What are your tips for creating an engaging conversation? How to make a conversation a flow experience?

lions_of_fitness · 2018-06-20T23:02:45+00:00

Id recommend everyone here to read: "How to Win Friends and Influence People" legitimately change the course my life. There was a chapter on there on the key to being a great conversationalist: be a great listener. Becoming genuinely interested in other people by asking them questions about subjects that they hold dear to them. Im into fitness and pickup and if someone were to ask me questions about why im so involved in these subjects.. I could go ON and ON AND ON FOR DAYS.

ebaymasochist · 2018-06-20T19:21:32+00:00

It seems like the key to good conversation is to only acknowledge a few of the things the other person says at a time, then if you come to a point where there would be silence you come back to something they said before. The other person might have thought you weren't really listening or care enough to talk about it, or wouldn't remember. So it's a nice surprise for them when you come back to it later. It's even better when done subtly. Like she says 5 things about herself and one of them is she has a dog. You also have a dog.. Don't mention it right away. A few minutes later, things slow down. You say "I wonder if our dogs would get along or fight like we do".. There's alot going on in that statement.. A lot of people would have taken the first opportunity to qualify themselves by saying they have so much in common or whatever.. But you save it for when it's needed most.

yellowidiot314 · 2018-06-21T07:54:54+00:00

Try and include a funny anecdote every 30 seconds to 1 minute, or a joke to break the ice. Then after 10-15 minutes say you need to go, get her number and leave.

hunterpua · 2018-06-21T17:41:15+00:00

Unfortunately Csikszentmihalyi is not a dating coach.

If you want to enter a flow state in conversation, you really need the right partner. That said, there is a way to raise the odds of both of you hitting flow, find commonalities. When you land on a topic that both of you are really into things just...flow.

The right partner thing though......I mean that's what happened with me and my last girlfriend. I was trying really hard to use game when we were first dating but I just didn't need to. Everything was just so natural between us which is why I chose her.

Title	What are your tips for creating an engaging conversation? How to make a conversation a flow experience?
Author	stratomaster
Upvotes	10
Comments	6
Date	June 20, 2018 12:08 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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