What a few months it's been -- went from a 1yr+ dry spell to now having 3 solid plates of cute, interesting girls who I've gone on multiple exciting dates with each.

Everytime we banged though, I felt like I was nervous and just having sex with them because it's customary and they wanted it. Hence it wasn't really like sex was coming about naturally -- I just knew as a man I had to do my part in these dynamics.

One of the plates I got is really great and I want to spend a lot more time with her than the others. But I want to enjoy sex with her as opposed to feel like I'm still at the beginning "stage" of sex as a novel thing. How do I transition it from nervous first-time sex and more relaxed casual sex where we both have more fun and care less about performance?