Saw a few posts in this vein this morning, so here's a quick rundown of what the friendzone is and how to avoid it.

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Mainly what is being described with the term "friendzone" is a relationship where the girl believes a guy is only good enough for platonic emotional support. If a guy finds himself in the friendzone, ultimately the blame is on him. Don't get angry about it, just analyze what you did wrong, learn from it, and move on.

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The major issue with guys who consistently get friendzoned is that they are the male equivalent of a slutty girl. Slutty girls give out their sexual value without requiring the necessary quid pro quo emotionally to make the guy treat them right: take them out, date them, even marry them, etc. On the flip side, males who get friendzoned give out their emotional support without requiring the necessary quid pro quo sexually to make the girl treat them right: put out for them, respect them, want them, etc.

To avoid having this happen, you need to maintain a high value mindset. You must interact with girls as if they are an abundant resource (which they are) competing for YOUR time. Keep the frame of mind found within asking "why should this girl deserve my time?" (read that as earnest, not asshole-ish). Girls will react to that frame and consider your high value and thus respect you as a sexual threat.

On a technical side, guys who get friendzoned never establish premise. They never let the girl know they are interest, so the girl never sees them as a potential mate. To avoid this, if you find yourself in a conversation that is going well but is platonic, start establishing premise just by saying something light and bantering like "I just noticed, you're kinda cute. Do you consider yourself an adventurous person?" (Generally they'll say "Yes, of course.") "So, you'd be down for drinks and witty banter sometime with a cute guy?" (Generally they'll laugh and say yes, or they will shit test you if you haven't built value) "Cool, what's your schedule like next week?" (Yada, yada, exchange numbers, text her immediately so she knows it's your number, and boom you're on your way to your next date).

Know the friendzone better so you can better avoid the friendzone.