Wheres the line between persistence and self-respect?

rangerdanger0707 · 2017-12-18T05:30:10+00:00

The concept you’re describing is very relatable. Where is the boundary between effort and reward? What is the effort threshold? It’s a case-by-case scenario, really. The way your post is worded, it seems like you’re asking what I’d do personally, so ymmv. This is the assumption for what I’m about to write: “She will agree to spend time with you but won’t initiate anything.” In other words, she agrees to spend one-on-one time with me. In most scenarios, I’d want to eventually establish whether she is physically/sexually attracted to me or not. I would first initiate light kino (physical interaction), then gauge her reaction. Hug upon first meeting. Tell a light, cheesy joke about your hand being cold, and asking her to warm it up with hers. How does she react? With hesitation? With enthusiasm? Catch a few green light reactions, then escalate the intensity of kino. Gauge. Repeat. How many red light reactions before I personally think I’ve surpassed the “effort threshold?” Depends on how much I like the girl lol.

Edit: formatting

weallwantsomethink · 2017-12-18T08:32:49+00:00

I don't care if they don't initiate.

Girls especially early on, a lot of times won't initiate anything.

Why? Because some or all of these reasons.

-Because she can get rejected.

-Because they are lazy and it is "the guys job"

-She doesn't want to emotionally invest because she doesn't want to get hurt.

-Because they are hooked on the feeling a guy wanting them. They like it when an attractive guy shows he wants her.

-Sex is about dominance of the male. You are dancing and you have to lead.

So it can actually be a good sign.

Eventually they will start initaiting. But you don't have to expect anything untill you slept a couple of times with each other and hung out 5 times.

If you can set up dates there is no problem.

420KUSHBUSH · 2017-12-18T05:13:41+00:00

Persistence and escalation set up in instances where you demonstrate abundance with other girls, taking time to reply and your absence makes girls go ga ga. Over time that time-on-time-off mentality makes her feel desired and sexy

luaudesign · 2017-12-20T00:06:26+00:00

You don't cut your losses and move on. You're always moving on by default. Abundance mentality.

Title	Wheres the line between persistence and self-respect?
Author	sutevun
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Date	December 18, 2017 4:30 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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