Hey Seddit. It's amazing I've been lurking here for over a year. I want to mention how great this sub has been in all aspects of my life. So many skills I've picked up along the way that got me to meet a lot of people. I want to reiterate though that the key is actually going out there and meeting people. I've seen great success in both my social and professional life.

However I am running into a big problem that I see gets brought up around here every once and a while. I always mess things up with girls I am interested in. I've been having pretty good success meeting woman. I met this girl last weekend and had an absolute blast with her. Right before we were about to leave the bar I decided I had to kiss her and just went right in for it. I asked her out a couple days later and we went on a dinner date the next weekend. We had a lot of fun again and kissed a couple times throughout the night but that was it. At the end of the night she told me she wanted me to give a her a call to hang out again soon. I think we made plans to hang out sometime this week.

My problem is I can't get this girl out of my head. And this is the exact way I get every time I start falling for a girl and I always inevitably ruin it. I stray away from all the techniques I've learned from seddit and turn beta max. It's been an absolute struggle but I've been holding back text messages and only messaging to set up dates. I've learned that text game is almost nonexistent for me. I do much better when woman get to know me in person.

I bookmarked this post from a while back. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/15f4n2/where_guys_go_wrong_when_they_meet_a_girl_they/

It's a great read if you have similar problems. However there isn't much talk on how to prevent yourself from getting into this mindset. I think what worked so great for me on my first date was I treated her like any other girl I pick up. I was just out with her to have fun. Now that I know I enjoy this girls company and we have fun together I put all this added pressure on myself.

I have also seen a few people talk about trying to move the relationship to a sexual level sooner rather than latter. It seems to make sense. I guess if she's interested and wants to wait she will make it apparent rather than she doesn't find you sexually attractive. However I generally find that girls I sleep with right away I don't genuinely make a connection with. Then again every girl I think I make a connection with I usually end up screwing up one way or another.

I know relationships aren't brought up often here but I thought this was important for both myself and the community to remind us that just because you are trying to start a relationship doesn't mean different techniques apply. Now only if we could practice what we preach.