We're taught by Disney films and romantic comedies that you win a woman's heart by showing how much you love her.

That's it...

And if she doesn't like it, show her MORE love.

  • Chase her to the airport and beg for her to stay with you;
  • Serenade her outside her bedroom window;
  • Send her 365 hand-written letters, then build her a house;
  • Get Will Smith to stalk her and learn every detail about her life.

Whatever it takes...

Oh, and don't you dare chase anyone else in the meantime. That would go against your mainstream belief that this woman is "The One"

In real life, women find this behaviour repulsive.

Because it's so unmasculine...

Masculinity and monogamy don't match

At its core, masculinity is about the pursuit of freedom.

The freedom to lead their own tribe. The freedom to spend time as they wish. The freedom spread their seed as far as possible.

For women, it’s different. Their best chance of successfully raising a child is with a stable partner. Their biologically programmed to chase this.

Women should be chasing monogamy, not men.

That’s why neediness for a relationship is commonly cited as a woman’s biggest turn-off. It’s inherently feminine.

Sure, there are advantages to settling down with the best woman you can find. The problem comes when you decide she’s your best option before you even know her. Women instinctively run from this needy behaviour.

Instead, they're trained to tame the alpha-male who shows he has these masculine qualities. The leader who has created a life of freedom and has the ability to date multiple women. They respond to behaviour which demonstrates this. Desperation for a relationship couldn't be further from what they're looking for.

When can you shower her with love and affection?

Don't listen to women who say they want a nice man who only wants them...Not yet anyway.

When they say this, they're picturing a man who has already shown himself to have these masculine qualities...

She wants to earn their relationship with the alpha-male. She wants to be chosen by a man who has many options. She wants to be the woman that was so amazing that this absolute champion sacrificed a lifetime of playing the field for her...

Don't couple up until you've become the guy who can get loads of girls - and then find a woman this awesome.

Even then, wait for her to ask. Deep down, she wants to be the ones forced to ask 'what are we?' because you're so reluctant to give up the single lifestyle.

Once you prove you're that champion, she'll adore the lovey-dovey behaviour from the movies.

Does 'Happily Ever After' ever exist?

I think it could...but there's no room for you to slip into 'chode mode' once you're coupled up.

Hypergamy exists. You need to remain a champion to keep those thirsty Instagram DM-sliders at bay. There's also an argument that women will only apply as much effort in the bedroom as they have to.

The only 'happily ever after' relationships are those where both halves remain their best selves continue to seduce each other.

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