Just got out of a relationship so fairly new to the game. Could use an assessment
Just moved to a new city last week and matched with a girl on tinder. Exchanged a few messages over a few days, then I asked her for coffee on sunday. Wasnt even going for a hookup just wanted to go on a date. To my surprise she suggested drinks that night (saturday). I was meeting with a buddy, but we exchanged #s to maybe meet up later.
I texted her and we met at a bar. Had a few drinks. Heavy body language signals - rapid irregular blinking, fiddling with hair, necklace, clothes. Actually little physical/verbal flirting, most convo was standard first date shit. We went back to my hotel with the intent of hitting the bar there.
Shockingly, the bar was closed. We sat there for a few talking, then went up to the room. In the room we sat on the couch and then it was pretty much over. Started making out instantly then on the bed in a few mins. The sex was great, she actually rolled over after and said that was amazing. Lots of sexyal chemistry. We tried to go for round 2 but I couldnt get hard lol. Made out and cuddled a bit more, then i drove her home.
Here's the advice part. I think i maintained the power dynamic when we were in person. She was very into me, and i was always the one to pull away first from cuddling/kissing.
I texted her evening after, simple had a great time, should hang out again type text. She responded agreeing, and said (unprompted) she would "probably" have some time this weekend.
No texts over the week. I texted her on friday last night asking how her week was and if she was free this weekend. She said she "should be free sunday evening" and asked how my week was. I responded, and asked some BS question about the area, but havent gotten a reply yet.
Now I know that doesnt look too bad. And we'll see what happens when Sunday rolls around. But what concerns me is the change in texting behavior. Pre-date it was 10 min replies, never leaving me on read, etc. Now its hour+ replies, texting doesnt seem as invested, and the ambiguities "probably" "should be".
I'm trying to navigate this into a fwb situation as I want to build a roster. Whats the read on this? Is there anything wrong with my text game? Or is the outcome out of my hands? Best advice for next steps? If i dont receive a reply, i plan to just call her sunday midday and propose a place & time
Thanks for reading
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