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[–]TofuTofu 11 points12 points13 points 15 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Holy oneitis, batman.
Your best course of action is to friend zone her for a bit, learn some seduction theory and open/date many other women. Trying harder to pursue her is highly unlikely to work and it's been pretty proven that telling a girl you like her is a terrible move.
Good luck!
[–]-Lrrr- 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
It's not really oneitis, the small group of mutual friends that we both are involved with see each other a lot. While it does seem I'm trying to find answers in stuff she does, I'm activly pursuing other girls and it was more so I could understand what she was trying to get out of asking me who I like and to learn how to answer those questions.
[–]yokhai 1 point2 points3 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
See she will pick up on that.
You have to actively not care what she thinks. Don't answer her questions, stop asking her out. Like you said its a group of friends so she will see you eventually, but you want to be busy.
These are small shit tests. Far and large she is evaluating your answers. Your miranda applies here, anything you say can and will be thrown in your face at a later date.
[–]blackdevildisco1 points 15 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Regardless, I think TofuTofu's advice is right on. It looks like she's probably into you, but I'd recommend getting more practice and studying up (ideally in something like a 2:1 ratio) before trying again with this one.
Why haven't you gone back to her place when she offers though?
[–]-Lrrr- 1 point2 points3 points 15 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I have been back to hers but she's always got some clingy friend over or her sisters in and it's a really small flat. She mentioned that her sister was going to Amsterdam soon and that shell have the place to herself and she'll through a party soon. She also mentions movies quite a lot and we share movie taste, I was thinking of asking to do a movie night as I've got most films downloaded and I know she wants to see them from her telling me.
The last 3 times I've seen her I've really been trying to be alpha, usually I'm a bit more reserved and feel my confidence has shot through the roof and she seems positive from it and so do my friends. She only started asking who/what I found attractive since I was making more of a confident effort instead of being reserved.
[–]RedErin 1 point2 points3 points 15 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm thinking that you're free to complete the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder.
[–]blackdevildisco2 points 15 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Whoa, that is some good shit! At least, it sounds good, but does it work? (The Escalation Ramp part I mean.)
[–]RedErin 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Does it work?
Does It Work....
DOES IT WORK? Fuck yeah it works. It's one of the most linked and referenced articles around. Kino is magical dude.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Add some tension- start asking her what girls she finds attractive when they walk by. Or when there is one at the bar, ask her if she will introduce her to you. Treat her as a wingwoman and see how she reacts.
[–]DoctorHandsome 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
perhaps she's looking for justification for her interest in you. i recommend using a jealousy plotline as described in this link. it's possible her thought process is "what makes this guy more desirable than the next?" and perhaps proving your social worth will make her realize how awesome you would be for her.
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