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[–]lithiumcow 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
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Wait. Strange girls?
[–]rustyoldtimer 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Aha strange girls is just an old expression. They are strangers, in fact.
So, I haven't gone up to girls in years. Actually, that's an understatement. I haven't gone up to girls, EVER. All my hookups and girlfriends have been girls I knew through friends or whatever.
So I was a nervous wreck walking in(to the library). I found a pair of sorority chicks. One was a 10, the other one a solid 7. Took me ten minutes to finally build up the courage to approach them, but I did with the sole purpose of asking how to talk/approach girls from their perspective. I took notes, literally, and they were really cool lol. I feel way more confident about talking to hot girls already.
[–]lithiumcow 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You know, we've all been there. It's like jumping on a bicycle for the first time, very few actually succeed while most of us end up in a brick wall. Butthurt.
I posted in your other thread you created, but I'll give you some tips here as well. I usually analyze what I do and go through the interaction in my head. I notice these things, maybe I just pick out one thing, that I feel needs improvement and I focus on improving that aspect in the next interaction with the next girl. This is how you learn and this is how you make progress.
It's important to adopt the mindset of not fearing rejection. Rejection is and should be a tool to help you not end up in a relationship with someone that doesn't match you or doesn't live up to your standard. Welcome and embrace it.
I've been in situations where the interaction goes so quick that I can't actually remember anything of it due to nervousness. It happens. It's okay. I can recommend reading this. It's essentially a /r/LucidDreaming technique but it helps you alot with being aware of your day to day life.
It's very wearying in the beginning but well worth it in the long run. Especially when you start to notice that girls actually picks up on this and can't for the life of them realize how you occasionally can read their minds. It's a whole new level of listening.
[–]rustyoldtimer 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is probably my biggest problem in life. I fear rejection, not just with girls, with everyone. It's a fucking plague in my mind. It's also a big part of social anxiety, which I am overcoming. I've made leaps and bounds in terms of progress with that.
I've been in situations where the interaction goes so quick that I can't actually remember anything of it due to nervousness. It happens.
This happened to me today from the first second I opened my mouth, to the first second they opened theirs. I was so deep in the zone, I don't even remember what the fuck happened.
Can't wait for this to come about, and I will read into the article you sent me. I am actually subscribed to /r/LucidDreaming. I haven't been following through with it though. Thank you for all the input! :)
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