At the beginning of my favorite book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey discusses Paradigms. As human beings, both males and females have different ideals and lines of thinking that are ingrained deeply into us. These are Paradigms. Why are some people racist, even though it's obvious to you how wrong it is? Because their life experiences have brought them up that way. Their Father constantly reinforced racist thoughts into their head. Their town did the same. What starts off as a seed eventually turns into a thorn bush due to the continuation of the aforementioned things combined with viewing the world from a skewed lens now that you have the seed planted. Eventually they believe it, and a racist paradigm is formed.

Look at the dynamic between men and women. As we discuss here, Even average looking women have hoards of men willing to lick their feet if needs be for a chance to have sex with them. Thirsty betas, many even good looking, orbiting for that 1/100 chance they get laid from her. I'm not talking about guys that message her "hey" on tinder and stop trying if she doesn't respond back. I'm talking about the guy that messages 3 times over the course of a week. I'm not talking about the guy that takes a breakup like a man. I'm talking about the guy that cries and buys her things to try and have her take him back. Unfortunately, most guys are the latter examples. Hell, I myself have been guilty of being a pussy. What kind of paradigm does this give women? That they are the prize, men are replaceable, men are desperate, men can't control themselves. Every time a guy acts like a pathetic loser, it's two steps back in her opinion of men. Every time a guy acts like a man, it's only one step forward. Don't believe that? There's a psychological condition (the name escapes me right now, however someone comment what it is and i'll edit the name in, or i'll edit it in when I remember the name) where you only see the facts that you want to see. Essentially, you reinforce your own paradigms by tuning out anything that goes against the paradigm. We all do it. Women are no different. They're not going to remember the time a guy stopped messaging them because she was being bitchy. However she'll subconsciously remember the guys that keep trying even after she's disrespected them, because it reinforces her paradigm.

Is it any wonder why she acts like a bitch towards you when you approach her at the bar? She already is 90% sure you're a weak loser before you talk to her, because that's what most guys are today.

You're fighting an uphill battle. Men have screwed it up for us 10 percenters (or us aspiring 10 percenters). If Men showed more self respect and control, the dynamic wouldn't be nearly as lopsided as it is today. If her paradigm that we talked about wasn't constantly being reinforced, it would change. However most men are screwing us over by their incomprehensible betaness. The men in the 21st century are making us play on "hard" mode. If we lived in the 1900's, we would've played on "medium". The reason is because back then, men were manlier. They got drafted to war. Blue Collar jobs were vastly more abundant. Feminism and the dulling down of manliness hadn't occurred. We live in a society today where men don't have to do anything challenging if they don't want to. They can play video games and collect welfare if they chose. A huge amount take the easy way out of every situation, even if it's not as extreme as the example I just gave.

Hope is not lost for us. Not even close. Because most men are the way I've described, women are craving a real man by biological default. They need you. At first, it will be very hard to establish any sort of relationship with the hot girls out there. they won't trust you at first because billy beta just tried to approach her and made her feel weird. However once you show her you're not like billy beta by holding frame, having social proof, etc it becomes easier. Once they've discovered your true character as a real man, they'll be all over you. However if you're not actually a true man, they'll be able to sense it from a mile away. They've had lots of practice.

I've made the majority of my point. My point was to hopefully show you why women behave the way they do, and give you more insight as to why acting like a red pilled man is so effective in a world full of slap dicks. However I have one more point to drive home, even though I've already touched on it a little bit.

Stop blaming women for a problem that us men have largely created. Of course they share some of the responsibility. However if men truly are the leaders of the world like we profess to believe, it is impossible to believe that women are the ones that are responsible for this. We did this to ourselves. We created the fucked up dynamic that male/female relationships are in 2018. We were the ones that sent the random 1/100- chance- of- working booty call text. We were the ones that bought her expensive jewelry to try and win her over. We as men are almost always the initiators of everything good, however at the same time we are almost always the initiators of everything bad. This case is no different. Men initiate, women follow our lead. In the words of DJ Khaled, we played ourselves.

Stop remaining in the anger phase. Good god, I feel like 90% of the people here are still there. Look, I'm not saying i'm above anyone here because I know most of you are studs and I learn from you all the time. However if there's anything I have to contribute to this sub I feel like this is it. I've been able to move out of the anger phase rather quickly because I understand that it's simply in a woman's biology to get the best she can get. And if it's not you, she's gone. Stop disliking the nature of women. I fucking love women, because I understand who they are. Bubbly, fun, carefree creatures that have drawbacks. Yes they manipulate. Yes they branch swing. That's just how they are biologically. We as men have drawbacks as well. I know I don't have to give you examples on that.

Stay strong, and keep fighting the good fight, comrades.