Let me start with the back story:

So, it was Sunday night and I was at a bar with a couple of friends watching the bears game (go bears!). Now, I don't drink but all my friends do. I cracked a joke towards one of my friends saying if you buy me a Shirley temple I'd drink it. Well, he obliged. I'm thinking "shit, now I have to drink this girly ass drink". Meanwhile, we're all calling imaginary "dibs" on all these cute girls that we see in the bar.

Around halftime 2 of them leave and it's just me and another guy, and the waitress brought me another Shirley temple as a joke. Finally I said fuck it, "we can either sit around and call dibs or we can man up and do something about it". So here I am, Shirley temple in hand, opening up a few different girls, while my buddy and all his liquid courage sits there in amazement. By the end of the night, I scored him free drinks and had a great time chatting up random chicks (even got fairly friendly with our waitress). I opened every girl for both him and i. Failed to pick up any of the girls, but that's ok, that's not entirely the point.

The point is not to give a fuck. We also created this challenge, "The Shirley Temple challenge" because you really have to not give a fuck if you're opening/picking up women while drinking a Shirley Temple. It's going to be/feel ridiculous, you might fail like I did that night or you might succeed. But it's a fun way to teach yourself not to give a fuck (aka outcome independence), and if you're like where I was, it also means they don't charge you for the drinks.