The old chestnut...girls I'm into don't seem to have much time for me, whereas girls I'm not very interested in appealing towards often seem drawn to me.

"Maybe you're just going for higher quality girls?"

Actually, I'm into chubby and skinny fat chicks who should, in theory, have lower self esteem and less competition than conventionally thin and fit/toned girls.... yet those are the main demographic I attract (as well as actual huge fat women).

Most guys would be stoked with that but I'm not.

So I simply must be sabotaging myself somehow. I'm just not sure how exactly - I feel like I act the same?

That's a specific situation and I know this subreddit isn't about that, but It opens up a more general question...

What are a few less obvious ways that guys sabotage themselves when interacting with someone they want to impress?