Edit: Wow, I didn't expect quite this enthusiastic of a response, awesome! This will definitely become a regular feature then, Lord willing and the creek don't rise.

Also, I just noticed AskSeddit has gone up from 950ish subscribers last night to 999 as of this moment...

Hey all,

Some people have complained that AskSeddit posts don't get enough responses, so I thought a weekly post summarizing some of the top AskSeddit posts would be helpful in several ways.

First, it'll help AskSeddit by bringing a higher volume and quality of comments – some of these posts could have used better advice, IMHO.

Second, it should be interesting to Sedditors in general, without being too obtrusive.

And third, it'll be a non-annoying reminder that AskSeddit is the best place for most specific questions.

So here are three posts from this week (selected subjectively by me, based on upvotes, number of comments, and IMHO relevance):

#1. I was caught a bit offguard [top rated]

Basically, a dude (oozzo) is getting massively hit on by a cute nurse at his workplace, and their mutual female friend is trying to facilitate. He's practically got this girl on a silver platter, plus she's giving him free cake.

So what's the problem? Their work schedules aren't aligned, so he's not sure when he's going to have a chance to run into her again and ask her out. So he was wondering, is asking her out via Facebook an option?

ThrowawayPUA's comment was spot on, basically saying, they're trying to set you up, stop making it difficult! I wish someone would've also added, no, don't ask a girl out via Facebook unless that's really and truly your only option.

IMHO, I think he should tell his friend, "Hey, do you know when Cute Nurse is working this week? I was hoping to chat but I don't know if we're even here at the same time." Probably the friend would immediately call Cute Nurse, and they'd make it happen scheduling-wise and then inform OP when and where he's suppose to pick her up.

Would that it were always that easy...

oozoo, it would be cool to have an update if anything's happened since earlier this week.

#2. Day Game > girl hooked > how to proceed?

So AFCAFC gets an awesome response on his second direct approach ever:

Me: Hi, I wanted to say hi because I think you're cute

Her: (stunned look, thought I was gonna get blown out at this point) omggg nobody has ever told me that before!

...#-closes, and it's a solid number. How does he set up a date?

His question and the comments mostly focused on the timing (weekend vs. Monday, etc.), which I don't have strong feelings about... but I DO have strong feelings about the rule of thumb that when you're proposing a date via text, you should use declarative or imperative sentences, and propose specifics details (at least the day, and usually also time and location). OP was considering the text "Drinks? Later?" which breaks both of those rules. Something more like "Let's have drinks Thursday" is way better. If I had seen that post before now I would've contributed those two cents.

AFCAFC, an update would be cool if you have one.

#3. what change made the biggest difference in your results? [most commented]

This was an intentionally open-ended question that lead to responses like the following (in rough order of upvotes):

  • "I started doing the things I wanted to do.... I became comfortable being me again.... I remembered I'm awesome and that if one particular women doesn't want me, there will be another one that does. Abundance mentality."

  • "Looking people in the eyes. Seriously, it's so basic and so essential. How are you going to know she's into you if you don't even look at her? So much information only from the eyes. I might be going overboard with the 'look away first, shit test failed' but seriously, I prefer looking for too long rather than not enough. If you are creeping her out, you'll know, but if she is into you, the look, then the smile ... makes my day every god damn time! <sup>_</sup><sup>"</sup>

  • "Repeated humiliation. Once I got shot down about a hundred times, I stopped caring about rejection. It became meaningless to me, one rejection is like all the others. I often joke that I have the goal of being shot down a thousand times. But I really do have that as a goal. There are no failures, only learning experiences. We learn by our failures, so get busy and get out there and fail. What is important is that you are learning new skills, not that you pull any specific girl. Take care of the process, and the results will follow."

  • "For me, the realization that girls expect/want you to escalate and touch them and it's not that hard/not that scary. I've been FZ'd so hard several times by not touching girls.... What I've learned is this shit is pretty easy. Do it in relative sequence and you don't have to worry much about rejection."

  • "Learning to make life about entertaining myself."

  • "A bad breakup caused to me to go out and try to get as much random sex as possible. All I needed was a few fucks and some fuck buddies, and I've been a confident motherfucker ever since."

That last comment was downvoted actually, but I think it's a good one, and sort of true for me personally. I'm no pro, but after about 10 lays in my mid-20s, getting laid turned from this existential craving (which makes it hard to avoid oneitis, scarcity mentality, etc.) to a more healthy sort of appetite (which makes it easier to relax and have fun).

Bonus post:

I just posted an interesting question from sexxit, by a straight girl (ha!) looking for advice on how to find girls to fuck the daylights out of with a strap-on. I tried to send her here, but I don't think she came.

Basically, it poses the interesting challenge of summing up essential pickup ideas succinctly, and for a female picking up females. And since OP identifies as straight, and isn't really into most lesbians she's met, it kind of breaks the mold of "pickup for dykes" too.