Hey dudes –

First, a milestone: AskSeddit just hit 2,000 readers! Whazzzzzzupppp

Nobody else join, 2,000 is a good round number. j/k

OK, so a couple days late, here's your weekly roundup of the best of AskSeddit…

"This week in AskSeddit," if you haven't seen it before, is a round-up of some of the top posts in Seddit's companion subreddit AskSeddit, which is where beginner and/or specific-situation questions on pickup and seduction should go.

Without further ado:

#1. Seddit, how do YOU isolate girls from a group?

Title is the whole question. afungi's advice was:

At a bar club: come to the bar with me. I will usually k-close shortly after taking her to the bar.

At a house party: come take a walk with me. I can usually go for the make out and maybe even foreplay and sex if the weather/environment is good.

I guess the point is that you just casually invite her to go somewhere with you. If you've been running good game, it shouldn't be hard to get her to go with you. Another point is expectation. You don't wait for her to say yes, you just turn and start walking and expect her to follow. This is important.

Emphasis mine – that's a piece I need to work on.

ThrowawayPUA also added that you don't necessarily have to physically isolate a girl if you can just get her to turn out of the set a bit so it's just the two of you talking.

#2. The unthinkable has happened.

Iwillbegreat was getting eyefucked by this girl at a German bar all night, he doesn't approach, and at the end her hot friend comes up and gives him the first girl's number. Basically a passive #-close handed to him on a silver platter. His question is, "How do I not fuck this up?"

A broad question deserves a broad answer – HoodCardigan3 commented that he'll have to bring his A-game to a day 2, if he gets one. Beyond that, bobafett573 had some good texting advice for setting a date up.

But really, the main issue is that OP didn't fucking approach. He probably could've taken her home that night! And now he's in a quasi-oneitis, how-do-I-not-mess-this-up mode instead of an abundance mentality (sounds like to me IMHO). Let that be a lesson to us all: dear god just approach girls who are eyefucking you.

#3. Many questions about kino

ilurkokcupid has read the DiCarlo escalation ladder, and is wondering how often to initiate early incidental kino (e.g. casually touching the girl's arm). And what if the girl flinches?

TIL – turns out these two things are related. According to bobafett573 at least, flinching is your feedback for whether the girl has gotten used to your incidental kino yet. If you brush her arm and she flinches, don't escalate just yet – try again in a couple minutes. Repeat until she seems comfortable with it (or blows you out, lol), and then you can do the same thing overtly or escalate to another form of kino.

(I'm sure there are dudes who can escalate more quickly than that though: discuss.)

BTW, random observation: isn't it funny how everyone has heard of the DiCarlo ladder, but I don't think I've ever heard anything else about/by him? I'd love to see the web stats for vindicarlo.com, lol.

Also: DesignMyself posted this series of videos on kino. I didn't watch 'em, but 96 YouTubers liked it, so you KNOW it's good.

Bonus post

How do I overcome involuntary blushing?

A: Go see a doctor, you might have rosacea! (Thanks ThrowawayPUA, MD)