What makes us happy?

stragis · 2011-09-13T04:52:00+00:00

My direction with this submission pertains to my interest initially in seduction. "I'm not happy because I am not getting girls." has become the realization that "I'm not getting girls because I am not happy."

Getting in what I understand to be state is all about finding what makes you happy and "exploiting" it.

CunningLanguageUser · 2011-09-13T07:43:06+00:00

I went through all of this and found it super interesting. Cheers for the link.

Last October, I watched him give a lecture to Seligman’s graduate students on the power of positive emotions—awe, love, compassion, gratitude, forgiveness, joy, hope, and trust (or faith). “The happiness books say, ‘Try happiness. You’ll like it a lot more than misery’—which is perfectly true,” he told them. But why, he asked, do people tell psychologists they’d cross the street to avoid someone who had given them a compliment the previous day?

In fact, Vaillant went on, positive emotions make us more vulnerable than negative ones. One reason is that they’re future-oriented. Fear and sadness have immediate payoffs—protecting us from attack or attracting resources at times of distress. Gratitude and joy, over time, will yield better health and deeper connections—but in the short term actually put us at risk. That’s because, while negative emotions tend to be insulating, positive emotions expose us to the common elements of rejection and heartbreak.

I've certainly suffered from this sort of 'anxiety' in which you feel pressured or indebted the next time you see them? I'm also sure this could be more than applicable to seduction.

WolfInTheField · 2011-09-13T13:14:12+00:00

We do.

Title	What makes us happy?
Author	stragis
Upvotes	14
Comments	4
Date	September 13, 2011 4:49 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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