I started reading seddit about 2 years ago. I had no self confidence back then. Now Im still no master PUA But I've done a few things that have with out question helped my game and over all made me happier with life.

  • Acne. at 26 years old I still had worst acne then most teenage boys. A 6 month treatment of Accutane has forever changed my appearance for the better. Im not in bars or clubs anymore thinking about how I'm the only one there with a pimple or canceling a night out because I feel defeated when one shows up thinking "whose gonna want to go home with that"

  • Depression. I suffered from it during my younger teenage years and was medicated for it. 2 years ago I decided to go to my doctor and reevaluate the condition to see if going back on medication would be a good idea. it was. not having that dark cloud over my head and not being in a state of the slightest wrong thing can send me in a downward spiral has allowed me to be more active in my life style.

  • ADHD. I very recently started treatment for it. I had trouble not having a filter on my mouth sometimes, being fidgety and more. My doctor says its not uncommon for depression medication to uncover ADHD and ADHd medication to uncover depression. I feel more in control of myself and with that control I feel more confident to be able to fill that alpha male role to approach women.

-Activities. Forever I was a pretty one track person, focused/obsessed with my career and industry. Mind you its a very interesting field with many perks and access to celebrities that women would want to tag along just for the chance at a glimpse. But it made me very one dimensional and difficult to have conversations with out having to relate everything to my job. So I went out and found an adventurous side to my self. I fell in Love with SCUBA diving, and trust me seeing a beautiful woman in a wetsuit is surprisingly hot. I've gone skydiving. Took up saltwater coral reef tank keeping for a while. Lots of stuff other than sitting in front of a computer or a TV. Stuff that is either adventurous or improves my brain and keeps me learning. Traveling and experiencing what other places have to offer. Kinda of a you only live once mentality. Girls seem to find this attractive as its interesting than their day to day lives. when I talk about it, I try not to put down their lives ("what do you like to do for fun" "go out with my girls and shopping") while promoting my active interesting lifestyle. One more thing, be passionate about the things you do. They love that. If he can show so much passion about scuba diving, i wonder what kind of passion he can show to his lover.

-Reaching the What the fuck do I have to loose point. I think getting this is different for everyone. and can be difficult to find. I think my previous bullet points all helped lead me here. I don't feel so outcome dependent as I have other things to look forward to. Oh well I didn't leave with a girl tonight but I have to get up early for a dive tomorrow anyways so the sleep will be good for that. When you are not outcome dependent, you won't be desperate, and that will show. You are the prize for the girl. You are a rare 1 of a kind guy thats intriguing, she'd be lucky to experience part or all of that journey with you. But you are humble to an extent about it. Your excited about your life but not putting down others for their choices of how to live their own. "everyone has their own path to travel" When you are outcome dependent you turn into that douchebag that all girls hate that just wants to get her in pants. When you are outcome independent you don't care if you sleep with her or not. Would it be nice? Yes. But its not the goal.

This isn't a one size fits all type of thing. Seduction and self improvement never will be. But It's what Ive found really helps me and hopefully will give you some ideas of paths to explore that you wouldn't have before.