Maybe or maybe this isn’t my problem but I think I give off too much of a friendly vibe. In an attempt to start meeting people in general, I took up dancing and started attending the socials. I find when I try to flirt with women, it doesn’t have the effect I want.

I was talking to a girl and telling her where I’m from and she said she would not have guessed that because the men from the culture are usually egotistical but I was kind and nice. I smile and laugh a lot when I talk, conversation is usually the standard platonic stuff, I’ll throw I teases but they tend to fall flat. I then notice other guys talking to the exact same girl I just talked to and they’re both laughing and talking lengthily, what’s the secret? I’m overall quiet and somewhat asocial but I don’t have approach anxiety per se, my anxiety is from knowing the convo will be boring so why bother.