I'm going to tell you guys the story of this specific girl I'm seeing but it's not a question exclusively about that girl. It's just the only way I can ask the question. I like to analyze these confusing situations with gals, it helps things go smoothly next time.

I've casually hooked up with this work gal a few times recently and as far as I can tell she's loving it. The first time was probably the best sex I've ever had. The second time was thoroughly disappointing for both of us because of some marijuana-induced whiskey dick. The third time I was very sleep-deprived and not really in the mood, but after many hours of chilling she gave me the greatest blowjob of my life.

So that's where I'm at. I feel extremely satisfied with what she's doing for me....but do I tell her that? I'm sitting here looking at this text message from her that is basically saying "I'm not really sure what I've done for you". I want her to keep working her ass off to satisfy me but I also don't want her to feel like what she's doing isn't working.

Ideas for approaching the situation:

  1. "Obviously nothing, better try harder ;)" "Meh, had better" Poke fun and leave things open-ended.

  2. "There's seriously any doubt that what you've been doing isn't working?" "You're joking, right?" Validates and makes her feel good.

  3. "It blew my my mind when you did x....." Validates and turns the conversation sexual.

Thoughts? Hopefully this isn't too much of a "How do I bang this specific girl?" post.