I’ve noticed a lot of guys here are absolute, have no idea what the fuck they are doing, beginners. To help you guys out, I decided to post some tips for beginners.

1) Take a month off from trying to get laid. This may seem counterintuitive for a beginner, but let me explain: the reason most of you guys are here, and the reason most of you suck at girls, is probably because you are desperate and its obvious when you interact with girls. I imagine a lot of you are aggressive, pushy, needy, sad, and robotic when you trying to get girls. There is nothing creepier or unattractive than a zombie who only wants to fuck. You are also probably way too “in your own head” because you are freaking out about your failures and stuff. The best thing you can do to get out of your slump is just to take a month off from trying to fuck girls. You should still go out, meet people, etc..., but stop TRYING to get laid. And by stop trying, I mean really stop trying. Even if a girl is digging you, don’t take that next step. Keep playing it cool unless she says something crazy like “I want to come home with you and fuck.”

2) Get some girl friends – by that, I mean platonic girl friends that you do not try to fuck. Let me repeat: you need girl friends that YOU DO NOT TRY TO FUCK. In fact, I would even go so far as to approach girls in a club or bar and explicitly say you just want friends. First off, the best practice in talking to girls is... talking to girls. Second, you are infinitely more attractive to girls when they see that you have girl friends ... it’s kind of like your friends are vouching that you are not a creep. Third, it’s good practice to spend time with girls without trying to fuck them – you will learn to look less desperate. For a lot of you, it will really help your self-esteem to actually have a healthy relationship with a girl where they respond to your texts and make time to hang out with you. And make time to hang out with your girl friends. I promise that if you do this, chances are 1) some of your friends will want to fuck you (don’t) and 2) your friends will introduce you to more girls.

3) Control your emotions. Women bring out men’s strongest and craziest emotions – the desire for love, acceptance, our ego, our sex drive, our fear of rejection, etc... Women ruin tons of guy’s lives because they lose control of their emotions. If you are going to go out and consistently try to get laid you need to control your emotions because you WILL face rejection, insults, existential angst, etc.... I imagine a lot of you are in emotional death spirals where you are just depressed, angry, horny, lonely, desperate, unstable, etc...You need to fix that shit and become fundamentally emotionally stable first. If you are going out every night, getting angry at women, getting way too drunk, etc..., you are probably not emotionally stable enough to do this.

4) Don't change who you ARE - There is a big temptation right when you are starting out to try to become a completely different person. People read a bunch of PUA shit and they want to do ALL of it at once and they end of becoming some goofy, dumb character. Don't do that. You may suck at getting girls, but you are still a decent person and you can't relearn everything about how to act and talk. At the end of the day, a girl will only fuck you because you are unique in some way, and if you try to erase that to become some PUA automaton, then you will lose whatever is unique about you. Studying PUA is about tweaking little things about yourself, not becoming a completely different person. The best way to go about self-improvement is to focus one or two little things at a time, and then work on those things until they become a habit. Once something is ingrained as a solid habit, THEN you can learn something else. But trying to cram everything in at once won’t work because 1) you won’t remember it all, 2) you won’t “absorb” it, and 3) some of the shit you read might be wrong and you won’t be able to figure that out when you started doing 1000 things differently one day.

5) Keep an open mind. This is incredibly important. You need to be able to accept new advice and ideas and be able to eliminate things you’ve been doing that don’t work. The biggest thing that holds a lot of guys back is their own ego. Most guys don’t want to admit that they suck at getting girls or that there is a better way to do things. Men’s self-esteem is intimately tied into their ability to get girls, so on a subconscious level most guys can’t accept that they’ve been doing it all wrong this whole time. Guys resist my advice all the time, saying shit like “I know what I’m doing bro,” or “I fucked a 10 last week, I’m good” etc... You have to reject that mindset. No matter how awesome you are, you need to be able to reject something that you’ve been doing forever if its not smart. Keep an open mind when you are reading PUA stuff. Even if a piece of advice sounds like complete nonsense to you, don’t write it off.

6) Try to form one or two good habits. Start small. Pick a time every week to go to the gym and then stick to that plan. Like I said, this type of advice isn’t “sexy” because everybody wants to become a completely different person on day one but in reality you have to take baby steps and put one foot in front of the other. You won’t start getting real confidence until you start improving and showing results.

7) Start an awesome hobby – I hear the same thing from a lot of guys: I don’t have anything to offer, I’m not impressive in any way, why would a girl pick me, etc... Here’s how you fix that: start an awesome hobby that you enjoy and that girls will be impressed by. Do you like EDM music? Download a computer program and start making it. Do you like comedy? Go to an open mike and start doing stand up. Do you like MMA? Start doing jiu-jitsu. I’m sure that a lot of you are thinking “that’s easy to say, but I’m going to suck.” You probably will suck, but it won’t matter because just by starting something awesome you are already ahead of 99% of the population. Second, everybody sucks at first. If you do anything for long enough and focus on it enough, you will get good eventually. Third, you are not doing it to be “good,” you are doing it because its fun and because its boosts your confidence. You don’t even need to tell girls you do it. Fourth, you don’t even need to show girls how good you are. If you tell a girl that you do jiu-jitsu, she’ll be impressed even if you suck.

A big reason you guys have such little confidence is because you automatically assume you can’t do awesome things. You need to get rid of that mindset. Think of your favorite EDM DJ (or whatever musician you admire). He wasn’t born with any magical ability. He just started doing something and now he is awesome at it. There is nothing stopping from you from doing the same. You are lucky that its 2016 and you are living in a modern country where the opportunities are limitless.

8) Look at the game as just that – a game. I know tons of guys who waste hours and hours on videogames or computer games and become awesome at those games, but those same guys suck at their job and things that they actually need to do. Why is that? It’s because games are fun – there is no pressure to succeed, there are no consequences for failure, and there is nobody to judge you. Well, why don’t you just look at all of life as a game? Nothing “bad” is going to happen if a girl rejects you. As long as you don’t get punched, you are fine (I’ve actually been punched for talking to a girl, and it is not that bad). It’s like a video game where you have infinite lives.

9) Learn one thing from every failure. You are probably getting rejected a lot, and rejection (or failure in general) makes most people spiral into a pit of depression, anger and frustration. The only way you can avoid this is by trying to get something good out of the rejection – and that’s a lesson. Every time something goes wrong, try to learn one thing that you did wrong. Just make sure it’s a real lesson and you are not just teaching yourself self-defeating ideas like “you should never approach girls”. If you do that every time you get rejected, you will get infinitely better at the game.

10) Stop reading PUA shit. Most PUA shit is poison – it’s either incorrect, so vague its unhelpful, so obvious its unhelpful, or its some specific shit that only applied to the person who wrote it. A lot of PUA material is also too superficial – it’s easy to tell somebody to be “confident” but when somebody is depressed and has serious self-image issues they need some deeper advice to figure out exactly what is keeping them from being confident. Furthermore, as somebody who writes PUA shit, I tell you that a lot of PUA shit is pandering – it’s technically incorrect but the authors know that that’s what people want to read, so they keep giving more to them. For example, any article that claims to help you with “text game” is bullshit – there is no such thing as text game.

Like I said earlier, your best bet is to learn small things and slowly incorporate those ideas into who you are, rather than to read a bunch of stuff and get burnt out.

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