What do I do stop wondering what’s wrong with me?

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-08-24T20:03:43+00:00

What do I do stop wondering what’s wrong with me?

Like is this normal enough to think every now and then or do I need to some work still?

Our brains are shit , stupid and disgusting things.

Example : Last month I pulled 4 girls that were far and beyond what I thought was possible.

This month I barely pulled a 8.

I thought for 2 days that I lost my magic and game. Until my dad told me that “shit happens” and “to stop acting like a bitch”

Our brains are stupid. They over analyse shit. Put pressor on us for no reason.

Example 2: A year or so ago I was opening and hooking around 80% of the sets I opened.

My stupid brain had decided that a risk of 1/5 not opening was the only risk it would take. And I got aproceh anxiety for the first time (that is in 15 years).

I had to beat it into my head (by on purpose getting a massive L streak) that 0.0001% chance was good enough.

Example 3 : I pulled a literal 10 once (disregarding recent events )

I had this mental hiccup that I only OPEN 10 now . I literary thought that 10 were the only things on my level. This spiralled into 7 years of constant improvements in my game. And up until recently I didn’t pull a second 10.

NOTE : that is when I was fat and short and sorta girly.

In your case :

Everyone always asks me how I can’t cause I’m tall, fit, good hair and “handsome”

This people are putting dumb as fuck things in your head.

Yes good for you being pretty and all, BUT you still have to learn the skill of pulling. It is a skill it can be learned.

Those people ,in their pursuit to be nice, are actively making you mentally unwell.

srwat · 2024-08-24T19:26:09+00:00

You have to let the pressure of failing out of your mind. It is one of the biggest things that'll sabotage you. Be excited and feel proud to fail as every time you do, you will get better as long as you pay attention. Your reward will be learning from each and every time you do fail.

Usually you kind of want to get some kind of thing into a conversation that could lead to the possibility of someone wanting to go with you without any pressure. Let's say you talk about some kind of band earlier on in a conversation. You then go to leave at a high point (and be willing to actually leave even if she isn't going to go with you) that you're going to go listen to the band on your vinyl or something (something unique that ties the previous conversation into an innocent activity), then just say to her "you know what, you're cool, let's go check out >> whatever track you guys were vibing about earlier << at my place, I got it on vinyl <--- not exactly like this, but don't ask it as a question. If she doesn't want to, stick to what you're going to do. Don't back track. Leave that area for the night, alone if you failed, and stick to what you said. Keep it as a lesson that you probably didn't have her excited enough, and remember it next time or rephrase the way you string it together next time for whoever you talk up next.

You're going to fail a lot, and that's okay. It's normal even. It's going to happen a lot. It's you learning how to vibe.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-08-24T20:28:50+00:00

How do you invite them home? It's probably the way you ask. Look at your behavior first, before you begin thinking there's something wrong with you.

No-Preference8767 · 2024-08-24T22:36:29+00:00

Wait just to be clear your saying you do take girls home with you but it's sporadic or your saying you don't take girls home with you at all ?

Title	What do I do stop wondering what’s wrong with me?
Author	nintendoborn1
Upvotes	5
Comments	16
Date	August 24, 2024 7:10 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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