Enjoying time purely alone

internetinterpreter · 2019-10-06T13:07:11+00:00

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AverageToHot · 2019-10-06T15:55:00+00:00

It sounds like you're lonely because you need human connections. I highly recommend going to meetups and expanding your social circle. Deciding to be more social and to make more friends really changed my life and made it more colorful! You should definitely date on the side, but your main priority is finding awesome friends. This will help you with dating because you won't rely on one man to fulfill all of your social needs. :)

LION8900 · 2019-10-06T13:58:00+00:00

Stick to your friends or family. If there is none at the moment, find another lonely guy like u and become friends till both of u find someone suitable

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-10-06T19:29:12+00:00

You put your relationships into boxes. Online dating provides you with so many options. Here's the approach which worked best for me:

Swipe left on the HOTTEST guys only.
for hookups: pick one or two that you're going to sleep with. Ideally, this person will be physically attractive and make you feel hot and bothered and turned on. Ideally this man will work hard to wine and dine you first. Go get this out of your system if you've got the "fear of missing out" bug. Remember and keep in mind that this man that you're seeing is only a hookup and you're both free to see others.
Of those left-swipes, go for those men who have those relationship qualities that you want. It's okay to date men for relationships, and other men for hookups. I recommend you date multiple men at once. This is how you can keep yourself busy and occupied and it helps you from thinking about any one man.
This is really important. In all of this, take ZERO shit from men. Ghost any man who isn't paying for dates, who doesn't make you feel special, and who isn't treating you well. Ghost any man who you're not attracted to, or don't feel like they're relationship material. It's okay to reject unsuitable men.

internetinterpreter · 2019-10-06T20:13:13+00:00

Another thing that makes me not want to date despite feeling lonely was a post from this sub the other day that showed how many hundreds of thousands of followers there are for misogynistic subforums- and there are less than 20k here! I bet a few thousand are male observers.

I don't want to say I've lost all hope in love, but it's starting to seem so impractical.

Title	Enjoying time purely alone
Author	internetinterpreter
Upvotes	11
Comments	15
Date	October 6, 2019 10:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/de1h2b/enjoying_time_purely_alone/
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