What am I doing wrong?

dGasim · 2012-05-20T21:53:01+00:00

whenever I'm looking for a relationship, I seem only like a friend.

Sounds like you're projecting neediness. If you're usually getting a hookup per party, then it's unlikely you have some serious inner game issue or something. It just sounds like you're getting a bit needy when you start wanting a relationship past a casual hookup.

I think the other guys are looking waaaay too deeply into your post. It's stuff that can be worth thinking about, but for a situation like this, I think it's going unnecessarily deep.

InferiousX · 2012-05-20T21:02:13+00:00

Your edit confused the shit out of me.

So are you saying you still get laid but can't find a relationship? Because that's a different question.

themoor · 2012-05-20T17:51:28+00:00

You are probably not putting out a sex vibe in your interactions with women. You do not necessarily have to do this immediately, but you are probably not doing it all. You are probably being friendly and cordial and women are responding in kind.

Do you talk in a straight forward, logical manner? Yeah, that doesn't turn women on. You need to spike their emotions sometimes.

Are you physical with women? That is, do you know how to playfully touch them at the right time, in the right way?

Do you stay in conversations too long when you first meet them? Stay in only about 10 minutes tops, break the rapport and return later. You need to intrigue them, make them miss you, and then come back and give them more of yourself.

Are you funny? Women love to laugh, but don't turn into the comedian. Women are not made hot and bothered by jokers.

If you do get a woman into a conversation and she's clearly interested, do you isolate? That is, do you get her to a new location where you and her can talk one-on-one? That's always a good way/place to turn up the sexual tension...kino, teasing, closing up body space, etc.

Well, those are just some things off my head. I'm sure other guys here will have advice for you too.

plushsicle · 2012-05-20T19:35:08+00:00

This may not be the problem, but I think it's worth pointing out.

I'm a theatre major, and I'm super good at acting.

I imagine you only thought that relevant to mention because you're under the misconception that the game is about "acting" or acting like someone you're not.

There's your problem right there. The game isn't about acting, it's about being. You have to be real, you can't act.

rmbarnes · 2012-05-21T09:37:22+00:00

Well you use the word 'super' too much for one thing.

Title	What am I doing wrong?
Author	throwawaynub
Upvotes	11
Comments	7
Date	May 20, 2012 5:45 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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