Me, female (25)... He male (29) I have been dating him for 3 weeks... it went well, we slept together several times and dated about 10 times...

He wants a long-term woman with whom he can build something, I am or was open to everything...

After three weeks, the topic came up that he would be gone as soon as I started writing to other men while dating... but then I confessed to him that I always do it that way and then pick the one that suits me best from the men I date...

For me, everything fits with him, which is why I have now agreed to date him exclusively...

However, he says that we can take it further, but his trust is gone... In the meantime I have also confessed to him my fear of commitment and as I said that I always date several men at the same time...

He said that he wasn't a second option and that he would probably always have it in his head that I have written with other men... he thinks that if a woman really saw him as the best option, she wouldn't write with other men or wouldn't even think of it....

Is he right and he's not my best option or is that just my pattern because I always do that with several men at the same time or is that my fear of commitment? I am not sure about myself at the moment..

I know that he is redpilled as well.. so thats why I am posting