After our divorce in 2019, things between me and my ex weren't good. It was tough, especially because of what happened. She cheated, and it hurt. We have three kids, and they ended up living with her while I had to deal with some trouble because of how I reacted to everything. The kids (10, 12, 15) don't know what really happened.

Finally, a year later, got to spend time with them again, but it's only every other weekend and a bit during the week. I've tried hard to help them through therapy, spending a lot of money to make sure they're okay. But now, I'm worried about my middle child. She's 12 and often gets VERY angry. She explodes over small things, like being late because of traffic or misplacing something. It makes our time together tough. She's constantly mad over something. I could be coming to pick them up for our weekly couple hour time and she will have an attitude and just be silent and ignore anything I say.

Last weekend, we were supposed to have fun at one of her games which occurred out of state, but it turned sour fast. She got mad about everything, even at her siblings. It was hard to enjoy anything.

And when she couldn't find her sweatshirt after the game, she blew up at me. Despite always trying to create a loving and positive environment, she had the power to call me names and say everyone hates me, that I am dumb and irresponsible. It hurts tr hear this from your own child when I work this h V and give everything to them. My youngest even tried to comfort me.

I'm at a loss. It's not the first time she's acted like this. I never had consequences applied as I try to talk with her and therapy hasn't helped much. I cherish moments I get to spend with them and I hate for the time to fall into consequences. It's tough because I'm doing this alone, with no support from her mom.

I'm thinking of giving her consequences for her behavior, but I'm not sure how to do it without making things worse. My ex says she’s a teenager and that’s all it is. Any advice would be really appreciated as I try to make things better for my kids.