You Either Win or You Learn

RomanH101 · 2022-02-19T05:48:56+00:00

Great tips, especially the last one. A lot of guys are anxious around women because they operate from a pathetic subservient mindset (“how can i please you my queen” type shit).

Women are repulsed by it and can sense that it comes from desperation.

Nonchalance and outcome independence are the most attractive traits to a beautiful woman. Guys need to learn to internalize the two.

SpecialPowerss · 2022-02-19T08:12:41+00:00

I used to text girls just to receive validation from them texting me back. Major mistake.

ld20r · 2022-02-19T14:44:13+00:00

Some ladies love attention, graft and the effort.

Some hate it and throw out terms such as “needy” as an excuse to not like you.

At the end of the day and this is how I see it exactly, if someone is really truly into you and wants to spend time with you or rip off your pants then no amount of effort will be too much and no amount of rapport will be too little.

Playing the avoidant card is not a guaranteed route to dates and sex either.

It all comes down to wether the person actually likes you or not and in my opinion, attraction is something that is either there or it’s not.

Sure, you can manipulate people into liking you but ultimately you can only fake it for so long because the dirt will come out of the wash eventually.

Don’t apologise for things outside of your control.

You didn’t fail, she just didn’t like you enough. It’s that simple.

No forensic analysis needed, no post mortem required just find someone that likes you as much as you like them. That’s the equation at hand.

For some people, that can take a lifetime to figure out, for others it can seamlessly fall into place relatively quick. Everybody is on there own path and know one is better or worse than the other.

Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t work on or improve yourself because everybody should and that’s important. But to an Extent.

There comes a point in time where you just have to stop and let nature, luck and hard work run it’s course.

If someone did there very best then there’s nothing to be regretful of because they did all they could have.

NineteenAD9 · 2022-02-19T15:15:43+00:00

keep texting to logistics only, setting a firm date and time to meetup ASAP.

This can't be said enough. Too many people on here are trying to interview women before they go on dates and make posts asking what they should say.

Logistics only. Nothing else. Make her earn more communication.

Everything else is spot on as well.

Title	You Either Win or You Learn
Author	DGibby12
Upvotes	32
Comments	7
Date	February 19, 2022 5:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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