Why do does it hurt when I get rejected? Why does it affect me so much?

Rkingpin · 2018-12-15T22:57:44+00:00

You're viewing their rejection as a reflection of yourself instead of a reflection of themselves

One_Insanity · 2018-12-15T22:33:16+00:00

Just a hunch but you probably don't have enough success to offset the rejections.

hunterpua · 2018-12-16T00:20:16+00:00

Great word choice.

Perspective really is the key word.

Try to think about the rejection from her perspective and make it realistic.

What I mean by realistic is to not isolate that moment in time because life does work that way, you need to take into account everything she may have been through or is about to go through before she met you.

Rejection during the first stages of an interaction is never personal and here's why:

You don't know anything about her and she doesn't know anything about you.

Think about what could have happened before she met you.

She could have already been approached really badly 10x that night before you.

She could have been raped or molested fairly recently.

Someone else might have approached her on the street a week ago in a really creepy way.

Now think about after.

Her boyfriend might be on his way there.

She might have to leave in a few minutes.

She might be seeing her parents in a few minutes.

Now think about what she knows about you in that moment.

She knows what you look like, what your body language looks like, what you sound like, and she knows you want to talk to her and possibly want to date her.

Does she know what you do for work?

Does she know your greatest failure?

Does she know the greatest challenge you've overcome?

Does she know what you two disagree on?

Does she know what you guys have in common?

Does she know how much she would enjoy your company?

Does she know what you can do to her body sexually?

So how exactly is a rejection supposed to be personal??

areason23 · 2018-12-15T23:26:24+00:00

because you don't like feeling not good enough .You want to be a stud who every girl is attracted to .I hardly ever get rejected but sometimes I do.I don't take it to the heart most of the time it's because they have a bf or just not into random approaching them..

mrblackjapa · 2018-12-16T00:41:24+00:00

I’m assuming you’re taking the “no “ or “ I have a boyfriend “ hard on the chin . You have to learn the roll off technique.

DeusVult762 · 2018-12-16T08:06:05+00:00

Because most of us see a rejection as a confirmation to our insecurities. She doesn't want me I AM as short/ugly/fat/unattractive/scrawny as I think I am.

KingOfTheMexica · 2018-12-16T00:26:44+00:00

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Title	Why do does it hurt when I get rejected? Why does it affect me so much?
Author	physicsnub
Upvotes	1
Comments	12
Date	December 15, 2018 10:17 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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