Will my insecurities stop me?

joshsway · 2015-03-02T13:27:18+00:00

Yes you are insecure. I was the biggest loser ever probably until college. Big deal, I hardly think about it anymore and if I do I laugh about it. Who cares about whether you got bullied in 6th grade, cmon, you are better than worrying about stupid shit like that.

Tasteles_sheep_guts · 2015-03-02T13:10:53+00:00

Yep.

zeek_ · 2015-03-02T17:34:58+00:00

Insecurity is actually pretty common, what you can do to help yourself is to not care what others think or what you perceive they are thinking. Another thing is to decrease negative thoughts you have about yourself. It won't be easy and takes time but YOU CAN DO IT.

RhythmWombat · 2015-03-02T18:03:15+00:00

This will impact a bigger portion of your life than just relations with women, so long as you let it. It can't be ignored.

Do yourself a proper favor: sit down with a pen and paper and write down all the things you "dislike," and cannot change, about yourself. Then write the things you can change. After that, walk away for a while. Forget about that sheet of paper. In a few days when you're feeling a bit more spirited, break it back out and write down all the things you truly like about yourself. All of them. You'll be surprised with what you come up with.

Chin up, fight the good fight. No one is perfect, and even people who have legitimate issues and disabilities manage to overcome insecurities with enough willpower. You've got this.

TheDisillusionist · 2015-03-02T15:44:30+00:00

Yes they will. You have to deal with them.

hockeyri4 · 2015-03-02T17:36:52+00:00

Yeah man. You just gotta start owning everything you do, whether it has to do with girls or not. Love yourself and you'll see that people will gravitate to you more than ever.

ChadPUA · 2015-03-02T20:18:36+00:00

Yes.

Fentrix · 2015-03-03T03:22:40+00:00

So you didn't fit the bill for one person and tons of other people say you are hot, then guess what, you're probably hot. Think about all the girls that you've known people to think are hot and you think they are crazy. I still think Angelina Jolie is ugly. That doesn't make it so that most of America won't bone her. And another thing is that even if a girl isn't perfect looking to me, if she is charming then I will give her my time over a hot boring girl because I like girls to entertain me. Women feel the same way about guys. So if you are hot and charming, like myself, then you have so many options it becomes confusing at times.

So back to your insecurities. It might stop you some, but if you get out there and see peoples responses over time, you will start to believe those that said you were hot, because you will have the empirical experiences that back it up.

But make no mistake: being good looking isn't enough. If you start to talk to a girl and you aren't interesting then the conversation will fizzle. If you don't know how to keep a conversation going, then you will feel like a failure. But how do you get to Carnegie hall? Practice Practice Practice. The nice thing is that I believe it is easier for good-looking people because we only have to be kind of interesting (unless there are a lot of interesting good looking people around, then we need to be better, which is the kind of environment I learned in :/, makes an average bar a cakewalk).

Also get out of your head. Recently I've gotten some brain damage that has forced me out of my head and damn it's freeing.

RichieFinn · 2015-03-02T15:58:08+00:00

You are seemingly insecure about things you cannot change.

You cannot change the fact you were bullied (its the past). You cannot change the fact you are ugly (which may only be because you think you are).

However, you can change your look, how you dress etc (if thats what you feel is holding you back)...However it seems all thats holding you back is your attitude, try new things, you have no reason to be insecure.

You have plenty of people complimenting you, so is your low self esteem even rational?

Title	Will my insecurities stop me?
Author	beastinthegym
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	March 2, 2015 12:04 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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