I'm not a virgin and have some experience but for a first time I'm dating a virgin. Because I'm her first experience I find myself having some sort of unconscious performance anxiety and having a hard time to maintain erection, which I haven't experienced since I lost my own virginity.

We'll probably have sex for the first time this week, and I may have the same problem again, or finish too fast. I'm thinking if I should explain the situation beforehand . A bit afraid to come off weak, or that it will kill the attraction.

Any advice? Or other tips with dealing with this anxiety aside from speaking with her about it?