Why Rejection is Better Than Inaction

iDandy · 2013-02-12T15:22:45+00:00

Rejection is not really rejection. Its gaining reference experience. Reference experience is gold. Julien talks about this. For him, the definition of game is the most amount of reference experience possible in the shortest amount of time. I think the video is posted on reddit.com/r/rsd under what makes Julien a pimp or something.

I lost a girl last week and it was painful but the reference experienced I gained was momentous and I certainly don't look at it as a failure by any means

BurgeoningPUA · 2013-02-12T18:54:20+00:00

This is easily the single most important piece of advice for (soon to be former) AFC's just starting out. Especially those experiencing AA -- which is likely most of them.

I just have one caveat. For a few, the benefits of rejection described in that article won't be immediately forthcoming. In my case, when I first started out, I felt every rejection down to my deepest core. The embarrassment, shame, and knowledge that someone thought less of me was crushing, and I couldn't stop fixating on how I could have done better, and wishing a little that I never put myself out there.

Logically I told myself I was being an idiot, and shouldn't care what random girl x thinks about me. So I pushed myself to keep trying. But the horrible feelings generated by each rejection continued to compound for months ... until one day it didn't. I'm not sure exactly what happened, but I'm guessing my memory couldn't hold the details of each individual rejection in my mind, which i think made it much easier to brush them off and start analyzing the broader details more efficiently. After that, rejections stopped bothering me altogether.

I'm pretty sure, my story is a worst case scenario, so if I can do it, then so can you.

tl;dr rejection will be immediately cathartic for most, but the benefits may take longer to manifest for others. Just keep at it, and it'll eventually click.

Entershikari · 2013-02-12T22:43:50+00:00

Hey there I've just been rejected tonight and It dosn't feel anything it's funny how i was on the mindset " I don't even care ", it's the first time for me that I'm on that mindset and I do think it's good.

smo0rphy · 2013-02-18T18:25:32+00:00

"You'll feel better if you try and fail than don't try at all" is probably the greatest pickup soundbyte around. It rattles around in my head all day.

Then last weekend I had so many opportunities to day game girls, and let them all pass by because I was scared. Now I feel like such a twat. If I'd gone for it and failed, perhaps there would have been some embarrassment, but I'd be sitting here feeling good that I tried. Confidence levels raised. Instead I'm stewing in a pool of own cowardice.

eddkov · 2013-02-13T05:28:30+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/BbJ7APK.jpg

I saw this on /r/GetMotivated which everyone should check out in case you need a little extra motivation

REDDIT LINK http://www.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/18e7jm/inaction_breeds_doubt_and_fear/

Title	Why Rejection is Better Than Inaction
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Date	February 12, 2013 2:03 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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