**Pardon my grammar. I am typing this at work quickly on my cell phone during lunch.

Hey r/seduction,

I would really appreciate your ideas to improve my game. I am here asking for your help and motivation.

Background:

I migrated to Canada from India around 10 years ago. At that time I was 14 and went straight to grade 10 in Canada. I have been dealing with social anxiety ever since. Even though it is getting better each year. In school, I had a total of 4 female friends (1 white, 3 brown) and about 5 brauhs. During high school, I mostly hung out with brauhs but during some classes I had sat beside girls and have had some problem keeping the conversation up but I did a decent job.

Soon I realized that my mind always trick me to not get into uncomfortable situations or w/e get the heart racing. In Grade 11, two girls approached me to hang after school from time to time. I denied both opportunities due to my fears. In grade 12, even though a cute girl asked me out to go on prom, I ended up not going because of my fear. This really hit me hard. I really wanted to take this girl to prom but I found a way to dodge it.

Then, I got into engineering school. I made solid group of new friends. a good mix of white, black, brown and Asians. They really pushed me outside my comfort zone and somewhat improved my social skills. By the end of first semester, two girls expressed interest in dating me but my scumbag brain again instead of accepting denied so they stopped talking to me.

Once, I saw a girl sitting across from me in the computer lab to whom I was instantly attracted. TO this day, I do not know how but I got up and straight up introduced myself and asked her out. She had a bf. Phuck.

After graduation, I joined OKC. I had good luck on OKC considering what I have heard from my other male friends. I got 22 Phone numbers, went on 4 dates (all white girls). Last girl I dated, we went out 5 times and had ton of fun. We talked over phone almost every day and texted throughout the day. She got into a school in Amsterdam (she had told me about this application on our first date) and she has accepted the offer. This really hit me hard and got the case of onitis. Fast forward 2 months, I discovered this community (thank god!). Now, I am out of the mopey state and feel that future holds even better/ hotter HB.

Currently:

I am 24y/o working and can finally afford a car and place. I have read a lot of post and have ordered the most common books recommended in this subreddit: Models, No More Mr Nice Guy, The definitive Book of Body Language and How to talk to anyone to get started on this journey. I have been lifting for 2 years now and lost 80lb and put on some muscle (6’4” 205lb 15%bf). I believe, I am a decent looking (6-7/10), wear glasses and dress casually.

Hobbies include:

Astronomy (I have a decent telescope), reading, app development, working out, running, music. I am thinking of taking Improv Classes starting next month to improve my “on the feet” thinking.

What’s affecting my confidence:

  • I have been in Canada for 10 years, I can speak and understand English fine but I am not sure about my accent. Whenever I talk to new people they always assume I was born in Canada as they notice a small accent. But I can’t get this through my head. Thus it’s affecting my confidence.
  • AA due to my Indian background.
  • Not being witty
  • Not perfect straight teeth (not the best smile but they are pretty clean)
  • Feeling of words not coming out my mouth if I approach a HB.
  • Always failing at overcoming AA.
  • Making a fool of myself, thinking I can even do this.
  • Not having a interesting life?

I do not go out to bars or clubs as currently all my friends have moved away and I have never gone to these places solo. If anyone in GTA is interested in teaming up and working on the game together shoot me PM. I have come across a girl at gym. I always notice her checking me out and have locked eyes twice for 5 second and 3 second. I did notice afterwards that I was not smiling during our lockdown and found it was because I was not in the moment and focused on thoughts fighting the feeling of going and talking to her. I chickened out twice! Today I saw her again and small 3 sec. I feel next time would be my last shot at Introduction may be land a date and I would cross the border to creep country. What should I do to overcome AA? I have a feeling that I am going to bail again due to my AA but I don’t want to.

Edit: I have not gone out gaming regularly. I go out with that mindset 1-2 times a month. I am talking to women from work or girls that used to go to school with me. This is generally 2-3 times a month.