I would like some help

corytrevor710 · 2019-09-18T13:36:00+00:00

Yeah this isn’t a place for beta relationship advise. MGTOW men are going to tell you to leave her. If you can’t do that, too bad, we are going to tell the truth that the only winning move on your part is leaving the game. So leave her and don’t turn back for any wahmyns, ever.

Tonyb33 · 2019-09-18T13:26:07+00:00

Realise that she is training you like a horse, closing down your independence, extracting your money, and gaslighting you. She is manipulating you to a new reality where regardless of what she has you have to pay. Her money will only appear once you are totally drained and something important to her appears that has to be paid for immediately. She knows what she is doing and she is conscious of the manipulation but she will never admit it to you. By keeping you from being on your own she also controls who you meet and stops you hearing independent views. There are a number of ways this will end. 1. She will find a better provider and dump you. 2. She will close down your options until you marry her she will then nag you until you make enough money for every one of her unrealistic expectations whilst criticising you for not giving her enough time. 3. You wake up and smell reality.

Start by spending money on yourself, it’s your money. Next start saving money for emergencies you can bet your life that she is doing so. If you have a little left maybe take her out but make sure it’s a very cheap date. When she complains about you being cheap point out that at least you are paying for her which is more than she is doing. Try turning the tables on her wait until a night she is expecting to go out she is all dressed in and excited then explain you have no money. See what she does next, note if she tries to shame you for being broke. You may feel that you are being dishonest but this is what she does to you everyday. So you do the same and then see how she responds she may support you but you and I know that probably will not happen. If she bails you are lucky.

I went out with a similar woman, I could tell you so many stories like an idiot I married her as soon as she had the baby ring and house her true nature came out and changed overnight. It took a lot of time and money to divorce her she never looked back fucked and moved in with the next man who came along. Good luck

MisterEdGein7 · 2019-09-18T16:26:05+00:00

Tell her you lost your job and can't pay anymore. I guarantee she leaves.

ToddTheOdd · 2019-09-18T13:49:16+00:00

I didn't even read all of it. Point 1 was enough for me to say "Cut her loose".

Parrotman01 · 2019-09-18T13:54:34+00:00

Yikes, sounds like Brazilian women are worse than I thought.
Yeah MGTOW isn't really the place for relationship advice per say. Though you can be MGTOW and married/relationship. We'll happily take your side if you deserve it. I think you need to sit her down and start asking some questions that you've had on your mind for a while. If she gives no satisfactory answers...it's time to cut them loose.

WolfEagle1 · 2019-09-18T14:07:28+00:00

Why would you invest time on anything that gives you little to no return? Time to move on my man.

DangZagnut · 2019-09-18T14:26:58+00:00

It’s your relationship, end it if you’re unhappy.

Miggymoggy · 2019-09-18T15:28:12+00:00

The money situation is always the same and they always expect men to pay for everything (even if they have money to buy mega expensive makeup, clothes, handbags, jewellery etc) as it have been conditioned into them that what is theirs is only theirs and they shouldn't share whilst everything the man has is now hers (in her mind).

As I've said before that I have never had as much money in my life once I removed the element / leech that was draining my resources.....I only wished I knew all this stuff in my twenties.

Strixt · 2019-09-18T13:56:36+00:00

A loved one is there to be with you.

Regardless of wether you have or do not have money. A loved one should want to be with you. If you are low on funds and need to do free things. Then do free things because. They most importantly want to hang out with you for you. Not for your money.

You should shit test the shit out of her.

Plan only free dates. Bike ride, soccer in the park, make her make you and her lunch/dinner. Watch a free movie from friends/family collections. Keep doing no cost stuff. If she bitches tell her you are needing to save. If she continues to bitch. Well then the shit test proves you need to drop her ass.

Don’t be a free tinder meal. Women just use your resources for food. If this chick isn’t making you food like a proper woman. Wtf are you doing there.

[deleted] · 2019-09-18T14:26:38+00:00

There are some things I think you should understand about this sub. Primarily, it's not for dating advice or for blue-pilled men who will inevitably ignore our advice and continue bending the knee to women.

1 - The woman could be a millionaire and you'd never know it because they all pretend to have no money and you will still have to pay for most everything. AWALT, this is womens' nature, accept it and move on.

1.1 - see above

2 - If a woman uses a shaming manipulation technique and you fall for it, who is the idiot? Her for not trying a more subtle technique or you for not realizing what is happening?

3 - AWALT... understand that, by dating women, you are intentionally bending the knee to her. She will always be the center of attention until she hits the wall.

It seems as if you are concerned about how much money you are spending on her and are unhappy with how she behaves. If that is the case, stop spending money on her and stop subjecting yourself to her behavior. If you are still unhappy, perhaps she is not the root cause of your misery.

Astral-Projector · 2019-09-18T14:28:04+00:00

One word: RUN!

HotAndColdSlaw · 2019-09-18T14:59:22+00:00

How to open your eyes: You need to think honestly and logically about your relationship with her. You are not really happy with her. It seems to be mostly about money. You have to spend a lot of money on her, and you do not have your own time sometimes too. So, you are not 100% happy, and that is the reason that you are asking for advice about how to break up with her.

How to break up with her: The quicker the better. It is not fair to her or you to continue the relationship, if there is no future in it. She will want to find another guy, and you can go your own way, single and free.

There isn't really any good or easy way to break up with her. So I would just tell her that you are too busy to keep on seeing her. If that is no good, maybe tell her that you cannot afford to take her on dates, because you are going to save your money to buy a car/house/boat etc. Or, you can just tell her that you are not in love with her, and you want to be alone. Anyway, you should own break up, take responsibility for the break up, and do it honestly.

Spin2407 · 2019-09-18T16:48:33+00:00

Irmão, vou conversar com você com toda a sinceridade que eu não pude conversar com ninguém.

Eu estive numa posição quase idêntica a sua, porém o mais incrível: Ela não era pobre. Eu via ela gastar 600 a 800 reais como se não fosse nada em roupas para ELA, porém eu tinha de pagar o cinema, comida e tudo que ela queria a hora que ela queria. Eu não me divertia, quando eu começava a me divertir, ela cortava minhas asas. Eu falava o quão infeliz eu era nessas situações, e nada acontecia. Eu gastava condução para ver ela, por semana que eu a via, 80 reais pela distância de cidades, já que eu moro no interior e ela na metrópole só para ver o rosto de alguém que sequer fazia sexo direito. Eu aceitei tudo que ela dizia, ela me julgou em todos os aspectos imagináveis, jogou a culpa em mim de coisas que eram parte do comportamento dela. Eu namorei na minha vida o total de 10 anos com 2 mulheres, e eu vou falar pra você de coração uma coisa: a gente está num país fudido. Não é opinião política, não é direita ou esquerda, nós estamos realmente fudidos, a menos que você tenha uma família que tenha muita grana e nome, você não tem como se sentir seguro aqui porque qualquer hora, pode dar uma merda aqui, TODOS os governos depois do primeiro mandato do Lula foram instáveis, tiveram problemas, e esse não está sendo exceção. Se você quer realizar seus sonhos, se você quer atingir seu patamar de excelência, se você quer realmente se tornar alguém foda, cara, você não pode carregar um peso de mais de 1000 reais mensais que vem junto stress psicológico, ainda mais quando ela for te cobrar aliança de noivado/casamento, e você vai se foder sozinho pra pagar essa merda e você vai se ver preso pelo resto da vida. Se você quer alguém que te segure pelas bolas, boa sorte, ela vai te segurar e MUITO forte, porque a partir do momento que você ter um casamento, não tem volta. A MAIOR ilusão do casamento é: o casamento é pro casal. Meus pais se arrependem de ter casado, meu irmão se arrepende, meu amigo se arrepende, por que eu faria algo que TODO mundo que faz, depois se arrepende?

Casamento é para o FILHO, constituir FAMÍLIA, se você quer constituir família com alguém que já é um peso hoje, e depois? Eu falo tudo isso, e por incrível que pareça, meu amigo ONTEM me mandou uma mensagem falando que tinha se separado da mulher dele. O motivo? Não aguentava mais. Não tinha liberdade, tudo era medido. Cara, somos humanos, temos liberdade, temos vontades, não devemos obedecer ao outro cegamente por um sentimento. Isso não é amor, é escravidão. Eu fui escravo por 10 anos, e eu falo que hoje eu sou muito mais feliz do que fui em toda minha vida porque eu comecei meu sonho de abrir meu negócio, eu comecei uma segunda faculdade, e tudo isso por que? Porque eu deixei de lado um peso que me atormentava e me fazia me sentir mal comigo mesmo todos os dias.

markentingh · 2019-09-18T18:13:58+00:00

Run away, my friend. Just run.

Knutjob · 2019-09-18T18:49:59+00:00

What she is putting u through is simply normal modus operandi for women. You see, she knows you will do anything for a chance of sex....in fact, she's counting on it. Wether it's a prostitute ,girlfriend or a wife....you gonna pay for pussy. Full stop. It's not about you, it's simply about what you can provide for her..when you switch off the money tap ,I guarantee you she will be gone.

Encrypted587 · 2019-09-18T19:29:55+00:00

I agree with the rest she is using you it's very common behaviour from parasitic women. As the above say cut your losses and start focusing on yourself. MGTOW is a hard discipline however it will reward you very well with plenty of money and lots of time to invest in what ever you like :)

Title	I would like some help
Author	marcelcorradi
Upvotes	13
Comments	21
Date	September 18, 2019 12:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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