Wait to approach?

Trapsezoid · 2020-06-26T13:42:34+00:00

No, sir. Looks get your foot in the door much easier but the main objective of approaching is to develop your abilities to socialize with people effectively. Perfectionism (I.e. waiting for the optimal conditions) is a thin veil for fear. Get out there and kill it, king.

saltypepper128 · 2020-06-26T13:45:11+00:00

Nope. You have no idea what a random individual will think is attractive. The sooner you start playing the game, the sooner the odds will work out in your favor

quinnmcd · 2020-06-26T13:48:38+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

norwegiandoggo · 2020-06-26T13:55:35+00:00

I just realized IRL has way more high quality women than online.

That seems like a weird assessment in my eyes. In my experience, most single women in real life looking to date are on also on a dating app. So the people that are available online are exactly the same as those available in real life.

The problem, in my opinion, is there seems to be more competition.

Again, I don't see what you mean by this because on dating apps thousands of guys are swiping. Whereas in real life almost no one approach girls in real life. So again, I would say that online dating has a lot more competition from other guys.

The baddest chicks are mostly taken by the cut/muscular guys who look like they’ve been lifting for 8+ years.

Okay, so now you're talking about girls who already have a boyfriend..these are not available to you in real life nor in dating apps. So I don't understand why you think these are "higher quality". They're not available. So it's a terrible quality prospect for dating.

I’m just wondering if I should hold off on dating for a few years until my body is nearly perfected?

You can have plenty of success in dating with an average body. You don't need a lot of muscles to get a really high quality girl. You just need to be attractive. And the shape of your body is just a smaller portion of what makes a man attractive

MelodicDepartment8 · 2020-06-26T14:05:28+00:00

RL has way more high quality women than online

Your absolutely right...

The baddest chicks are mostly taken by the cut/muscular guys who look like they’ve been lifting for 8+ years.

Muscles have very little to do with attracting women. I mean it doesn't hurt but definitely don't compare yourself to others as a way of self sabotage..

I’m just wondering if I should hold off on dating for a few years until my body is nearly perfected?

I used to think like that, but your body will never seem "perfect" no matter how much you do, to be honest if you don't already have self love and you are under the assumption that self love and positive self image is likened to some kind of medal/award that you have to suffer for years in the gym to finally attain and be happy and confident, then you may end up doing more harm than good to your overall well being and I'm I'm saying this cause I know from experience, I was going to the gym everyday almost but even tho I felt so great and positive, I slipped into the dark side of my being. I dropped out of college, moved away from family stopped caring about what I ate and put drugs in my body back to you tho so I'd say that likely won't happen to you, but my main point is that you already are perfect and worthy and beautiful right now, you always have and always will be. So don't stop working out but STOP comparing yourself to the progress of others. Instead maybe try to talk to these guys and if they are as strong hearted as their muscles than look up them as a source of inspiration, and yeah if you really

MelodicDepartment8 · 2020-06-26T14:16:08+00:00

I’m just wondering if I should hold off on dating

If you have to even ask that question I think you've already answered it... try to not think of females in any kind of romantic way until you start getting more comfortable with the man in the mirror. Just find hobbies, keep working out (for non superficial? reasons) hopefully lol anyways this advice is coming from someone who has been a piece of shit deadbeat father for a couple years now and I just started to rise to be responding in such a way that you can see my perspective .

Title	Wait to approach?
Author	Goldfielddid911
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	June 26, 2020 1:32 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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