Hey Seddit,

My question is this. I'm not trying to be a player but I got out of a long engagement and have been wanting something fun with someone else with less commitment.

I've done a lot of work on myself, have a good job, and good hygiene habits. I like to think of myself as above average attractiveness but I do have a gut.

I keep running into women who seem attracted to me but then seem to lose interest. I'm a pretty honest dude, and I'm not quite sure what I'm doing wrong.

It seems like I can hold a conversation, even go out with that person a time or two but then it's never something I can seem to close on.

I legit just want to spend a night with another person too. Not even trying for sex as the finish line, just general intimacy.

What the hell am I doing wrong?