What does she mean by this?

Big_D_yup · 2018-01-04T21:46:51+00:00

Just read what you wrote.

SaintTriangleFace · 2018-01-04T21:59:31+00:00

She's fucking with you. IMO, the negatives here far outweigh the positives and she sounds like a pain to be around. Drop her and move on, she's clearly only causing you frustration.

samonesto · 2018-01-04T22:09:30+00:00

She really misses her ex when she is drunk, and you are there soo

Sorry but she doesn't like you, find another girl.

OVOTiti · 2018-01-04T22:01:39+00:00

Forget her. Get her out of your head ASAP.

kylerosa21 · 2018-01-04T23:08:13+00:00

If you establish a mindset of abundance and value yourself enough to the point where you know you can get other women, you won’t feel so reliant on female attention coming from one specific girl.

From the looks of it, rating yourself a 4/10 doesn’t seem confident enough. Who cares if her ex is a 9/10? You need to always see yourself as better than any other guy and act in such a way. You can never let another guy undermine you, rather, you need to undermine him. If she likes him over you, you have to see it as her loss and your gain.

That said, forget about the girl and make her see what she missed out on by her acts.

bottlecappedreal · 2018-01-04T22:00:23+00:00

I used to be like you, starving for attention from woman but you really just have to let it go. She's not interested and she just keeps you around as a friend or because she has to. When you guys go out just try to get with a 2 or a 3 and get some confidence out of that. Do things that get you confident like working out r/fitness and improving your looks. She doesn't like you

TheyCallMeXerok · 2018-01-05T00:02:03+00:00

This is very, very sad.

aznology · 2018-01-04T23:59:48+00:00

shes bread crumbing you bro. 2 plays you can make. Lets be honest there just there to fuck her. Play 1: Man the fuck up and fuck her Play 2: Freeze her out, no contact her show her, you got other shit going on then this fishy hoe. Play 3: Man the fuck up and say I ain't your ex I'm "Your name"

allAboutMentality · 2018-01-05T01:55:15+00:00

Ignore her. If she wants you, she’ll make the effort to try to keep in contact with you which is a win. If not, then you can slowly forget about her. Win-win.

Love_Summer · 2018-01-05T14:50:49+00:00

She likes the attention and she likes to feel like the "popular girl" who can dominate the unpopular people (like in high-school) and also, when they're very drunk, people will flirt with a cactus, so you should just ignore what happens when she's drunk. Do not grab her wrist and whatnot, like I've seen suggested in another comment, just stay away from her, she sounds like a horrible person, by the way she's treating you and probably many other people. It's OK to not like someone, it's not OK to treat them like garbage. I'd say not to try to engage in any social activity with her, just say 'hi' and 'bye' and 'excuse me', if she's asking you something answer only the necessary and don't go any further, use a serious tone of voice, don't respond to her jokes, don't laugh to please her, don't smile when she's being rude. I know this is a 'seduction" subreddit, but she obviously doesn't respect you as a person (I don't think it's you, she's probably not very nice to begin with) so I think you should put on some walls. I'd say to confront her when she;s being rude, but I'm anxious and shy and it would probably be very difficult for me and I kind of think it would be for you too, but if you could do it, without sounding like a cry-baby, that would be great. Nothing too fancy or heroic or "alpha", just maybe roll your eyes and asked in a bored look, like you would a child who throws tantrums all the times "oh, come on, what are you, five?" (like that thing she does with shush-ing you when you say something funny is very immature).

Maybe once you establish some social boundaries with her she'll be able to see you from a romantic perspective also, even though I doubt it and I very much think you're not losing anything.

As a side note: I and my women friends have many times been attracted by men in our social circle who were not tall or fit or had great hair or handsome faces, but they were funny or witty or really smart (not /iamverysmart kind of smart) or nice (nor /niceguy kind of nice) or confident or you know, things that make you look positive... If you're not good looking, you would not be observed in a club, on the street, etc, but you have chances to pop out (I hope that's the term) in a social circle (at work, for example). Just do not try to gain the attention of hot bullies, that makes you look very needy and unattractive :( Also, I guess you're pretty young? Invest in yourself, clothes, haircuts, hygiene, culture, most probably a therapist... (like, motivational books and alone are great, but feeding "alpha male" info into somebody that is very scared and angry might turn you away from women, not close.

Maybe you're gonna be unsuccessful and alone for a while (some years?) and it's gonna sucks, but it does get better if you get better. The time passes anyway, the years pass anyway :)

Lambdal7 · 2018-01-04T22:55:29+00:00

Next time she does something sexual, be really alpha with her, say shut the fuck up (in a joking way), grab her waist and let go again.

This will make her feel very startled since she didnt expect it from you to be so manly. Tease her hard, but the stop and be nice again. Give her a little kiss. She needs this push and pull.

But don't get hopes up too much, it probably won't work out, maybe, but you can learn a lot from interacting with her.

Title	What does she mean by this?
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Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	January 4, 2018 9:05 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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