I often have boring conversations with girls, mostly boring . There is no spark, no commanding, no chemistry not sexual , rarely playfulness.

What can I do to change it? How do I make it less typical and boring "aunt" or "hairdresser"? Just asking about her major etc is not fun.

I know general advice to self amuse but it's too general for me.

Can you share something go to or specific advice? I'm thinking of being much more aggressive but it's not me YET and not always possible (eg. Often at university)

Edit: and of course 'what do I say next' syndrome because she's bored and doesn't give me much and I can't really self amuse myself to game myself and not care if she's there