Where did I go wrong?

scholarly_pimp · 2014-11-21T16:03:07+00:00

This probably isn't what you're looking for but it's advice for a young lad...

date girls, lots, but don't date them seriously or for an extended period of time. You're young and should focus all your time on improving yourself because they can potentially get in the way of you moving forward, if you let them (this happened for me, won't necessarily happen for you, but be wary, and it's not their fault it happens either). Exercise, do well in school, find hobbies other than drinking that will set you up in the future (reading books about entrepreneurship, computers, biographies, anything where you can learn and expand yourself)

Most kids don't do this, but those who do tend to really flourish post college... study hard and be more interested in yourself than in these girls

Girls will come, keep practicing bud... you'll be unstoppable

Epicureanist · 2014-11-21T05:44:52+00:00

Don't ask for permission. Just do it.
Don't console her; she's acting like a child.
No you can't be friends; you have enough friends. You want her for your body; if she's not cool with that, there's other woman.

What can I do to try and keep her and if not just carry on...?

I would back off and give her less attention + start talking to other girls. I'd be less responsive to her texts, miss her phone calls, etc. After a few days I would set up a movie date and try to sleep with her.

Your results may vary.

edit:

Sometimes knowing what not to do is half the battle. here are the highlights:

don't ask for permission; that is feminine.
don't apologize
don't settle for less than you want

adamryanx · 2014-11-21T05:58:43+00:00

I'm playing around with the back edges of her bra and ask if I can unhook her bra.

First mistake. If you're escalating and she's clearly into it, then don't ask, just do. Asking her for permission to unhook her bra is quite literally asking her for permission to continue being intimate with her. You're already intimate. Just escalate. And stop if she says she wants to stop.

You said you're a young teenager. This was a rookie mistake, no two ways about it. Just go with it and have fun next time. And remember to make sure she's into it the whole time, because your freedom and good reputation are more important than her pussy.

I try to laugh it off and just lay there for a while until I try and go over and unsuccessfully console her.

From the looks of it here, she didn't want to be consoled, she wanted you to go back to giving her tingles. You killed the moment by offering consolation rather than escalation. So you couldn't get her bra off. So what? Continue kissing her neck and at least get her shirt off. In the heat of the moment get her to start undressing. This didn't have to end this way. You could've turned it around and had her grind on you with nice foreplayish lap dance. With her back to you then, you would've been able to get her bra off no prob.

If/when this opportunity arises again, don't cockblock yourself. Keep escalating.

Afterwards, she texts me saying she likes me bla bla bla but doesn't really know what's going to happen with us.

She was expecting better tingles and more of them. Don't lose hope though. All may not be lost just yet. As long as you don't respond to any of these texts, you should be fine. It sounds like she's trying to get you to escort yourself into the friend zone. Ignore them. When you see her again, act as though you never even read those texts. If she rejects your escalation second time around, then just next her and move on.

tombreck2 · 2014-11-21T14:41:01+00:00

ask if I can try something. She says sure so I start trying to unhook her bra

Just take it off and never ask permission to do something because it kills her mood.

just_wondering_brah · 2015-02-16T18:59:31+00:00

You scared her most likely. She is probably not ready for a physical relationship since the two of you are still young and in a new relationship. Give her time. If you really like her, try to ask her out again and talk about what happened. If she doesn't want to, don't push it and move on. There are plenty of other women out there, you're gonna be fine :)

liftedhabits · 2015-04-21T10:05:48+00:00

wont say anything thats already been said, but for the record you're the prize, not her. if youre the one chasing then you need to reflect on your own value

Abreseyes · 2014-11-24T10:55:24+00:00

Asking is putting the "blame" for what happens next on her, never a good idea

siegristrm · 2015-01-02T11:32:03+00:00

This is one of those instances when you need a really cool chick friend. I had this girl in HS that taught me a lot of shit. How to finger, I learned the 2 finger bra snap technique. Maybe turn this girl into that.

As for future bra reference, get your thumb on one side and your middle finger (might need index if new) on the other side and move like you are snapping your fingers with the material in hand. It's also the easiest way.

And at your age, don't stop escalating until the say no. I missed having so many fwb because I didn't actually fuck. And if they want to and you don't, they will quickly treat you like you never existed.

Title	Where did I go wrong?
Author	Tigertroll14
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	November 21, 2014 1:48 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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