What the hell do you talk about with a complete stranger if you don't immediately know of something you have in common?

telemanzoo · 2020-02-05T23:45:34+00:00

Good question.

Firstly though, have you ever seen infield of people approaching in a bar or a supermarket? That might give you some ideas.

I do know what you mean, though.

Reading this sub for example certainly confuses me lol

Someone posts a field report where he asks the girl the usual social questions after opening her (name, age, job, what brought them out tonight etc). And then he gets told ''Dude, she rejected you because they are boring questions. Never ask them. Instead ask her super interesting stuff like her craziest ever memory/thing she's ever done''

so then the dude walks up too a girl in a bar says 'hi', reminds himself not to ask her name, age, what brought her out etc, and says ''What's you craziest ever memory? The craziest thing you've ever done??'' and she looks at him like he's mentally sub normal lol. You've jumped ahead 50 steps lol.

Then others will recommend mysterymethod type stuff and you end up coming across extremely weird as you are oversharring your 'dhv' stories with complete strangers within seconds of meeting them. Reading their palms etc etc. Just makes you look 'unusual' at best most of the time

Can feel like you can't really win either way. And that's sort of true in my experience. I think the reason is that anything will work OK if she is into you and wanted you too approach her, and nothing will 'hook' if you're NOT her type (and you're not most girls type i'm afraid, unless you really were genetically blessed lol)

Now, I also know the advice that people here will give you. 'make cold reads about her', so 'you look like you work in fashion' etc. However, in my experience, none of the advice i've read in PUA books etc is any 'better' than just old school interview mode. Conversation will often just catch fire IF she wants it too

lookback48 · 2020-02-06T05:20:02+00:00

Let me put it this way buddy, let’s say a really cute 10/10 comes to you and asked a random question?

Her: hi! I’d never seen you around this bar before, this might sound random but what’s your zodiac sign?

You: a monkey

Her: aw yes I love their characteristics..interesting, what brings you to this bar.

Made this shit up in mer seconds. Idk about you buddy but you can legit talk to anyone really. Just ignore their looks or what ever and start asking question, you make it creepy if you ACT like it. The key is not giving 2 fucks about what you say. YOU MUST HAVE CONFIDENCE to pull any questions off. If you are not confident than any question you ask will be creepy.

caffeinatedredditor · 2020-02-05T22:36:42+00:00

Make a joke about the lettuce at a supermarket. Approach her and introduce yourself at a bar. Ask what she’s drinking.

sarge_slayer · 2020-02-06T00:41:12+00:00

Cold read. Make insights about her, not observations. Probably one of the most important skills to master in cold approach.

bb63usn · 2020-02-06T00:57:14+00:00

I do this a lot in a grocery store. My notification tone is the R2D2 sound. If I see a woman I'd like to talk to I pull out my phone and look at it and go to my sounds and play that tone and I always get a nice smile and I just ask them if they know that sound and bam the conversation starts off with as to why R2D2 and we go from there.

Always remember, Women like to laugh and have fun!!!

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-02-06T07:53:06+00:00

Talk to them about their opinion

About their day

About what they look like

About what they are doing

Etc

maninthesky00 · 2020-02-06T09:51:32+00:00

Maybe try the FORD method. Family, occupation, relaxation (hobbies), and desires (goals, ambitions etc.).

Title	What the hell do you talk about with a complete stranger if you don't immediately know of something you have in common?
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Date	February 5, 2020 10:30 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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