Why does rejection hurt so bad?

leftajar · 2011-12-19T20:41:49+00:00

Rejection hurts because of the inner meaning you're assigning to it.

Deep down inside, many people have really negative things they tell themselves. Stuff like, "I'm not worthy of being loved." Having abusive and/or distant parents can do that to a person.

Basically, when a girl isn't into you, it may be activating those deep wounds.

If you've done that many approaches and it still hurts a ton, something like that may be going on here.

MetaSnow · 2011-12-19T18:02:23+00:00

Do you have high self esteem? It is critical for me to be in a good place when I approach. I know a girl is missing out if she does not want to talk to me. Find the things about yourself you love, and talk about them like that. Change the things you do not like.

This is also effective because women pick up confidence very well, and that also applies to confidence about other areas of your life. This will lead to emotionally involved conversation (protip: eye contact) and make escalation on a physical and emotional level a little bit easier.

Title	Why does rejection hurt so bad?
Author	jsba
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	December 18, 2011 9:37 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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