I’m at 0 cold approaches but have come my closest twice over the last two weeks.

I’m noticing signals more often. In each scenario, I was really close to the person signaling, and, in each scenario, I had an easy ‘in’ conversationally. Then, I start noticing others. In the first instance an elderly man was watching me intently, as if living vicariously through me. When I left without doing anything he said “you forgot something.”

The thing is, I’m noticing these signals at my weekend and afternoon haunts, coffee shops. I think I’m a regular at these coffee shops. I’m really there to work and I work well at them. The staff and other regulars treat me well, too.

I’m scared of ruining that, of being seen as the guy who’s there to pick up women. Is this scenario a “don’t shit where you sleep” scenario, or is this scenario a “do what you want and ignore others” scenario?