Hey sedditors,

Below are the top three posts from the past week of AskSeddit questions.

AskSeddit, if you haven't seen it, is a companion subreddit to r/seduction focused on answering specific questions people have on seduction and pickup. It's especially welcoming of newbies, but people of all experience levels post.

If you have specific questions/girls you want feedback on, or if you're an advanced sedditor and willing to share the fruits of your experience (or both), consider frontpaging.

Without further ado:

#1. I'm going to a bar tonight to try to overcome my AA. Any tips/tricks?

I'm giving this one top billing, even though it wasn't quite top rated this week, because the OP (ilurkokcupid) did something awesome: he

  1. Posted a question to AskSeddit,
  2. Went out and acted on that information,
  3. And updated the post with a detailed FR of how it went.

Good show, old man!

So, on to the actual post. I have to say, this didn't seem like a super insightful, "here's the solution to AA" thread like everyone may have been hoping for, but that might be because there's nothing really do to about AA except work through it. As the top comment said,

Open immediately and constantly. Meet and befriend everyone.

And in philosarapter's words,

The trick is that there is no trick: Just do it.

Which is what OP did. Not much success this time, but he should be proud of trying, and it'll be a little easier next time. Rinse and repeat...

He also has this to be proud of: at location #2, he got up and sang karaoke for the first time in his life, and got some IOI's from girls in the crowd, and felt like a million bucks for a few minutes. (Introvert's social fatigue seemed to set in after that, which I can totally appreciate.)

#2. How do you make friends and build a social circle? I hear that's important. [top rated]

KcMasterpeace is a pretty cool guy, but he wants to make more friends and have a social circle where people seek him out to hang out, instead of him having to initiate. The top rated comment emphasized being high value, and paraphrased the following advice from the movie "The Tao of Steve":

  1. Be desireless - don't attach any importance to making a new friend. Desperation reeks, and its not a good smell.
  2. Be excellent - you seem to have this one covered =)
  3. Be gone - its always better to be less available than more available. Always offer an alternative time if you do want to cultivate that friendship.

Not sure about that movie, but those three points seem pretty legit :)

I would also add, just like with women, friends may not always be initiating contact first, because 98% of people (males included) aren't leaders, and would rather follow someone else's lead. As long as your friends are saying yes to your hang-out ideas, IMHO things are good, even if they aren't frequently taking the initiative.

#3. Any Sedditors in long term relationships? What made her special compared to any other girl?

The short answer is: Yes. Some (OK, one) of the comments may surprise you.

Several commenters said when you find that girl, you'll just know, and frogma added that you need lots of experience – another meaning of "numbers game" – until you find that girl you just click with. More from his comment:

Girls always have unique quirks that tend to bug the hell out of me. When you meet a girl whose quirks don't bug you, or if those annoying quirks become turn-ons for you, that's when you know. But it takes experience with as many girls as possible for you to really know.

Bonus post

Any of you tried speed dating? It seems like it might be good for guys with game. Or AA. [most commented]

Posted by yours truly. My takeaway from the comments was basically, it can be fun, but there might not be many attractive girls. But if you do it, and hit it off with a girl, bounce her (or at least #-close) on the spot, instead of relying on the "official" matching/scoring system.