I apologize in advance for how wordy I can be.

I'm new here but have been reading this forum and tons of other PUA sites, along with watching videos.

My situation: 37, decent enough looking but 40 pounds heavier than I should be, personable and social, but with with very little experience chasing girls because I got married and settled down young and live in a small town. Anyway, decided to read up, learn, apply the tips, and see what happened with my buddy in Vegas this past weekend. (I have had a few other weekends of chasing girls and have had moderate success but usually struggle to move things past the hook point.) If there's one thing I think I'm good at, it's following instructions. And guess what, they work.

Long story as short as I can make it. We went with the goal of hitting on girls. My buddy is shy and generally I'm the one that has to start all social interactions. Went to an outdoor bar area (Carnaval Court, for those familiar). The crowd was very light. I got started talking with a few people here and there, and ended up chatting with these two girls that were not hot at all but were friendly and had a good looking friend in their group of 5.

The one thing I had decided to really focus on was the concept of being the man, leading the interaction, making the girl react to me and not vice versa, and handling/dismissing their shit tests as if they were nothing. That doesn't come naturally to me but I watched enough videos from the RSD guys and read stuff that I was prepared.

So anyway, the not hot girls were then telling me about their friend over there, the hot one (I'll call her an 8?). They told me how she's the wet blanket of the group and how no one can crack her and how last night, they were trying to get guys to hit on her and they told her what she likes, what she's into, etc., and that none of the guys could get anywhere.

So I don't know what came over me, but immediately, I had this strange confidence where I was like, "dude, I'll figure her out, those guys are pussies, this shit ain't hard." It was almost an out of body experience where at that moment, I knew that I was going to go in and just be different than all the other guys who apparently can't handle shit tests and that it would work.

And it was the strangest damn thing. It worked. I went in basically with Julien and Tyler from RSD as my mental coaches, and I did exactly as they instructed in their videos, and nothing phased me. It was crazy. And the fact that nothing phased me and I carried on with confidence attracted her.

One of the first obstacles she threw at me was when things went super well early on, it's like she realized 'wait a second, what's happening?' and she blurts out "listen, I'm married, and I'm not here to hook up." I just kept eye contact and stared her down, hard, and then gave her a kind of "ok, what's your point" response, and she responded again with "so I just think you need to know that..." and I was like, "Ok... so what?"

Old me would have literally been like, "my bad, sorry I flirted with you, enjoy your visit," (seriously) but new me just plowed on with the mindset of a man whose intent was clear and everything was aligned. Five minutes later she essentially initiated a kiss.

I kept passing shit tests by either ignoring them, brushing them off, turning them back against her, or, if she really stumped me, just staring at her while I thought of what to say. I would just give her my most intense "I want you" stare with a little smirk and then think of what to say or not say and move on. Sometimes I'd just tell her "yeah I'm not gonna take shit from you," and it was like I was a flame and she was a moth. One time I was testing her on something, I don't remember what, but I had put her on the spot, and I stared her down, and we held eye contact for a really long time, and I finally just said to her "I'm not gonna break eye contact here, you're gonna have to answer." She ate stuff like that up.

Early on she had started talking about how she's conservative and doesn't flaunt herself. A bit later she was telling me about how good her ass looks in certain jeans and how she's proud of her lacy panties she has on.

She kept getting more and more attracted. It was like straight out of a PUA "Building Attraction" seminar. It was insane. Like I had a new superpower or something. I would just act like the PUA experts said I should act, and she would react like they said she would. At one point, she literally grabbed me and said "The way you are handling me is so attractive. Most guys don't do that. Keep it up." She literally told me that!

So by this point, the bar is closing, but I have her hooked. We go split off from her friends and sit at a couple different places. Kino has been going the whole time (intentional effort on my part but since she was obviously into me it went both ways pretty naturally and we kissed pretty early in the night so then we were just constantly touching).

We stop at a bar in the casino to have another drink. This is where it was both the coolest experience of my life and also the biggest mistake. Attraction was sky high, so I wanted to turn it sexual and see how that went. So I did the whole "Tell me a secret" thing. She thinks, and so then I said "I'll help you... Tell me... about your first orgasm." She was quite happy to tell me, with great detail, and at the end of the story she says "so, how do I do it now, you ask?" And proceeds to tell me how she likes to get off and what her fetishes are.

She then asks me the same. As we talked and it got pretty dirty, it was literally the most attraction I have ever felt coming from a female. Like, the way she was looking at me as she got more turned on, and the way she was acting and touching me, again it was like I had a superpower that I was discovering for the first time. The coolest experience to see the PUA advice not only work but work in such an intense way.

Throughout this, she threw a couple more "listen, I'm married..." or "I'm not gonna have sex with you" tests at me. Also a couple "So why are you here with me? What is your motivation? Why did you pick me?" tests. Along with a non-stop barrage of giving me sexy eyes while telling me how cute/sexy/etc I am.

So the point of where this is going is that no, I didn't close the deal. Basically, the window was open (and yes, it was open, she even touched my cock at the bar), and it was open for a while, but it's like I was having so much fun with that step that I waited too long and inevitably, something broke the mood. Her roommate came and found her and gave her her key that she had forgotten and asked when she was coming back. Just like that, she kind of snapped back to reality and wouldn't come to my room. I'm 100% sure she would have come back had I made the move earlier.

The analogy I keep thinking of is like, if sex was walking on the moon, and I had never been to outer space, we got up to outer space, and I was like, holy shit weightlessness is awesome, and I was playing around, floating and doing flips in the shuttle, and they guys were like "hey man, we only have a small window of time where we can actually do the moon landing" and I was like "yeah just a sec, I want to savor this part for a little longer" and then just as I doing fun things like drinking water that was floating in front of me and pooping in the magic space toilet, I was about ready to go walk on the moon and they told me I waited too long, our orbit is over now. It was available, but I missed my window. But at the same time I had an AMAZING fun, educational time just experiencing weightlessness. Haha not sure if that analogy is the best but I like it.

So anyway, my chance was missed. I tried to get her up to my room but by now she was resolved not to.

All in all though, man, huge success of a night. Being able to see the PUA principles actually work, and work with such intensity, was amazing.

All that said, for anyone who is still reading, help me out. I found her name and contact info easily now that we are home. I really want to discreetly contact her. Trust me, I know that this is one of those .001% chance of success things. I'm not wanting her to leave her husband or whatever. Just wanting to see if anything at all is possible, like just being email FWBs or something. You never know if you don't try, right? So, what do you recommend when it comes to contacting her? Short message? Medium? Long message?

Thanks and I appreciate all feedback and really enjoy this forum.