Where do you put YOUR efforts?

[deleted] · 2013-06-25T04:15:00+00:00

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be_tru · 2013-06-25T02:35:56+00:00

in order of time spent.

Work, 40 hr/week. While it's not a bad job by any means, taking the red pill has definitely got me thinking about whether or not I really want to be working in an office 8 hours a day. Any desire to support a wife and family has completely disappeared, I have decided I will be living for myself from now on. However the money is great for funding stuff such as travel etc.
music
cooking (try to learn at least 1 new recipe per week)
Gym 3-4x a week
Bars/clubs weekend nights. Considering eliminating this in favor of day game, just doesn't seem like efficient use of time.

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-06-25T01:22:26+00:00

Studying for the bar, going to the gym, reading.

[deleted] · 2013-06-25T06:28:52+00:00

I focus on my career (Firefighting) whether it's training, working out, improving my base knowledge in other areas (EMT-Emergency Medical Technician). But mostly, I just spend time with my dog. My captain gave me that advice after I found out my girlfriend last year was literally an uncle fucker and I cut her loose. He told me that after he found out his wife did the same thing, the best way to get your mind off that shit is to walk that dog as much as you can every chance you get. It works, you're too busy having fun with that stinky fur ball to give two fucks about how nothing is "too low" for a woman.

DaddyMonster · 2013-06-25T06:43:09+00:00

My main effort currently goes into getting fit at the gym, making more male friends (5 new friends in the past year), and learning new skills, such as dancing and martial arts.

Eating right is sorted since a few years back. I'm optimizing this bit, but not in the way one might expect. My problem is time. I've got a lot of stuff to fit into my schedule, and cooking takes time. Solutions? Several:

Technical:

Pressure cooker: Allows speedy cooking of stews, perfect rice, and very speedy home cooked beans and such.
Vacuum packer: Very effective storage of food that's already been cooked. Takes less space,stores longer, and if frozen, there's no freeze burn. Also goes hand in hand with the next point:
Sous vide: Foods are vacuum packed and cooked in a highly regulated water bath. Perfect medium rare steak all the way through? Yupp. Just sear it quickly afterwards. The beautiful bit isn't just in the results, but in the amount of time saved. I can prepare food packets in bulk for the sous vide and just freeze them. Then, before going to work in the morning, I can pick what I want for dinner in the evening and lunch the day after, and pop them in the sous vide water bath.

Non-technical:

Optimize dishes for minimum input
Cook in bulk and freeze
Cook several main dishes, freeze them and just combine them with rice,potatoes or whatever.

Etc.

As for putting too much time in things... I did go overboard with the dance courses last semester. Before that I went overboard with martial arts, and barely had a free day every week. It's something that happens. I cut down on gym time last year by getting my cardio from riding my bike to work.

soyanon · 2013-06-25T04:35:55+00:00

My advice is don't spread yourself thin. Identify the main things you need to do that, if done completely, quickly, and effectively, will generate the most payoff. Pick only a few of those things. One, two, or at most, three.

Here's an example:

Get a high as possible GPA
Get into excellent physical shape.

Done. No pressure to work on your social skills, your "game", your hobbies, extracurricular reading, nothing. If you have put forth your full effort to both of your REAL goals, then feel free to mess around with one of those extra things. But don't kid yourself into thinking you need to do all that extra crap people spout.

Hobbies, "being well rounded", reading the classics, learning another language, being funny, learning an extra trade, having a side business, learning how to play the stock market, learning a sport etc etc. There's no time to do it all. Pick a few priorities and dominate them. Then move on to the next most important thing.

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-06-25T02:46:01+00:00

Working out, taking care of my kids, flirting.

I already made a shit ton of money

A_Seabear · 2013-06-25T03:06:24+00:00

As of right now, work. On that grind to climb that ladder.

MockingDead · 2013-06-25T03:26:32+00:00

Right now:

Working out 1-2 hours a day.

otherwise I am quite lazy. I am unemployed. I write a blog. I should play guitar and finish my short stories/books.

I am studying to get my BS in psychology when school starts. I am only a few credits short, maybe 1 or 2 semesters.

Thinking of become a Life Coach or going into Sales.

I am on day 6-7 of /r/becomeaman

Ragnar09 · 2013-06-25T03:58:43+00:00

Most of my effort goes to my business so that eventually I'm Wealthy.

pontifx · 2013-06-25T05:53:54+00:00

When I am in work mode:

*wake up -- exercise, convict conditioning *shower -- superfood smoothie *incense -- nap or meditation depending on the day *work for four hours (my job is endless so blocking out the time and performing the best I can with the allotted time gets the most done for me so far) *eat *break, play magic, do something social go out *work again (2-4 hours depending on the day/interest) and salad *shower -- sleep

When I am not in work mode:

*wake up pound a five hour work out *play video games, program or some other form of mental stimulation *eat *friends, girls or tournament if sunday chores *social activity of some sort *sex *sleep

I don't sacrifice anything, and you don't either if you keep refining your plan. Eventually you get to a point where the trades you are making are 2:1 instead of 0.5:1. I allow myself interruptions if they feel great or feel terrible but never anything middling. I schedule time to let life happen instead of scheduling time around life happening. People know never to bother me before noon and the girls who sleep in my bed love it because they get to sleep in a nice bed till noon lol

30303030303030 · 2013-06-25T10:55:10+00:00

My sacrifice has been the gym. I simply don't have time for it.

Do very heavy and intense workout 3 times a week. Won't take you longer than 40 minutes.

[deleted] · 2013-06-25T11:14:39+00:00

As for the whole gym thing I am bit convinced that it is more for the younger ones. When I was 17 it was awesome, the whole T release in the gym made me mature more than in 5 years. But at 35 I can lift like crazy for a month and all I get is feeling aggressive and much stronger under that fat. I derive much more joy now from jogging, swimming, skiing, a bit of yoga, etc. etc. I am now masculine enough, I feel I need to get more relaxed and have a different approach to fitness, more natural so to speak, not to become more aggressive.

musicvita25 · 2013-06-25T12:26:32+00:00

Evolve, not revolve.

[deleted] · 2013-06-25T16:29:27+00:00

In order of importance:

Read. All the time about everything. I usually limit the fiction to classics (by that I mean ancient myth) as this can allow you to hold court among more educated company. Having knowledge (and I mean actual knowledge) about a variety of subjects is your most valuable tool, both for impressing women and maintaining higher status than other men. Plus, wisdom comes through the application of knowledge, so the more you know.... etc.

Fitness: I have bodyweight routines and cardio/HIIT 6 days a week in various configurations, being healthy is a bonus and looking physically fit will again get you places.

Hobbies: Have one creative hobby and one technical hobby, the rest is up to you. Be passionate about both of these things.

Game: I don't really practice game so to speak, but I will make sure I talk to at least two strangers every day. Usually these are girls and it's been quite successful. I don't really care about whether or not I've got someone in my bed, so this has taken a bit of a casual style in my current iteration. I suppose this would be my sacrifice, but it's more because I don't care than because I've not got time.

FYI: I'm also a student, doing an MSc and I too have to spend a lot of time studying. The key is to be organised. You won't have to sacrifice any aspect of self improvement if you are organised. My masters is my primary focus and takes about 35 hours a week of my time.

edit: for things like fitness, you can weave it into everything else you do. Run home from university instead of taking the bus (or whatever), just find something simple that can add some bonus to your physical health. I think my other main sacrifice is sleep, but I've always been a light sleeper and get absolutely no more than 6 hours a night. If I wake up early, I just get out of bed immediately and go for a jog.

juchanaut · 2013-06-25T04:13:37+00:00

Stacking paper, reading, gym.

Title	Where do you put YOUR efforts?
Author	Phyrd
Upvotes	18
Comments	34
Date	June 25, 2013 1:17 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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