Hello all,

This is my first post in this sub, been lurking for about a week. I was surprised when I stumbled across this sub and its impressive level of knowledge about how the dating world works for men. I haven’t really had anything to say thus far, but I figured I’d post. Forgive my naivety, if it’s obvious in this.

I’m currently in an LTR with a girl who I consider to be the absolutely most amazing, beautiful woman in the world. She doesn’t exhibit almost any AWALT behaviors. She works through problems with me instead of getting angry, nor does she pick petty fights. She has never cheated on me and always lets me know where she is going. She is smart and politically conservative and is very aware of how the politics and government in the world actually work. But, above all, she never ceases to give me attention. She tells me she loves me every day, always wants to spend time with me or FaceTime, and would honestly do anything for me if I asked for it. I reciprocate and always make time for her, talk through everything with her, let her know she is loved, get her things once in a while, etc., but I still stand up for myself and don’t take any shit if it’s undeserved. Not by yelling and gung-hoing her down, but by being calm and rational. I’m pretty far from an alpha, too. I’m socially introverted and only stick to a close group of friends, I don’t try to be the dominant presence in the room, and when I’ve gone to parties or likewise, I never try to pull women and keep to myself and focus on just having a fun time without interactions with the opposite sex.

It just seems like a lot of how I conduct my relationship is in direct contrast to a lot of the advice I see in this sub. I have never acted with an abundance mentality, I rarely work out or try to increase my SMV, I never try to pursue other women or have plates. I’m slightly confused. Am I missing something? Not as in, questioning the RP theory, because I’ve seen it proven a multitude of times in social situations, and I’m not questioning the truth of virtually anything written in this sub, but, I seem to be doing a lot of things contrary to how this sub works and I have a wonderful relationship with virtually zero issues. Thoughts?

Just thought I should mention, we are both young, (I’m a 19M and she is a 19F), don’t know if that’s relevant.