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ManguZa/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 11:24 AM
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DISCUSSIONManguZa/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 07:26 PM
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Sound like date night is your expectation and he don't really care about it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/21 10:11 AM
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The risk is to confuse the reality with your feeling or the attitude you feel right to adopt. It's better to look at the facts than at your emotionnal representation of them.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/21 05:10 AM
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The main point is attractive. Thinner can be good... but can also be too much anorexic style. Or without curve which is not that attractive. But it's the same things with women really. Do they care more about attractive men than slobs? Of course. The only thing that change between genders is that they don't have the same list of attractive things.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 08:26 PM
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Yes of course, but that's only part of the equation. Your character also need to be attractive. Be respectful, gentle, joyful...
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 06:13 PM
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You shouldn't go too much too fast for sure (and it's true for men and women), but chances are that there wouldn't be any marriage if you don't show your worth first.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 12:39 PM
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That's great, nothing to add. You seem a wonderful wife to be with :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 10:53 AM
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Social network & Building him up in society. Emotional support. Cleaning, cooking, etc & assisting him when he needs. Children. Common interest is not mandatory, but showing some interest to whatever he likes is. Like you would do with a friend really.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 01:11 PM
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You can be both, but not at the same time, and if you want a happy love relationship, you better be very feminine when spending time with the man you choose. You can still be masculine when boxing or doing other things tho, you just have to learn how to switch.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 08:33 AM
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Harsh truth for sure, but it's important for her and her happiness that she realize the significance of her emotional abuse. Otherwise she will just reproduce it again and again. And next time it could be with another man with less self-discipline !
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 06:49 PM
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He's a man not woman, and he didn't act on this girl who was all over him ! He choosed you. That how much he love you & commit. Remember that men aren't hypergamic and attraction toward another girl don't say shit about his love for you. But he also have needs, need to feel attractive, need to feel loved, desired... and at that moment she probably fullfilled those needs more than you. He kept these texts because it's a fond memory when a girl show him so much attraction & attention... It should …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 07:25 AM
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Both are necessary, you set up with her for the looks (and promising attitude), you stay and commit (or leave) for the attitude. Attitude during bad times is so fucking important. Like a man who flaunt himself to be stoic and a good leader but who shy away if any difficulties present themselves. It's just the same things with a woman who can't keep her pleasantness in hard time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 08:46 AM
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It's not a red flag. You not being able to spark a romantic connection with men could be one tho (spoiler : giving "space" won't help). Fortunately you can find all you need to learn on this reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 03:28 PM
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"How well you treat him" is the thing men seek the most (especially after a failed relationship like he had), and it also talk a lot about your personnality, inner psychological qualities. Double dose on that and he will tell it sooner than you think.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 07:49 AM
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He have to feel loved. If you give him the impression that you're not happy to be with him, but sad too much, it certainly do not help.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 04:43 AM
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Vulnerabilities make a person real. "Perfection" is just fear to be open & authentic which is a red flag in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 03:15 AM
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Internet is not real. When you met it got real & he realize that the chemistry was just an illusion, and was too coward to be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 07:55 AM
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Currently reading Captivating from Vanessa Van Edwards, it's really great ! I already knew Dale Carnegie which also an eye opener. But, yeah, it's always very hard to do the first step when your own needs aren't fulfilled.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 12:30 PM
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"I'm constantly at his whim since he is the partner who wants it less - it feels like its always on his terms. Frankly, I feel like I'm in the masculine role." Is the masculine role is being at the whim of his woman for sex according to you? Things already improved by correcting your behaviour and working on emotional intimacy, if you get even better on it it will probably inspire more sex from him. A man's libido in a commited relationship is highly tied to how his woman make him feel.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 06:08 AM
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I still wasn't ready for sex with him..." => Man POV, she's not really attracted to me but only interested in my money/social status, better to break up than to be used again.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 05:45 AM
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I think it's perfectly normal. Husband and wife is how you consider each other, not what the society tells you authorize to do. Men takes marriage very much more seriously than women, which is why they ask for divorce so much less often. It's a real commitment for them. It's something you should inspire (over the years if necessary), not demand before any real commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 06:55 PM
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I think he want to be sure that you have a team mindset and are ready to invest yourself in whetever the family will need if necessary. To oppose with a selfish mindset which make you care about yourself before the relationship and family.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 09:14 AM
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I'm a man and hate heels, i find it not sexy at all. I think that most of the heel things is built by the society and not something instinctively sought by men.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 08:50 AM
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Did you make him feel wanted as he did with you? If not maybe he just backed off a little because of it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 06:38 PM
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First i'm not offended. Second i know this sub and like anywhere else there are those who get it and those that use the ideas here to unconsciously advance their agenda. Third you still don't get that men and women are differents. Those men don't want to pursue other women because their wife aren't attractive to them anymore, it can happens right, but they still want diversity with an attractive wife. You refuse the idea of sharing, all is fine with me, but you should understand that men don't t…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 08:11 PM
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That's the attitude i criticize, you see it like a "deal", a commercial exchange (and you lower what a man give in a realtionship). The thing that a man want probably the most is respect, care, someone who genuinely worry about him and his needs. To treat a relationship like a "deal" can only make a miserable marriage, and makes him more likely to cheat.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 04:01 PM
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I have nothing specific in mind, it's up to each marriage, yours examples are all fine. You can choose to trust him, or have spoken agreements (or even write them), it's not that shocking. In a women POV of course it's mostly problematic, because she don't feel the man need but feel strongly all the things which can go against her security need. Like some women refuse that their SO spend time and money on their hobbies. Same with some men who cheat (they shouldn't), they don't see why it's bad b…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 03:53 PM
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You realize that a man can totally say the reverse "If women want monogamy they can, but they shouldn't expect us to still commit with them". The point is that the person who talk like this is sex centered and refuse to consider the other POV and the idea of compromise. Sound like blackmail to me. A husband need to respect his wife's security needs, but i don't see why the wife wouldn't have to respect his diversity needs, ie being open to the possibility under certain conditions, even if it nev…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 11:40 AM
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I'm a bit disapointed by comments on that post : Men should compromise their diversity need for a woman, women shoundn't compromise their security need for a man. So few women here take the position of understanding the needs of men and only focus on their own. Not saying you HAD to accept sharing, but showing a bit of compassion wouldn't be too much.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 07:39 AM
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High Value Man won't cheat for sure. That said, they could want to openly pursue diversity and keeping their marriage at the same time. It's as much a need for them than security for women. Asking a man to forego the idea of diversity is the same as to ask a woman to forego any comparaison between her man and others, any hypergamy tendancies, any possibility of monkey branching... It can be done IF the SO really fulfill most of your needs but, as it's in our nature, it will instantly come back i…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 07:44 AM
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Seems like you don't know him as well as you should to call youself his friend. Ever try to understand him better, or just cut ties because it wasn't true friendship (from both sides) anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 07:32 AM
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It's like slut shaming. Women who act like slut shame others to look better than they are and destroy their competition in geeting a HVM commit. Women who are not feminine shame those who are, trying to look better than they are and destroying the competition. It's intra sexual competition, as HVM commit to non slut, feminine women, they don't want that HVM gets interested in you instead of them.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/21 06:24 PM
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Informations, discussions et réflexions sur l'anti-féminisme Pour celui que je connais en tout cas.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 06:39 PM
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Tu peux trouver des Français "Redpill" en cherchant anti-féminisme, sur Facebook par exemple. Nous ne sommes pas une majorité, et la culture de la féminisation à bien fait son oeuvre comme partout en Occident, mais c'est possible de trouver chaussure à son pied :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 06:31 PM
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Just propose & organize outside plan/date with him, if he come all is fine, if he say no each time but still want sex, he's probably not realtionship minded.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 07:23 AM
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"And that hit me. Because if he doesn’t trust me, and if i want a future with him, i have to become more trustable in his eyes" And he will never answer honestly your questions until you prove yourself. You ended thing once, why should he trust you now?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 07:20 AM
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You can absolutely giving your input, but that's not about it. When his woman compliment and admire his ideas and his actions, a man feel loved. Then, the more you want to give your input the less you make him feel loved. You can always give your input, but you should always remember that it come with a price. You lost an opportunity to build your relationship, to fullfilled your SO needs. It can come as very self centered. Like a man who don't know how to comfort a woman who cry, and tell her t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 08:52 PM
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I think you miss the point.It's not extra chores for the woman, nor having to clean for a man, it's thinking and acting as a team. You focus more on worrying to do more than the fairest amount, and less on the success of the relationship and finding a solution that work also for the man. That will be an issue in your relationship because it's a self-centered mindset. ​ First, chore distribution is efficient. Who have time to do everything twice, especially when you both work? If you cook yoursel…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 06:28 AM
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If you want to be important and memorable, be a wife & a parent. Almost nobody become famous by being a leader & innovator, like 0.0001% people and even then the persons they really care about are their family. Submissive women are attractive for men. If you want a happy couple then you better grow that part of you. It's like "being dominant" is sometimes rejected by men because society tell us that dominant men are bad... women are still attracted by them tho. It's just some sort of shaming !
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 08:13 AM
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Contacting him is unattractive only if it's done in a demanding way. If it's just something like "thinking of you, kiss", and letting things there without demanding anything, it can be really attractive. Cheerfully telling him something that you saw could interest him work too as long as you don't expect something from him in return.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 09:04 AM
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It can be both, but usually one is stronger than the other, and that influence one's attitude : - "I deserve better" make you belittle the other and search elsewhere where the grass seem greener, and again, and again, until you're left sad and alone. Actually, with that attitude, it's often not the other who are not good enough, but us which bring out the worst of him. - "I would like better" make you work on yourself to be worthy of the man you want (hoping there that you're expectations are on…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 03:12 PM
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Is it that you deserve better, or you would like better? It's very different. What are the amazing things you bring to the plate that make you so deserving? Humility is usually a good start.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 01:31 PM
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Every changes feel inauthentic at first, until you integrate them in your personality and then they become just another part of you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 02:46 PM
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You focus greatly on your job and the money you want, which is not wrong in itself. The issue is probably that he want your focus elsewhere : on him and your relationship, maybe on building a family. So, the more you focus on money, the more you go further from what he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 07:56 AM
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He want you to do it because you want that role and that responsability. He don't want you to do it because he forced you to do it against your will which would make you passive aggresive in the long term. It's like you want a protective man, but you don't want a man only protective because you asked him to do it, and explained him how to do it, but who don't really have that nature and won't do it without your incentive.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 06:26 PM
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Relationship, babies, or life, you seldom feel ready. But if it's what you want you go for it anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 06:37 AM
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Higher expectations & social shaming by feminists mainly. That's why so many 40yo+ feminist say they regrets to not have built a family.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 10:46 AM
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https://faculty.baruch.cuny.edu/rvalente/files/careerwomen.pdf
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 10:39 AM
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https://faculty.baruch.cuny.edu/rvalente/files/careerwomen.pdf
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 08:41 AM
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Studies about happiness show that SAHM is the occupation that bring the most happiness to women among all occupation. Of course we're individuals and stats are just stats, but still.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 08:59 PM
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This is, at least, very clumsy on his part and you should adress this communication issue. Anyway, to be constructive, there is a serious possibility that he try to say that he would like you to dress more sexy like these women, and act more flirtatious with him like he imagine these women would do. For your relationship try to show him that you try to understand & fullfill the need he tried to express.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 05:28 PM
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You seem pretty rough around the edge based of your writing. Maybe you're not as feminine as you think? That there are non enough masculine men in the world is a given, but that's often a vicous circle linked to non enough feminine women. Moreover, demanding respect and expecting some investment from women toward them (men) is a normal masculine thing. Traditionnal relationship is not all about protecting and loving the woman, it goes both way.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 11:06 AM
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Maybe that plain heterosexual girls are busy to be happy with their boyfriend/husband so they are less visible than others that need to be seen to feel important.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 10:35 PM
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Yeah, so i think that the hell you went through is the cause of it. The OCD was already the hell except he kept the issues for himself at that time instead of arguing. Now you are doing better, it's good enough for him to stop arguing and keeping things for himself again, it's not yet good enough to make him sexual with you again.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 05:41 PM
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What changed since then?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 05:20 PM
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95% probability that the problem is your non sexual behaviour with him which kill his love. Listen him, respect him, praise him, help him, give him gifts, show that you trust him, etc. Fulfill his needs and he will want to fulfill yours.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 04:47 PM
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Comparaisons between two differents cultures are always difficult, but cheating is not well seen at all in France.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/21 03:43 PM
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Bonjour Marie, bienvenue :) Je suis un homme Français, je traîne sur la sphère RP depuis quelques années et j'y ai vu d'autres françaises par ci par là, ou des étrangères expatriés en France. Et même celles qui sont à fond dans le féminisme ne le sont parfois que par effet de mode et veulent en fait autre chose dans leurs relations. En somme, tu n'es pas seule. En France le mouvement existe aussi il y a un groupe facebook éloge de la féminité et de la virilité par ex, ou sur Youtube Virginie Vot…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/21 03:05 PM
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I wasn't talking so much about lingerie than about showing yourself to him in a sexy way. Don't let your insecurities prevent you to make him know that you want to seduce him. It's not because you're a mother that you stop to be his lover.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 09:57 PM
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Married man with children's two cents : Men are visual so they want to see the body of their wife especially with lingerie. It's infinitely better to do it even with a postpartum body than not doing it (which is instinctivly interpreted as you not loving him). Eath healthy & work out, that's important, but don't wait to be satisfied with the results to show yourself in a flirty & sexy way to your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 06:12 PM
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Yeah it's kind of a typical flaw.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 09:39 PM
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Everything is always so absolute... there is a way between not caring and seeing the other as a child. You can care for the other like a lover, with masculinity or feminity. This is the issue in the mind of most women nowadays. "I don't want to be ..." and they go straight for the extreme opposite which is not less bad. "I don't want to be a fascist let's go antifa SJW and being just as much intolerant" "I don't want to be a slut let's not sleep with my husband" "I don't want to be frigid let's …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 04:33 PM
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Women aren't incapable to really care for their husband. It's just that in today culture they generally refuse to do it, even to think about it. Probably an education & culture problem.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 09:00 AM
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I would guess because of the dynamic : he see her as an unicorn while he's still just a guy at the gym. Not so much RP.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 08:46 AM
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An Alpha won't do it because he's not happy... it's like a woman won't do a second children because she's not happy with the first. It's because he/she is happy with the first one that he/she want more that's all.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 08:24 PM
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" So I tell him I didn’t do anything wrong and I’m not going to apologize or feel guilty and he’ll just have to trust me or we’ll never move past this. " Yeah it's sure a good way to show respect to your husband... He's cooking something and announce he will do eggs. Why didn't you ask him if it's fine that you use the frying pan first (and told him you could do his eggs), communication + respect? He wonder who is that guy on your Snapchat, yeah it look insecure but... you don't submit to him, y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 08:57 AM
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You see it with a Low Value & Fear Prism. So far from love. A low value man will use you for your wifey privileges and never marry you. A high value man will be glad for your wifey privileges and gift you the moon. The thing is to vet well and trust yourself about your choice, not to distrust the other which automatically make the relationship a failure on many levels... and scare HVM.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 08:34 PM
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I'll be blunt. You can't wait to be married because you're sure he's "heaven sent". He won't tell you that he don't feel the same but if he didn't follow up your clues it's probably because he don't feel you're great enough. He see potential in you, he hope that you can be the one, it's just that you didn't prove it to him yet. Women judge men about how they live their life, men judge women about how they treat them. I know that the usual advice here is to not give "wifey privilege" before marri…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 03:41 PM
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Np i understand your insecurities and it's a good thing that you work on them. Still sad for your husband tho. I hope he won't have to wait for years again before you fulfilled this need of him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 08:53 AM
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"I know for women, feeling desired is heavily tied to how often your partner approaches you for sex." Well for men too, if not for sex at least innuedo, admiration & submisivness. Lack of these can lead to a decreasing libido... with this particular woman.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 10:41 PM
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The thing is to differentiate between true affection which is not as dramatic as in tv shows and false affection which hide something else... (red flags).
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 11:39 AM
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Fear is not a vetting point.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 11:36 AM
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He's needy and is affectionnate only because he want you so much, he will never be able to tell no or criticize you honestly when needed, you won't respect him for that and yet it's the first step to love, thus you'll be miserable. You could only respect someone with boundaries, who won't be as affectionate, who will say no and criticize you sometimes, but one you could respect and truly love... because he would be worthy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 09:39 PM
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So much red flags. Rely on his brother, don't care for his son, maybe prison?! Moreover his behaviour with you is probably also a red flag. He just blind you with all that affection, it's manipulative... you shouldn't seek someone that fullfill your ego's "needs" but someone who know to go against your ego for your good and the good of the relationship when it's needed.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 07:13 PM
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The conditioning work just fine.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/20 08:58 PM
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The age gap is real, you have to be conscious that it will be hard to have your own children with him, and harder to raise them, and that if you stay with him it will also be harder to have a romantic relationship as he got older. He's married... but that's not the big deal. He have two small children which is. They will always have a great importance in his life, he will always share that parenting with his current wife, and their needs will have priority lot of the times. If you're 100% ready …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 11:51 AM
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Good, the perfect opportunity to work on your cooking and try new things.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 08:36 AM
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You didn't understand anything. You don't have to fuck anyone nor to applied "every tactics in the book". Just learn the rules of men/women interaction so you don't fumble for whatever you want to do with them.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/20 08:34 AM
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Yeah... seem like it's on him then, you sound like a great gf. Too bad, it would be so much easier to resolve (for you) if it was something that you did wrong. But you can't do the work for him. Try to make him take an active stance in resolving this problem then, assure him that you'll do your best to help him but you don't know what to do anymore. So communicate that to him and tell that you trust him to find a solution that work for both of you. It's a serious issue and if the relationship is…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/20 09:18 PM
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Is it possible that's a body language thing? When you not wearing make-up you feel scared easily of men being aggressive, they see it and subconsciously come fullfilled the expectation? Self-defense is always a good answer anyway, good sport, make you more able to defend yourself, and improving your confidence.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 08:33 AM
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You just need to work ++ on communication and expectation between you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 08:20 AM
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Seem like your behaviour is not sexual attractive to him. Do you flirt with him, tease him? Do you wear what he like? Do you initiate? Do you come on him, do you make love to him without him having to do anything else than enjoying? Do you tell him that you though about him all day and you want him in you? Do you beg him to do x and y to you? Do you say that you're his propriety and that you want that he use you (ok this one is not for everyone but if you're into bdsm ^^)? Do you do all of that …
/r/RedPillWives01/12/20 08:15 AM
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1) Pull-out is not a safe option. 2) Condom if good quality/right size and used correctly is 100% safe. 3) Doing it on your safe day is mostly safe if your menstrual cycle is regular (probably as much safe as the iud/the pill).
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 08:04 AM
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You actually came for judgement : "did i mess up or not?" Obv we don't have all the information but i don't think you will find many "not".
/r/RedPillWives30/11/20 04:51 PM
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Relaxation?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 04:49 PM
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Men try to be funny, lot of them failed pretty hard with that alright, humor is pretty hard to master... but the thing is that they actually try to build a connection with you where you laugh with them to become closer to you ! They also do it with attractive women, except for the numerous beta that try too hard to be nice with them. The best is to 1) laugh with them and build connection or 2) tell them that you understood that was a joke but that was too disrespectful to be funny.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 02:28 PM
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Better to spend money on learning actual skills than on useless things. Even if he's not efficient in learning. Telling that myself each day about children :) but if he never learnt before it's really the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 09:23 AM
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Stop harassing people when they ask so or else it will happen again with him or someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 09:21 AM
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Rethink your vetting process from the begining...
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:52 PM
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Be grateful for his help. Use that moment together to flirt, end even more. Praise him when he give great ideas. Do your homework yourself later and use some of his ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:45 PM
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Being flirtatous is nothing else than you liking him and showing it. If you don't like him, at least a little, why do you go on date with him? If you like him, at least a bit, why don't you show/tell that to him? It's not a commitment. If he don't have a positive feedback you could be the most perfect woman on Earth he won't call you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 03:49 PM
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If you try to make your bf (or bf's friends) feels that YOU are special this is bad. If you want that your bf feels special himself because you profoundly feel so yourself about him this is good.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 08:04 AM
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It's more than acceptable. You put your husband first, it's awesome.
/r/RedPillWives27/11/20 07:53 AM
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You can be poor and smart, strong, educated, strong willed, socially successful... You can be rich and stupid, weak, poorly educated, alone, unhappy... Money is not the only nor the main measure of a man, as beauty is not the only nor the main measure of a woman. Only superficial people think that, and they inherit lot of problem from that thinking.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/20 04:10 PM
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The RP give us advices that work because of our biological nature. This nature don't change with wanting children or not, or any other wanting. So yes sooner is better, especially as most HV men are taken quite fast and are harder to find later in life.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/20 09:02 AM
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Maybe he's just feeling the same. What do you do to build chemistry?
/r/RedPillWives23/11/20 07:51 PM
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I was thinking at why you didn't initiate yourself, or told him you'd like he do it?
/r/RedPillWives23/11/20 06:30 PM
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Why haven't you kissed him yet?
/r/RedPillWives23/11/20 08:30 AM
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If you love someone you don't say that you want to wait. You say yes and talk about when to do it.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 02:49 PM
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He talk with you about marriage and you say no to him. He should be the one to ask himself if you love him not the other way around. If you loved him you wouldn't ask to wait which is often keeping the boyfriend around until you find someone better... In this sub it's often said that marriage should come before living together, you can't be mad at him to not offered to stay with him with the issues with your dad and you saying not right now to marriage.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 10:42 AM
4

My thought is... ok you put lingerie but how do you act? Are you playfully submissive? Do you have the mirror behaviour that you want from him? Are you telling him what you want in very explicit term (and without complaining)? Reading you it seem like he has some issues. But you would never help him to resolve them without being more proactive yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 09:41 AM
7

What's the harder? Learning to love someone stable, or building a stable mariage with a man you love?
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 09:19 AM
5

You have to see the difference between going with what he say because you don't want to think about things and use him to manage things in place of investing yourself vs going with what he say because you thought about things and think he's right, and awesome, you can say in what, and you want to be of part of the managing process so he don't shoulder everything alone. The behaviour in both cases isn't the same at all and men are oversensitive to these differences.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 04:17 PM
8

Treat him as much as possible as an old school head of household. Go with whatever he say even when you don't specially approve, just to show that you trust him, and especially in public. Do things for him like cooking or taking care of his stuff, give of yourself as much as possible. Be sexually open. He will feel loved
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 01:53 PM
208

Maybe it's true if you just want to be married. If you want to be happily married, well, that's another thing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 10:46 AM
17

Seems like a covert contract. You don't wait to offer something precious to your future, you wait because you want that the other also wait. Not a good paradigm.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 09:13 AM
64

If she broke up with you it means that you didn't do half as well as you though. "The break up was all stress related" yeah gaslight yourself. An enamoured girl would come to you for stress relieving, not break up.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/20 06:18 PM
6

Don't live an unhappy life for what you think people would probably say. If you'd love to be a housewife, do it ! People around you might surprise you and even if they disapprove you can find more supportive friends. About your husband, don't resent him for taking time for himself. If he don't do it and get a burn out it won't help you nor your child. it's an important skill to know to unstress. Only you can say if you're too greedy or not. But if you often feel burn out at the evening you proba…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/20 05:01 PM
17

I don't know your financial situation but it seems to me that it's not as hard as people say to live on one salary. Sure you have to be cautious about all spending and do most things yourself (cooking, handiwork, breastfeed, maybe gardening...), but it's often doable. It's also possible to work from home with websites like upwork or such which can offer supplemental income.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 09:44 AM
3

So much this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 06:48 PM
11

This is not so much about looks than about feminine behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 06:45 PM
3

So much this !
/r/RedPillWives15/11/20 08:08 AM
8

It is not convenient for him but he want to do it anyway so it's absolutely not you pressuring him, respect his freedom of choice. You have two possibilities : -tell him he don't have to drive here to see you (ie : i don't really want to see you/love you) = destroy the relationship (fear drive you to the dark side). -show him your love and gratitude when he do that and make him feel loved = build the relationship.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/20 07:59 AM
3

" From female perspective this can easily cause the feeling of having been used. " I would say that the mirror male perspective would be having the feeling that our sexual impulse dragged us with a low quality female, or a female that we don't really want a LTR with, and we kind of regret it. Therefore the distance. That said, when you're in love and confortable with someone you don't always feel the needs to show off your feelings afterwards and can think about other life things. So don't jump …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 06:03 PM
6

I think that women here (and elsewhere) want RP men, or men that fullfill their masculine side in the relationship if you prefer. I also think that most men at TRP aren't RP, they see that's the goal, they try to get there, many fail, many don't understand what it involve, and those that succeed to incorporate it in their life don't go back on TRP or at least don't post as much.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 01:54 PM
6

My wife and i are from France.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 10:03 AM
4

There are things you can do while pregnant that are good for your body AND your child. - Frequent *light* work out. - Real food (fresh vegetables, fresh fruits, fresh meath/fish, cut the rest).
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 08:02 AM
7

Men there want to be attractive to fullfill their romantic goals. Women here want to be attractive to fullfill their romantic goals.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/20 08:28 AM
1

The idea that men and women are different and that each sex/gender have to fullfill his particular role to be happy in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 09:49 PM
5

Better than moving in after getting married, seeing that you're not compatible at that time and getting divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 09:09 AM
11

You don't have to quit your job to be feminine with men on date and in relationship. You just have to build these qualities in you and express them. If you don't do it masculine men will lose interest in you as fast as you do with low ambitious men.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 12:46 PM
2

This look like more a good friend prospect than a lover. Not saying that's not good qualities to have but not very love oriented. What about listening & supporting him (which is different to "chat"), being respectful, validating him in public, cooking for him, giving him children... what do you offer *for him*?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 07:21 AM
15

Well, i don't doubt that there are men with mommy issues that want that their wife take care of them like their mom did... but you shouldn't be with this type of men anyway. Vet Well. That said you need to tend your relationship, men as women. Lot of women get completely focused on the baby and don't think anymore at their husband, at their lover, so the relationship decline that's only natural... jealousy or not. It's the same thing with a husband that think only about work and don't show enoug…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 07:27 AM
7

Lol if a random stranger on internet say so i should believe him against all my irl experience and scientific reading sure. Moreover this is a "by comparaison". How familiar are you with men POV? Women are generally so oblivious to it...
/r/TheRedPill23/10/20 06:33 AM
4

If men can be this way ime it's a lot less rampant than in the feminine population. These are evolutive characteristics, men are more attached to facts because they confront themselves to the world, and women are more attached to social ideas that allow them to connect and manipule others more easily.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/20 10:51 PM
1

Men can be emotional, men can have relationship problems too. But if they do it/talk about it to a woman (or if she learn about it) they lose the sexual attraction that she (could) feel for them. And when a woman has no attraction for a man he's just worth being used in her eyes. I tried "breaking" the sigma younger. But i eventually got tired of being alone, ignored and scoffed at by women.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/20 10:44 PM
7

Women have the ability to think logically and they can even do it most of the time... it's just that they tend to not use that ability in their love relationship or when arguing about things that they care for emotionnally.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/20 08:01 PM
4

Most of what you think each day you don't tell. There is not enough time in a day anyway. Most of what you think about people you don't tell. You don't tell to the face of your boss what you think about how he manage things. You don't tell to your parents about the ideas you know they will be mad about. You don't tell to children that Santa Claus don't exist (at least not to those who are not yours). You don't tell to that feminist SJW friend that you're following RPW strategies, etc... Like Hap…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 02:17 PM
4

Every changes feel weird at first. Your nagging behaviour isn't you it's just what you're used to rely on because of your education and childhood environnement... All the same a RPW behaviour is not you it's juste another way to act in your life. One that allow you to have a happy relationship. You can get used to it, and it can become as natural as nagging if you allow yourself to reassess the way you adopted your behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 09:41 AM
3

If you need to add "i really do" it's because you're trying to convince yourself. If you really did you wouldn't say it but try RPW strategies again and again until succeeding.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 07:08 AM
2

It seem there is something blocking him to "fix it" in the long term. Did you ask him what prevent him to do those things you want? How could you help him to fix things up? And most of all, if he has things he want to be different in the relationship himself? So you can work on his needs and not on things he care less.
/r/RedPillWives16/10/20 07:38 PM
3

Like always it depend of the definition of the term. Sometimes people say that men are abusive when they want a stay at home wife... with that definition or similar "abusive" definitions abusive men are certainly an option. But if it's about violent men that take pleasure to be psychologically or physically violent, or don't know how to control themselves... this is of course not.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 10:53 AM
4

Either find ways to save the relationship by working on it (join him to "his" side of the bed, reconcile yourself with sex...) or just left (but chances are high that you will have the same problem with your next relationship).
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 08:28 AM
3

They probably wanted to marry them as soon as they would have shown the wife qualities they hoped for. But instead of working on themselves to deserve it, they choose to expect, ask and pressure for it, which failed obv.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 08:21 PM
6

If you let this pattern take root in you , it's likely that you'll end alone.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 07:55 AM
26

You say that he is everything you want in a man but at the same time you seem determined to leave him... something is so not right.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 06:58 AM
-4

Seem like you care more about judging her than about the relevancy of her ideas.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 08:31 AM
15

It's true, and it made me understand what feminist understand by equality in reality.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 08:17 AM
1

I agree with DelicateDevelopment. Saying "never compromising" is like a guy who would claim "never listening to his gf/wife input". The relationship is doomed from the begining because without respect nor love, only domination.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 07:11 PM
2

This is what love is. Even infatuation is the same, it's a kind of love focused on superficial aspects. These aspects create and nurture infatuation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 04:44 PM
10

I think no man can be into you without you cultivating love into him first and foremost. If you create good vibes in the relationship right at the begining it can feel "love at first sight". If you develop it over the time you can "fall in love with your best friend". If you try and it didn't work, and try again, it's "love by building together". In each case it's how you both manage the relationship that create and nurture love. Of course compatibility make things easier, and you still have to …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 12:30 PM
31

It is NOT realistic to expect or wait for love. But you could create and nurture that kind of love in a man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 10:13 AM
1

This
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:08 AM
3

He should have left you before letting your faults pushing him out losing control, he owns that. He didn't, so it's up to you to break that toxic relationship, at least until you got your own faults under control.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 07:25 AM
-14

A woman in a unhealthy relationship always participated to create it, at least by choosing her partner. "Leaving" isn't an advice that will help her to do better and chance are high that she'll reproduce the same unhealthy choice/relationship without some work on herself if she leave... and with that work it's very possible that the unhealthy relationship would become healthy !
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 12:51 PM
-16

THX to be amazing modo.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 06:13 AM
24

I disagree so much... You can be kind, agreeable, tender, etc AND refusing unbalanced relationship. Don't confuse both. It's not because some girls without self confidence appear kind by default that it's a veritable kindness. Kindness should not be used as to hide lack of other qualities like sociability or self respect. Incidently women are not outdone by men about taking advantage of "kind" people (meaning in reality people without enough self-respect).
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 06:49 AM
4

Seem like you didn't appear happy and joyful when in relationship with him (which is a red flag for men).
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 07:30 AM
2

Develop your social skill.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 08:06 PM
3

He can claim whatever and you believe or not believe but the reality is you don't have as much sex anymore. It's not fully fixed yet.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:29 PM
2

Seem like we lack informations... you should think hard and find what caused that change, especially if it was overnight. There should be something.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:03 PM
3

I think this is the issue. If he don't feel you're his lover but more a roommate it can kill his sex drive. You have to make him feel that he's the number one for you, before the kids, find time to have fun together (not talking about sex), take his side and validate him, etc. Work on that and sex should follow, but it take time to reignite a feeling (often months).
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:13 PM
-2

To not insist to doing/paying your part when the opportunity arise can easily be a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:25 PM
2

Have you talked to him about it? Is there any other issue like you being disrespectful to him in public? How is his health?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:23 PM
-11

This, but don't make a big deal about money if you don't want that he see you as a gold digger. He don't have to pay everything even if he want to.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:28 AM
-10

He's attracted to you or else he wouldn't have married you/have sex with you. Just tell him calmly that it hurt you when he talk about your flaw/compare you negatively with other women and ask him politely to not do it anymore. Which is 100% legit. Or you can not communicate and go the drama queen road.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 11:34 AM
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My extreme cases are frown upon, are scary by themselves, don't have much benefit, it still happen. Repressing one personnality to follow social injonction are more harmless, risk-free (many people go with ones they don't love to not risk to be rejected by the ones they love) and socially validated, that's explained it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 06:34 AM
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Evolutionary psychology don't say that you can't want or do things against your instinct and attraction. People kill themselves, hurt themselves, repress their personnality to go with social injonction... neurosis is everywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 07:24 PM
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Lot of things can affect our natural instinct. Fear can lead to validation seekness, to avoid confident men by confusing them with oppressive ones, etc. But no women find happiness by taking that road.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 06:34 PM
3

Evolutionary psychology is per nature not (modern) feminist, i don't see how it could have swallowed it...
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 11:54 AM
6

In warrior times women have to be useful more than now ! Some people have just fantasies that never was real...
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:07 AM
5

If you're sick, or if you break your leg, do you expect that your husband help you with the house/raising children? He have to know how beforehand to do that... It's the same thing with financial difficulties. You're supposed to be a team that support each other. Life is not a Disney ideal where you can live your dream. You can work toward your ideal but you have to be realistic and be prepared to help your SO and work for your marriage/family in any situation.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:38 PM
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Men and women have different romantic taste. Women are attracted to "Alpha" men which mean competent, confident, smart, successful men. Men are attracted to respectuous, humble, joyful, caring women, qualities that are sometimes called submissive ones. Then RP advice that to have a successful romantic relationship you should nurture in you the qualities that are attractive to the other sex and choose a SO that have the qualities that are attractive to your sex.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 06:00 PM
1

Respectuous is a good start.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 09:26 AM
0

A push up now and then is not the problem. The problem is always using it, being cautious of not showing your boobs without it, not talking about them while you see them as an issue yourself. This is as much lying as a guy who make you believe he's wealthy when he's not. What should you do? 1) listen to me when i say you're not defined by your boobs 2) don't always wear a push up/hide them, 3) allow him to be surprised if they're different than what you make him expect 4) don't be toxic in react…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 07:27 AM
1

I'm so shocked by all the reaction here. I will be downvoted to hell but anyway : - You are not your boobs. Nobody is perfect and if your boobs are unattractive it's not big deal because you're much more than that. - You lied to him (push up bra, no showing them, no talking about them), he was surprised which is perfectly normal (with time he would have been used to them), you pushed him to tell you what he thought which he did because he respect you. Even if he could have been more diplomat, ly…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 09:39 PM
5

You should talk about it, but not in a confrontationnal way. Not "Hey, when do you plan to marry me? You own it to me" But "Baby, i think so much about getting married to you atm, it would be so wonderful. How do you think we should organize that?" (it's important to use "How" and invoke the problem solving ability of the man ^^). And one thing at a time, keep the baby talk for later ;)
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 03:25 PM
7

"it means a lot to me, and I also have never found myself in a place of seriously talking about it". That's an issue, you should be able to talk about things important to you in a relationship. If you don't want to be confrontational (and you should) don't ask, tell him what you would like (live your life married to him and have his children) and let him say what he think about it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 09:36 AM
8

I know that some people won't agree with me but... if you want commitment, you should show that you're worthy of it. How could he know that you do these things in gf/wife stage? Show him respect. Compliment him, tell him he's very generous/skilled, that you're lucky to date him. Take the initiative to help him each time you see it would be appreciate... He indicate that he would take care of your financial security, do the same with his emotionnal security... men don't get many support of that s…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 01:18 PM
8

Do more with gratitude, enthusiasm, valorisation (especially in public), helping, taking care of him... that's your side ;)
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:17 PM
53

Your mom seem quite wise, listen to her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 03:22 PM
1

I'm a man and i had the same timeline as you.I choosed to register to a lot of hobbies and classes to meet people (girls). Like i was in a orchestra, a student theatre company, i was also taking yoga, writing and couple dancing classes. It took 5 years but at 24 i found the one and we had our first baby soon after. Now i'm 36 and have three children. Meet people, become friends with them, and find a way to be close to those who interest you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 06:45 PM
-15

He work part-time on top of his studies to pay a bit more and you do not right? How is he not assuming a provider role? Also don't change something that you love because you suddenly want what? More power? If you want to be married just tell him instead of playing games.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 07:33 PM
3

By accepting what other say and do at face value and understanding how they came to that. Without making it about yourself.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/20 03:52 PM
4

And people are at much higher risk of any psychological violence from women than they are from men, which destroy lives all the same, and are more common. It's not an adder vs a corn snake, it's more like black adder vs puff adder.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 08:36 AM
2

Just tell them, it's not a real friendship if you can't call on them when they're sexist.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 07:13 AM
6

It's just bad advice. You should advice you children to be careful about toxic people, men AND women, and not generalize to any sex.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 07:04 AM
-1

The things he won't tell you is that he also need to feel that you still love him after an argument, and sex do that. Have you sort out why do you feel sad afterwise? And do you find a satisfying response to the original problem? (If it's the case it's kind of doubly justified, but, if not, there is a communication problem)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 08:41 AM
1

I guess it depend what you mean by "wife benefits" but most of the times what i read in this sub aren't sacrifices.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 09:19 AM
11

Because if he don't see your qualities he won't invest. Because a woman don't suddenly change with marriage, not positively in any case.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 08:46 PM
9

Well, in a relationship you vet the other, are 50% responsible of what the relationship become, and 100% responsible of what you accept from the other.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/20 03:17 PM
4

" He was completely devoted to me and treated me like a queen since day one " " I did everything right " " last year he cracked and went on a cheating spree, developed an alcohol problem and got fired from his job." " he became emotionally abusive " Something don't add up. As no one ever do everything right it's probably the second quote. Not saying he's right with what he did, but if you don't assume your part of responsabilities you'll just waste time again with your next relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/20 07:41 AM
4

One of my favourite movie of all times, i watch it with my kids every Christmas :) and i share your analysis.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/20 08:39 AM
7

It doesn't look like something that will resolve things to me. But you don't give lot of details so. You should try to initiate conversations about sex during this one month off : how each other see sexuality in a relationship and what need it fullfill, what each other expect when one person want sex and the other not, what make each other in the mood, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/20 05:17 PM
1

Everyone can make mistakes... if it's the case she should reflect and get better not blind herself that all she do is always fine.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 07:47 AM
2

What you say don't have any importance if front of how you act, and you described that. You decided to not answer but question my presence on this sub which also denote a lack of arguments. Maybe it's you that don't understand the aim of this sub?
/r/RedPillWives07/07/20 12:59 PM
-1

without doing anything to help him You don't have to assume, just to read what was writen.Calling the cops or go to the neighbours won't help in most cases anyway : the attack will be probably over by then. Women do that to protect themselves and the kids not to help the man. But they should help if they really consider the kids. If your man is killed you have to find another one as a single mom, not so easy, meanwhile your kids are vulnerable to another aggression. And if you find another man w…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/20 11:19 AM
0

It make me sad for him actually. Self sacrifice to the extreme. This is like submission to the point of repressing what you are, think and feel for a woman, not sane.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/20 09:34 AM
0

You put him out of reach first obv...
/r/RedPillWives07/07/20 06:24 AM
2

Married, three kids, i obv don't say one shouldn't keep the kids safe, but after putting the kids out of reach you come back to help your husband, at least if you love him that is.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/20 06:21 AM
5

Enthusiasm and the will to learn is better than any experience.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 06:19 AM
-4

I find that disgusting and no man should ever be with a woman that have so little loyalty.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/20 06:51 PM
-2

He make more sense to fight 2 vs 1 regardless of the strenght of each person. 2vs1 you're almost assured to win, one ran away the other have 50% chance of dying.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/20 06:50 PM
1

12? seriously?
/r/RedPillWives04/07/20 02:05 PM
4

Emotionnal intimacy and trust aren't something that just happen, it's something one build. A man can feel it with his gf/wife, or not, depending of the person and the relationship. The two comments you quote can make one think that maybe something lacked in this aspect in your previous marriage (i consider your marriage over as there are several posts in your history about dating again).
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 06:43 AM
18

Men also associate how much women desire/love them by their initiation or incentive to initiate sex. Because there is truth in that association even if it's not direct. Before worrying of the decline of his initiations maybe you should worry about your own lack of initiation. He probably don't talk with you about it because he doesn't you to feel obligated or pressured to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 06:16 AM
1

Do i seem upset? Just saying that i don't understand why you consider things like Covid and your pregnancy when the situation should already be settled by your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 07:14 PM
0

That's what i said : she project herself in a world where she's not married.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 08:51 AM
-1

So you mean that your fidelity for your husband is second to your fear of disease? Or else you don't even have to ask yourself about COVID because even if you weren't immunocompromised, you wouldn't meeting that other man out of respect for your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 06:46 AM
4

Number 3 should be 1.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 07:41 PM
3

What's emasculating isn't important, you should focus on what is disrepectful. It's the same thing... but with a confident man !
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 05:30 PM
0

Well it's not because he settle for it (and i understand him, nowadays prompt and enthusiastic response are already difficult to find) that he would'nt prefer that you also propose something now and then.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 03:19 PM
9

I disagree so much with the original post... for this exact reason : there needs to be a mutual interest. What you adviced upward can easily be read as to stop giving your share of interest by letting him be the only one to take the first step. Any good man will lose interest in you if you don't give him that much respect. So yes he need to reach out too and you mustn't be the only one to do it and organize things. But please don't forget to remember to your reader that it's a balance and that t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 02:57 PM
54

When you see women acting like evil robots you don't generalize the same because you're a woman and you look to yourself as a reference instead of them. You just have to consider these men as not representative in the same way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 05:57 AM
1

What this label mean to you and why do you use it? Because if you hear it like that you could only understand that you're attracted first by women, second by your boyfriend. If you're not attracted first by your boyfriend (and so not so close of a lesbian) he's not really your boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/20 08:22 PM
2

You don't *really* know him as you don't know him irl. It's bad as you emotionnally invested so much in something that is not real. It's can be good in a sense because it mean that the relationship real dynamic will only settle when you'll meet... so if you play your cards right you can make the little sister thing disapear at that moment. But you should stop talking of everything with him and just insist to meet irl.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 06:02 AM
1

Until you met him irl you're not his sister, nor a friend, and your crush is nothing more than wild imagination. You're just internet relationship. Get real.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 09:27 PM
2

You want him to get confuse about how consider you and change that idea that you're like his little sister. Well if you're serious about him that is. But wait, online friend ? You never met him irl? First things to change imo.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 07:07 PM
-2

Be overflirty with him
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 06:02 AM
1

In that case waiting shouldn't work better..
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 06:06 PM
-3

A woman shouldn't wait but actively inspire "milestones".
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:00 PM
7

It's definitely something to talk in person. Just tell him that's something you really enjoy and you're sad he don't do it much, then ask why if he has an issue with it. You can also follow up by asking if he has some sex fantasies he would like you to make happen.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 03:49 PM
8

I don't know you nor him, but yes it's probably reversible if you understand what you did wrong and know how to have a more positive behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:44 PM
12

You totally undermined yourself and gave an advantage to any other women, even if this one didn't exist.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:06 PM
13

You are your worst enemy. If you're afraid of her you should do your best to stay on his good side... not argue him into a break.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 12:52 PM
4

Look will only get you some ONS or FWB, if you want a marriage you need to work on your behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 07:13 PM
1

Ok, this is NOT initiating. You ask him to initiate if he want. Obv i don't know him and the situation can be very tough for you. but to initiate is talking (or showing with touch etc) about *you wanting him*. Not "do you want me?" But "i want you so much" If that's still not work, and as you already talked to him about that, it probably mean that he not feel it because he lack something in his life or the relationship. Up to you to find what. It can be that he need to feel more listened or resp…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 04:10 PM
1

You're obsessed with virginity and feeling guilty about it... you need to get over it. All these negative emotions YOU have about yourself will impend your relationship and kill your bf love more surely than any lack of virginity.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 07:22 AM
3

Initiate kissing and cuddling often in the day, several short moments. It will grow on him. Try to agree (enthusiastically) for sex even you don't feel like having it (if you don't do it how can he?). How do you initiate? If he feel bad, it would be better to find ways to relieve his stress before initiating sex as the reason he refuse may be because he don't feel listened.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 07:08 AM
1

Loving Nathalie Kelley voice in the serie "the Baker and the Beauty".
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 08:55 AM
2

It's great that you're conscious of that influence... tough childhood it seem :( i hope you won't let it destroy you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 08:52 PM
3

You can choose any life you want, and you don't have to feel guilty for that. That said, after reading your post, i feel like your choice is more driven by fear of feminity, sex and men than by a real inner desire. If i'm wrong never mind, if not maybe some introspection will help you to not waste your life in something that is only a default choice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 08:46 PM
1

So you think that a man shouldn't pay for dinner at the restaurant before marriage because it would give a woman wife privilege before marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 07:22 AM
0

Let's agree to disagree here :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 05:44 AM
-2

How should he earn that? And why women shouldn't earn commitment the same way? Edit : i agree with the - if that's the only thing she offer she's not that interesting, i talk about lot of other things and it was just examples. But, if she can't offer at least sex and some food, why bother to even look at the rest?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 07:05 PM
0

Yeah, because everyone buy cows without checking if they're dry or productive... And in your theory, how a girl get commitment from a guy? And how a guy should get sex from a girl? It's by killing expectations that you have to destroy covert contracts, not by restraining yourself to give anything to the other and the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 06:08 PM
-9

If a guy want sex with a girl, he won't just wait by himself, he will try to seduce her by showing his strengh (mental and physical), his reliability, his sense of humor, his sensuality, that he desire her, etc. Same thing if a girl want commitment from a guy she shouldn't just wait, she should go to the gatekeeper and pay her respects. Being extra nice, cooking things, showing passion & admiration, telling that she want to share her life with him... No girl should give sex at a guy that just wa…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 11:37 AM
-1

He says he wants to quit and has mostly stopped seem fine to me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 07:54 AM
0

you tell him what you want, and see how he respond. no you must seduce him in wanting to commit to you, do you imagine a guy wanting sex with you and waiting that's happen? talk about this irl after some good time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 07:52 AM
12

You were ready to have sex the first time you meet him, but you can't accept a "cheap" date. Preposterous.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 01:07 PM
39

Tell him he's extraordinary and you're lucky to be with him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 07:00 PM
5

Being a slut to your boyfriend is kind of your duty in the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 12:06 PM
1

Great read.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 01:59 PM
10

Intimacy can be built. And everybody have to build it anyway because even if there was infatuation at the begining it only last few years and you have to work for it afterward. The ones that say otherwise was infatued AND educated to work on intimacy since the begining.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 06:26 AM
-1

Yes except it also depend of what you call abuse. We aren't perfect and everyone had a misplaced word or action. So what's your definition of abuse which could warrant a break up? And is that definition can be applied to everyone? Not saying a break up can't be the righ move, it can certainly be. I just find that some person are pretty quick to judge a relationship they know quite nothing about.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 07:38 PM
0

I quote from memory but it should be something like that, my data comes from this book : https://www.amazon.fr/Intimate-Partner-Violence-Perspectives-Research-ebook/dp/B07QF2Z1QX/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1587735108&sr=8-2
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 06:28 PM
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60% of intimate abuse is reciprocal and it's impossible to tell who started. If you're being abused you shouldn't accept it and ask your partner to work on himself or quit him AND you should look at youself because you're probably part of this majority who need to work on yourself too. Moreover people shouldn't comment as if these situations are black or white.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 05:52 PM
5

The thing, with twitter/anime girl, are NOT their breast nor outfit... It's their (perceived) behaviour. So what he seek in those is probably an exaggerated desire for him. Having big breast or that outfit have no meaning in itself, it's symbolic of a girl who would be cute, lovey dovey and lewd with him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 07:01 AM
2

Look above.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 03:39 PM
5

Choose what interest you, ie Pharmacy. Even if you don't get the PhD and don't make good money, you still can make some money and more important have a job that interest you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 07:19 AM
2

It's definitely not the men approach.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 07:14 AM
3

He want to avoid exposure to particular toxic behaviour(s) of your. But he still love you. He expect that you will remove these behaviour(s) in you and come back to him with positive behaviours that will make him happy to rebuild a beautiful relationship. In short take your responsabilities within the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 07:12 AM
-1

I think so too. The thing is you have to rely on the other in a relationship (or else it certainly won't be long term or happy). How are you supposed to buy a house, make children, etc without trust? This is also why vetting is so important. You could do visualisations on how you would be in an ideal marriage and work on embody it. The thing is you create what happen to you. If you fear divorce and distrust your SO agenda he will feel your reservations and pull away which is the road to divorce.…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 09:15 AM
0

Your main preoccupation in your post seems to be able to divorce. This is what you talk about : your fears. If you want a marriage your main preoccupation should be to be someone who could make a man happy, you should talk about what you want to bring to him. With the wrong state of mind it will be very hard to find someone to settle down and even harder to have a happy marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 08:10 AM
6

It's been 10 years you preparing yourself for a divorce... you should change your state of mind.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 09:16 PM
1

If it was a want there wouldn't be a need to say it on RP subs... they rather accept it as mandatory to keep a positive relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 07:18 AM
2

They mean that they shouldn't let their wife see the entirety of their negative emotion because she won't be able to manage it and she will lost attraction. They can express their negative emotion but with control (and if you control the emotion you don't really need emotionnal support). Of course it's nevertheless beyond welcome if the wife encourage, listen and cheerlead... sadly plentiful do not that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 05:15 PM
12

You can find pretty basic work out on https://darebee.com/ You can adapt them to your condition, and repeat several time a day for max results.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 01:45 PM
3

Would you be fine with all your money but without him? If it's the case you shouldn't be with him. If you need & want him because -something positive- just show that and stop overcaring about money.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 07:47 AM
1

With that state of mind, what a men should insist to have before proposing?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 05:16 PM
2

I think that moving together, choosing to have kids, etc are much bigger commitment than marriage. And marriage is often only romantic for the woman.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 04:00 PM
36

Some women are married but never act as a wife (sometimes not even as a girlfriend). Same thing with men. It's not about marriage it's about the intensity of commitment between the two people. Whatever the situation, if you're truly commited towards each other you're his women and he's your man.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 08:10 AM
1

For a man "snack" aren't something that could fill him. Moreover if he's careful about what he it, he could want a real him instead of snack... and he want something like that come from you, not because he asked and you feel compeled to do it. Anyway you should probably try to have a meal ready at "meal time" for him. Worse case he eat it later when he's hungry, best case? You becom so much more attractive to him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 06:47 AM
5

It seem like he lack support from you in the past and try again to get it from you. It's very important that you find a way to fullfill those needs. He won't change before. About him waiting, it will take time, no other way. About him not getting enough respect at work : it's a soft way to say that he didn't feel respected enough at home in the past and that he need a lot more now (and that's why he say it *to you*). Show him how lucky & grateful you feel, and be cautious about respect - it's ho…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 06:40 AM
17

Muscles for men are like b**bs and a** for women. Up to you to see if you want to be physically desired.
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 10:01 AM
2

I understand that a man in love (or in "seduction mode") will say that he love independance if it's a caracteristic of the woman he love. I was thinking of men talking about their wanting, without any women to directly refer to, which affect their speech.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 06:45 AM
1

You could probably do better anyway.
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 08:16 PM
1

Seem like your wife was attracted by you back then (lot of sex), but not now. Time to reassess yourself.
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 06:17 PM
0

How do you change since you were dating?
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 04:59 PM
3

I'm French. Macarons and pastry shops are mostly a feminine thing here too. To affirm something don't make it true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:18 PM
2

I'm not so sure that being submissive is mostly trauma either. We agree on not furthering someone trauma though, and also that kinks are not a coping method... that don't make kinks something bad or not normal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:43 PM
2

That's seem fine except you assume that being dominant is always linked to complexes or trauma instead of giving concrete elements that it's really abuse. Of course it can be the case, but it's not mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:31 PM
4

It's what i wanted to say but better formulated. Worth a star.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 04:25 PM
1

How do you know something is normal or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:10 PM
2

And when women like it too, is it still not normal?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:09 PM
6

they love a relationship with an independent strong woman Really? I'm quite surprised, i don't know any men that say that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 04:00 PM
76

To be respected and to be desired.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 03:08 PM
8

It's not a big deal if your wife don't orgasm each time, in fact women can felt pressured to orgasm and it's a recipe to bad sex. https://darebee.com/ for body weight exercices, you can go a long way with push up and pull up, but lifting add a lot of options and there isn't much to fear besides the novelty. You shouldn't fast a whole day as it can slow down your metabolism. Intermittent fasting where you don't eat before noon is better. You should be more assertive even if you don't care. She as…
/r/RPChristians24/04/20 03:08 PM
4

Sexual violence is the only violence that are higher in male on female than female on male (physical and psychological violence are higher in female on male). Lot to learn about intimate violence in this book : https://www.amazon.fr/Intimate-Partner-Violence-Perspectives-Research-ebook/dp/B07QF2Z1QX/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1587735108&sr=8-2
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 01:32 PM
1

By showing off and maintaning your statut in the male hierarchy you also build your attractivness. You nurture an attractive overall behaviour and a social statut that others will propagate in others situations. It's seldom about what happen now but rather on how it'll affect your future prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:07 PM
0

To be honest i didn't scroll far and i don't care. But if it take that to find lot of "no" that mean that i'm not an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 04:32 PM
1

It's both, but in a discussion about attractivness you can't do as if it don't exist. When you show off there is always a part of you that try to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 02:47 PM
1

I don't think so. What i read here is : "Yes, but i stopped showing it with women who don't care about men (most of them)" "Yes, but your example is bad" "Yes, but not when women use those issue to create drama instead of trying to resolve them" The only one who wrote a "I couldn't care less" is OP about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 08:44 AM
1

At the instinctive level it's linked, even when it's not a the conscious level.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 08:36 AM
1

Women want strong men, stonger than their emotions. If they're too emotionnal, talk too much about them etc they're weak and they can't trust them. If they're too cold, never show their emotions etc it's because they can't handle them and must repress them, they're weak and they can't trust them. A strong man know how to talk about his emotions without doing too much nor losing control because he's stronger than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 08:29 AM
6

IME most men AND women don't exert effort after the honey moon phase. That said among people i know, it's a bit worse with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 03:31 PM
6

Yes, and most men around me does too. Moreover women ask for this empathy. That's why it's hypocritical that they pull men down instead of empatizing too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 03:29 PM
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Or *some* men become aggressive when women talk about their issues because women don't take them seriously when they talk about theirs and it's unfair. They return the favor in sort. And if women did that everyone would be empathic to them, but not with men. Women lose men some time ago. They're responsible for that, even if they abhor and refuse any responsability, without speaking about doing something to resolve the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 01:23 PM
1

Yes of course, but it's secondary. Our primordial needs are survive & reproduce. Our instinct push us to do that, and, regardless of how you show off, it's firstly to be sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 07:47 AM
5

Stop sabotaging yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 08:36 PM
7

A large part of emotional in a relationship for the man is how the woman makes him feel. If she refuses to put effort in other aspects of a relationship, he will not want to put emotional effort with her because he feels the connection is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 05:20 PM
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There is so much things wrong. First what you call "emotional efforts" isn't attractivity and, if girls like these efforts, it's not something that make them wanting sex. Women crave connection from their partner, but the partner too, and women can't expect that men will do "emotionnal efforts" when they do not. Lastly you have the conception that sex is for the man, which is also wrong. Sex is for both. It's for the man only when there aren't any true attractivity and the woman are in the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 04:57 PM
1

It mean that women are used to show their bodies to anyone... which can lead to sex quicker, which imped fidelity, which are important to men because they instinctively want to be sure of their paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 02:56 PM
1

Let me rephrase : Do you not show off about the books you've read to be sexually attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 10:19 AM
0

Do you not show off to be sexually attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 09:52 AM
0

Looks and status can get you OYS but personnality is first for long term attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 11:28 AM
1

Everyone isn't smart. Moreover we leave in a society that tell us constantly that there aren't any psychological differences between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:39 AM
1

They hate it when the woman make them believe that she might want be with them to use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 08:14 PM
2

That's very good, i was myself educated as a "nice guy" i put in effort and research to understand women and change my approach. Sadly most people don't put effort in anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 06:55 PM
4

Well it's not that they want women to be men. It's just that they have a hard time to project themselves in women's mind. It's usual to heard that men can't understand what it is for a women to be catcall on the street etc. Women also don't understand lot of thing about being a men (you need a lot of explanation to begin to apprehend the situation of nice men for example).. It's the responsability of parents to teach that to their children... but obv it don't work in all familly. Failure of educ…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 06:33 PM
1

You don't understand. "Behave like you want others behave with you" work because everyone want the same thing : civility. These men think that attractivity work the same. They think that by being extra nice with girls it will make them attractive to them... *because it work for them* when girls are extra nice with men it make them attractive ! Here everyone don't want the same thing and that's where they stumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 06:25 PM
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That's not it. They want civility so they give civility and have civility back, it work because others want civility too, that's the social contract. They want sex with a nice girl so they're nice with girls (nice is more than civil) and it don't work because girls don't want the same thing in matter of sex. They don't understand that difference (especially today where people say there aren't any difference between men and women), don't know how to "seduce" differently, and they are angry becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 06:16 PM
0

They don't know that they don't understand !
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 06:04 PM
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The social contract is that you should behave with others like you want others behave with you. And that's what they do, they're nice with women because they want them to be nice with them. It work for the society, it work with friends, it work with familly... it don't work for love because men and women want different things and kindness isn't that attractive for a woman. They don't understand, they feel that the society and women betrayed them and get angry. It's not that "someone" lied to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 04:42 PM
1

Without counting the effort they do for strangers but not for their SO ! (Dress up, being nice, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 11:47 AM
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Because what's the most interesting in sex isn't the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 11:36 AM
8

" He loves to cuddle in general but now more than ever. " He seem to be afraid or to feel guilty about something. If it's the case, it should help to make him talk about it.
/r/RedPillWives17/04/20 06:52 AM
0

She's afraid about something, maybe linked to her past? Find what it is and you'll have an opening.
/r/askMRP16/04/20 08:48 PM
1

There a lot of ugly guy who are also assertive, or rich, or high statut... who are successful with women. Men are bitter when they don't know what is attractive to women, build unattractive features that they think should be attractive, and are overwhelmed by a feeling of injustice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:29 PM
1

Depend if you talk about OYS or longer relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:33 PM
8

It's precisely the opposite ! Beautiful people are treated better and so they don't need to be nice to have friends etc, they can be selfish and manipulator and still have a social life. With time they just grow entitled. Ugly people are generally humbler and know that social life is based on cooperation, so they are nice with the others. They don't have a choice if they want a social life. Incels don't have a shitty personnality because they're ugly but because of their ignorance and the bitter…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:32 PM
1

Looks are important too oc, but it's second to assertivness if you want more than an ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:23 PM
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A "good guy" don't have option because he lack assertivness. A "bad boy" have a lot of option because he has lot of assertivness. But you can have assertivness and being good, it's just uncommon. Like women who are both beautiful and nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 11:06 AM
3

TRP advice men on how to be attractive to women, lot of them don't go to club. RPW advice women on how to be attractive to men.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 08:49 AM
9

If you think he deserve it get married and a joint account. If not tell him that you'll stop working on the house until you have a car in your name and some money to use.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/20 08:47 AM
3

You should lift, not to lose weight but to gain muscles. Read your old post, if she ask about the future and not now it's probably because she's not that much into you... and you don't find her attractive... you should pursue marriage only if both you are 100% sure and neither of you is, so it's a no. Work on your own attractivity ++ and settle later with one that truly make your heart beat.
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 08:09 AM
1

I don't know who is "we", some are blinded for sure but lot of people aren't. All women want assertivness moral or not. It's just that you mustn't confuse assertivness with tyranny, like you mustn't confuse kindness with hypocrisy... You seem to do that and no wonder, because RP adept do it a lot. The answer is not to go against our instinct, it would kill the love, it's to learn to recognize that these are differents things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 07:48 PM
1

It's destructive if these points take too much importance and blind you about others ones for sure (beauty is more an issue for men that kindness though). But it's not mandatory... Anyway what's RP try to do is telling "nice men" (and "assertive women") that you shouldn't treat others like you want to be treated but like they want to be treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 07:25 PM
1

Every men give importance to kindness in women, every women give importance to assertivness in men. It's not only TRP and such. Those groups have just lot of people who have a hard time to consciously adapt to this reality. An education failure more than anything else really.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 10:28 AM
1

They're not damaged in any way. It only mean that for evolutionnary purpose men want niceness in a woman, and women want assertivness in a men. generally what's attractive for a sex is precisely what the other sex is not. It's perfectly sane in each other perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 08:17 AM
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The "nice guy" isn't entitled, he just don't understand. He can be bitter as a result of his lack of understanding but it's not the cause of it. Why he doesn't understand? *because he himself want niceness*, he want a nice girl and think that other want the same thing as him. And that also why he became nice and not otherwise. The "bad boy" by comparaison isn't less entitled, he became a bad boy because he knew it was "cool" and that it will give him the girl. The only difference is that he thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 05:51 PM
1

You're not the only one to have noticed this at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 09:52 AM
1

Well I’ve met plenty men that don’t want to be used for their penis alone. Again, i have no problem with what you say about attractivity. It's the quoted sentence and especially the word "used" that bother me. That don't seem very respectful to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 11:11 AM
1

I agree with that, it was never my point though. My point is that you have an utilitarian & deshumanizing approach of relationship with men. You say that you'll respect and desire the man you marry but when i read you i can't imagine you to respect any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 10:50 AM
3

It's refreshing to read someone who make so much sense. TY
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 10:47 AM
2

I don't know about that. Just shocked about what your choice of words tells about you and similar minded women. I think that lot of shaming toward men for objectifying women comes from women who are the one who do that with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 10:21 AM
1

They're no men that want to be "used". They want to be respected and desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 09:26 AM
3

Depend of you (your attractivity), the woman you choose and how you manage her. It could work and worth it.
/r/askMRP12/04/20 09:22 AM
3

I think that you need valorisation (something very natural) and specifically for your intellect. This is probably why you lose your temper : because you're frustated that the others never recognize your merit and fullfill your need. It's much easier for those who need physical validation et have that on instagram... Sadly, humility in front of knowledge is beyond rare nowadays, so you'll have to learn to control your behaviour. It's very important that you understand that most people don't reall…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 06:46 AM
1

I have already been admonishing her uncontrolled emotional outbursts, making it clear that I view it as bad behavior; a terrible example for the children. You could try to gently laugh at her immaturity instead of scold her, depending of the situation.
/r/RPChristians08/04/20 07:18 PM
3

Ease off on the lifting part if you have injuries, do light work to renforce your articulations and don't even try to go to full capacity. Also it may be the time to look at your nutrition plan, didn't see if you have one?
/r/RPChristians08/04/20 03:21 PM
1

You shouldn't worry about your relationship but about correcting the weakness you saw in you : leadership, temper issue, decision making.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 03:14 PM
11

Your priority should be your health (and you need to be in good health to be attractive). So work on your nutrition plan and resolve the underweight issue.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 11:49 AM
3

I try to prepare my children to the challenge they will face as adults the best way i can. And men and women don't face the same challenges in a lot of way. So yes it's different. I put more emphasis on professionnal success, frame and personnality with my son, and more emphasis on sociability, agreeablness and house skills with my daughters.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 10:01 AM
1

"Because she is still in post partum" you're still in her frame body. Take the responsability on yourself, kill the hopes, change will be possible only when they will be buried.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 09:49 AM
1

Try to be specific on the frame part, identify behaviours & goals, it's important.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 09:45 AM
1

You seemed to be on a good path. Good luck wih the arrival of the baby, tough time for that. Frame take a while but it's probably the most important thing so be persistent. About WISIFG and communication you can try to read Chris Voss "Never Split the Difference", pretty high level but it can help you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 09:32 AM
1

You're a funny one with your sock's kink. When you meet a random girl on the street you don't try to fuck her right on the spot because you know it'll fail, you begin by showing what a man you are to give her the desire to say yes and even to come toward you. You create the conditions to make it real. People who are rejected on a regular basis don't need to initiate more they need to initiate better and that mean building up some frame and manlyness to show first and foremost.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 10:26 PM
1

Because initiating and being rejected help you to fuck a real life person? It's just stupid, you need to work on your attractivity and frame to build up desire in your wife (or whatever woman) and use that desire to initiate... if you don't give her any feelz you just dig deeper by initiating.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 09:57 PM
2

Talk with your child about bedtime calling and try to understand why it's important for him. Missing the call don't make you a bad father, but making it about yourself when you should ask yourself why it's important for him could be.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 09:39 PM
1

Review all your lifting plan, there could be a link with your hernia. Health come first bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 09:35 PM
1

One of your goal is to be an oak, and you don't have the sex you want... Where the fuck is your paragraph on frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 09:31 PM
1

I don't see the point to initiate often before having build up attractivity though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 08:55 PM
1

Women won't give you your answer, and you don't even understand men. They want sex less than respect and desire. You don't even understand yourself, you came here claiming you want rpw pov but you only talk about yourself. Think about your relations and try to learn from these, it's your best shot.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 08:54 PM
2

Rule 9
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 08:30 PM
1

Do you think you can correct your QI to have great professional success?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 06:10 PM
6

No because women can totally build their personnality & social network which is a huge factor in SMV (especially for the commitment part). Moreover men are fine to marry an average looking woman if she has a fine personnality, but hypergamy make women seek the best man so it's more difficult for a man to stand out from the crowd. That's why, in each generation, there is much more men without children than women.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 06:09 PM
0

I didn't think at surgery at all ! But at a healthy lifestyle, choose of clothes, hairstyle, etc. Did you think about doping & false muscle when you said "men can build theirs up"?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 03:32 PM
14

That's wrong, beauty is also built and SMV is not only beauty but also agreeableness which is huge, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 02:24 PM
6

" Men are the gatekeepers of relationships, women are the gatekeepers of sex. If you have sex without commitment, there's little to be gained for him by committing. " It's true if you're only attractive. If you're also pleasant and feminine there's much for a man to make him commit. There must be something at first, and it could be sex if the others elements are there. Moreover commiting is a everyday commitment. So how do you earn it even after sex? Because you can't withholding it that long.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 06:49 AM
2

What you'ld think of a guy who envying his girlfriend because she's cutest than him?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/20 07:20 PM
1

If you're in couple with someone, and didn't say otherwise, sex is ok by default.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 01:10 PM
1

How come you deny anything when your husband try to care for you?
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 08:49 AM
2

Show him affection verbally (build him up) and physically (light touch, hugs...)
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 01:09 PM
5

It should be the diet. There are several possibilities but have you tried to cut FODMAPs?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 07:32 PM
5

I'm not sure i understood. You're not ready to anything and you expect him to be ready for everything? Anyway focus on get ready yourself for your future whatever it will be.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 10:00 AM
10

What she say is simply that the sex toy is more attractive than you.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 10:23 AM
3

The thing is that she don't even lie to you... she just don't know herself and what she feel change on an ongoing basis.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 10:19 AM
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Initiate fun back and forth where you show your feminine qualities and build him up (like send him a pic of something new you try to cook and say to him that next time you want to do it for him), or tell him about something you're excited about, like a movie, which let him the opportunity to invite you for, and take the opportunity to show your interest in him by asking what he like in domains you don't know yet, and give him validation about that. Find a way to exchange with him while bringing …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 01:11 PM
12

Instead of trying to be cool, why don't you try to be charming cute which will make him naturally come back to you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 07:58 AM
7

You sell to him a girl that go to the gym 3 times/week and you don't do that by yourself anymore. "Just to appease him" wouldn't work.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 09:10 AM
9

Dont try to make him talk about his feeling, it can be a burden more than a release for men. It's better to simply show your empathy, your confidence in him, and to simplify his life so he can concentrate himself on these issues.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 10:51 AM
12

This
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 04:51 PM
2

Rereading your original post, i understood things wrongly. Apologize about my non pertinent comment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 09:32 PM
0

I agree with Kara_el, and i want to add that the situation made him react that way : - you asked him a question he wasn't prepared to, in that case men just tell what they think without a though to another feeling. At another time he would have never told the same thing because his love for you. - You were with friends ! You talk about building him/you up but confronting him with that kind of question in presence of friends ... friends he want to appear good in front of, what can he say? There a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 09:04 AM
2

Women are independant, Men should do everythings for women.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 05:54 PM
16

FYI the book/pdf "the secret of fascinating womanhood" and the book "fascinating womanhood" are two different things. I like both though.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 09:45 AM
1

Because most women nowaday use the man they married more than they care for him. Because most men nowaday care for the woman they married more than they use her. So it make sense that women seek marriage and men are wary of it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 09:31 PM
1

Be overrespectful.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/20 09:29 AM
4

He think about the organisation of things.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 09:20 AM
14

they’re usually socially charming, self-starters, ambitious and career successful You mean they're 9 or 10? Looks don't matter as much for men.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 09:17 AM
12

Be the man for whom she want to submit.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 10:57 AM
5

You misunderstand me, you should wanting sex and show it to the man you love. Just don't do it too fast, before actually knowing the man and be sure enough of your mutual romantic interest. If you go to fast it show your lack of self-respect, control over your whim, caution, etc. If you don't show your want, or if you don't do sex, after vetting him properly and commit, it's bad too, it's show dishonesty, hypocrisy, body issues, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 03:18 PM
2

It's not sex, it's your general behaviour. And for sex like for anything else great people let themselves some time to evaluate the other or consider the best choice to make. If you don't give yourself the time to think things through, and to correctly evaluate the other, it mean that you lack the qualities seeked by men for a LTR, and you'll not have the commitment you want.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 02:08 PM
0

Well, i don't know him and he could have anger issue to work on. But i don't talk to him i talk to you and... you said you have been passive agressive (ie disrespectful) and anger is legitimate in that case, you said that you're not adept at cooking or cleaning and doubts about commitment can be legitimate in that case. If you want to inspire greater commitment from him (or any man) you should learn, not only to not be disrespectful, but even to show respect to him. If you want to inspire greate…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 09:49 AM
-4

Learn to pull your weight. It's mandatory, with him or an other.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 10:03 PM
1

She's worried about your investment in the marriage. Like she said " All finances are our finances", it's important to her that all the money pass by the joint account. It's a symbol. The answer is simple : work more, get more money on the joint account, use this money for you without asking permission. You have this culpability that prevent you to use money from the joint account for you. That's the root of the issue, it's weak and submissive. Or you're afraid that she "control" your expenses? …
/r/askMRP06/01/20 10:07 AM
2

Establish that this is something I am going to do regardless, and LET HER COME IF SHE ASK NICELY. Nowhere is permission/validation sought.
/r/askMRP31/12/19 05:33 PM
12

Freud's theory are speculative, and mostly deconnected from reality. Oedipus Complex isn't really a thing, except maybe for less 0.01% of men who have a specific neurosis.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 10:04 AM
3

Absolutely, my 8yo daughter was crazy about Christmas this year :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 08:17 PM
3

I don't see any problem about his beliefs/behaviours. I even totally agree with him about Santa & the Easter Bunny, i always presented them to my children as nice stories we tell ourselves, but that aren't real.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 05:31 PM
8

Seem like to me that you still have a bit of the pince charming syndrom, ie too many expectation for a man which keep you to fall in love. It's problematic, especially for you, because not being able to give children is a big caveat for men, and high value ones will probably pass for someone else, which mean that you should see your expectations down.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 10:26 AM
11

Drinking so much is inacceptable. Either you left, either you discover with him why he resort to drinking and help him to work seriously on it (possibly with help of a professional, or the AA)
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 10:17 AM
-4

Well i'll take the opposite position of everyone here. Of course i don't know you, him, nor your relationship and he may be abusive... BUT it can also be not the case at all. It can be that he has very high standards for himself and others, and it can be that he's very sensitive to respect. He love you but have a hard time to stand your "mistakes". Sure positive reinforcement would be better, but when you have high standard you seldom find the positive behaviour you would like to reinforce and y…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 10:14 AM
5

Once upon a time a woman pledge obedience to her man and a man pledge protection to his woman. What it mean is both of them are invested with the other and take charge of his/her happiness. If you want a man to invest himself with you, you must invest yourself with him, it's simple reciprocity. So what will you bring to the table? One thing men want the most is respect... which is shown by building him up, or by being submissive in a sense that make him feel he's respected. It's a tool to make h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 04:04 PM
0

Younger eggs are better, but they are damaged by the process anyway. Morevover you're still old, like someone said your uterus, your endocrine system... you also have less energy to raise a kid, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/19 09:00 AM
0

You shouldn't wait. Men are not that different from women, they often need to be physically aroused, but lot of them don't know it because society told them that they should work on on/off setting. He's probably ashamed, and don't dare, or even think, to ask you (even non verbally). Maybe there are a bigger issue that we don't know about. But the first thing you should do is taking his excitation in charge and don't letting him alone in his efforts. In short : when sex is coming, take his cock i…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 09:26 PM
1

What are you doing to physically arouse him?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 06:37 PM
3

He talk to you so you're still considered. Your two choices are ever working your ass off to be up to his standards or giving up. And of course he'll act differently with you when you already fail once.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 05:21 PM
7

It's worth it IF you vet correctly and you lead your relationship correctly. Some people can't do it well and 3 years or 10 years to vet won't change anything to the situation.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 04:02 AM
3

You're a man, make your choice.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 08:56 AM
1

We should think of "blue pill" as lacking manly qualities following society brainwashing and "red pill" having (consciously) developped manly qualities. These terms shouldn't say anything about being an asshole or doing housework, we think so only by association.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 08:46 PM
7

It happens to everyone. You need to fight yourself to not let these periods last, and keep doing the mininum while they are there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 12:00 PM
1

I agree with the idea that women should "ask out". It's just that for men & women asking out by asking for the number is generally a bad idea, except if what you want is a one night stand. Next time you see him go talk to him and get acquainted.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 08:18 AM
22

Take the offer, show your gratitude, use the opportunity to show him how you take care of him and the flat, find something to do outside (volunteering, a part time job, something like that).
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 01:00 PM
5

She wanted that you're the one who called bullshit on other. Not the other way around.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 12:15 PM
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Initiate sex, be always extra sweet with him, tell to other people how much you admire him while he listen.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 12:11 PM
4

He let you know without words. Nonverbal communication is a thing.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/19 01:12 PM
1

It's reasonnable to do it, it's unreasonnable to ask for it.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/19 01:10 PM
8

For him, asking means you're not his wife, same thing for you repeteadly refusing, . Because when you're a married couple you're supposed to sexually want the other. You're supposed to be happy to share that with the other, even when you're not physically excited. On one side it's you're feelings and you have to do with them, on the other side he probably feel this situation like a treason (you don't really love him, or care for him). Be aware that that kind of problem can destroy a marriage.
/r/RedPillWives24/11/19 10:30 PM
7

People who got angry and shout at each other, never regarding anothers face and talk trash behind another are NOT successful in relationship. They're miserable and just keep a facade of happiness. You're right to be forgiving.
/r/RedPillWives13/11/19 05:47 PM
1

OP just explained to you what a woman feel when a man "just deal with it" and don't show some guts to nourish her love.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 10:41 AM
18

It affect less what the guy think of you than the way you think and act with men.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 04:49 PM
1

It's only a month, if you're really in for the long term show some patience. You really don't want to make him believe that you're still "an emotional wreck".
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 06:59 PM
5

When he's stress about something, don't brought anything that could bring more stress or simply more thoughts. Allow him to destress, he need silence, a comfort place & good foods.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/19 03:58 PM
4

Smile, give a hug.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 09:07 AM
1

It happen to everyone to make bad jokes... don't make it a big deal, it isnt feminine at all, nor attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 09:42 AM
2

I agree that a woman shouldn't settle for halfass effort to seduce her. That said a man won't be hyper romantic with any woman, and certainly not with a woman he just met (except if he's in just for sex oc). So before hoping for big romantic efforts you should woo him first !
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 11:09 PM
10

Don't talk with him until you know the true reason behind your jealousy. Search in yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 11:02 PM
2

You saw her dark side. All human have one and it seem not that bad for her. I would try it.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:01 PM
3

Well maybe red pill would need a feminine touch imo. And i never said that women here aren't worthy of a second date, i said that women who are too demanding & controlling don't make high value men want to offer a second date, especially an interesting one.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 12:21 PM
10

Well, not arguing with the respect part, but i can easily see women being too much controling & demanding without offering as much as men do with these advices. For example, it depend of how much you know the person obviously, but being "not free" for him is like saying i'm not really into you and you should try somewhere else. You need to be worthy of a more interesting date. How so? " You should be his fun escape from stress in life " not adding more stress because you're too demanding. Keep y…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 11:29 AM
3

The confident man. The loving girl.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 09:29 AM
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You overthink, it's normal. Most guys don't like to think of the girl they're interested in with other men and don't want to talk about it. Actually it's your mistake, in the seduction phase you should definitely talk about him and not about other men (even if it's your ex). You may talk about your experience in relationship and what you think and want but not about them directly.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 06:55 PM
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Most of the time, when a man communicate as you said, he's friendzoned. They learn quickly to not do that anymore... it don't tell anything about his interest.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 04:28 PM
–

You should know how to work towards your personnal goals while in relationship. If you're confident you can do both, go for it. You would need to do it eventually.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 04:26 PM
1

You'd better concentrate yourself on your problems is different than shouldn't think about others.
/r/askMRP31/10/19 04:08 PM
102

"My boyfriend (27) seems to be fine with it, but deep down I know he’s discouraged that I’m not working full time." Most of the time this kind of sentence is just wrong. If he seems to be fine with it there is 95% chance that he's really fine with it and you just project your own idea on him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 05:55 PM
2

I don't know you enough to point something. And i sadly don't have any book recommandation in english. Maybe just try to do exactly as your boyfriend when you ask something to him and see how it work?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 05:53 PM
1

Lot of person aren't focus on the reality but on what they think the reality should be, it's quite hard to change (but i advice you to do so !). It could be quite hard for your relatives (and for you as you fail number of things that you shouldn't).
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 02:51 PM
3

"You know i'm you friend and you can trust me, so tell me your secret" => go soon tell your secret to the worst person. "You know i trust you and i really want your help so give me your time and energy and figure a solution to my problem" => choose to not do what you're adviced. More or less the same feeling i guess.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 02:47 PM
14

Just exactly what he said, it's huge for a man. If you follow him and respect his advice enough to actually do as he said it's like saying i'm in love with you. If you don't do it, it's the opposite though.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 08:04 AM
1

"I suggest breaking up" It's like saying "i don't love you". It's a much bigger problem than his anger imho.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 05:51 PM
0

And you could get a job and an insurance, but it will never fulfill you emotionnally.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 04:24 PM
-1

It tell nothing about her but the respect she feel for him. She know that she's very important and she had chosen a man that see her as the most important person in his life, a man that protect and provide for her. When a man protect a woman against violence he put himself after her, when a man buy more things for her than for himself he put himself after her, when he sacrifice his desire for sexual variety and stay faithful he put himself after her, when he take on him the stress of big decisio…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 04:22 PM
1

Some men don't want a woman that don't show reciprocity... he proposed the first date, showed all the "indicator" etc, it's very possible that now he wait to see if you like him enough to go towards him as he did it with you. I think you should propose the second date and stop to see it as "bitting the bullet" (seriously?!). Unless, like some women, you want a man who are more attracted to you than you are to him, but bad idea on the long term imho.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 06:43 AM
1

Fascinating Womanhood is really good.
/r/askMRP14/10/19 08:06 PM
1

She's very attractive and need a very masculine man (which is seldom nowadays) to drive out her femininity. It's hard to find alright but we can still encourage her.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 12:07 PM
5

" it ends- the moment I know they're mine. " Seem like they're at your feet and it kill the love for you. You probably need someone dominant that love you but at the same time is stronger than this love and let you be "more" in love than him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 08:07 AM
1

Stefan Molyneux talk about education sometimes. Quite a good talker.
/r/askMRP03/10/19 06:45 AM
2

You probably exhibite these traits but they are not as intense as they need to be to attract the type of men you want (very attractive) for a relationship. So i'ld suggest to work harder on them... or to be more realist about your SMV. It's really difficult to stop being insecure, there are not miracle... it's hard work all along.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 06:57 PM
1

It just seem you're a total Beta with her (at least), you need to entirely reframe your behaviour, reanalyse all of your actions and words. Seriously, if she leave you it's because you act like a loser. And that's guy? Maybe he is a loser... but if he don't act like one it don't matter as much as for you.
/r/askMRP02/10/19 10:55 AM
6

Seem like you're sex attractive, not relationship attractive, you need both. What's relationship attractive? It's behaviour qualities : Agreeableness, Kindness, Generosity, Enthusiasm...
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 07:45 AM
2

The title of that first post shock me... if she dumped you for him, he's more attractive than you. Maybe not physically, but behaviour is enormous. Talking about behaviour, you still need her validation (or ours) to take care of that furniture issue. Man, you're 55 ! Load it up and dump it on the guys lawn? You'ld just do the work for her ! Put it outside your own lawn, take a picture, send it to her and tell her that you helped her to sort out her stuff.
/r/askMRP02/10/19 07:28 AM
3

If you're in love it's not a sacrifice. Just a learning to initiate things.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 08:08 PM
0

Quite possible, it can also be that these men don't feel as respected as they need to be to be romantic with their SO.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 07:38 PM
2

Do you think that those women tell them friends about their rash behaviour?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 07:04 PM
5

Lot of women today (if not most) are entitled and ungenerous to men. And the fact that most men don't know how to act virile just add to (or cause -according to those women-) the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 05:14 PM
-1

Try harder and keep faith, it may takes years to things to come naturally but you will suceed.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 08:18 AM
2

Absolutely not. She test you to see if you're a beta or if you have boundaries and self respect. If you say amen to her she will lose all her remained attraction and divorce you. If you show her your will and that you're firm in your boundaries she'll want to stay with you. She try to culpabilize you to see if your boundaries are firm or not.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 07:55 PM
2

Lot of men prefer withdrawing when they are mad with something because : It help to contain their aggressivity It's hard for them to talk about their feelings (they are not educated to do that !) When they try to talk they are not listened or taken seriously <= that point is possibly on you, think seriously about it. It's really easy to not listen correctly one time, and all others occurrences in his past come back to him and he stop communicating because it's not worth it !
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/19 04:46 PM
7

He seem like it's you that are closed to him. Maybe because of that sexual aggression. Anyway you need to work on yourself, go over your past, open up sexually, etc. With your current attitude any relationship would be miserable. It's not him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 10:54 AM
7

Like don't act nice with people that aren't nice with you as you are with them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 04:36 PM
8

Beautiful women are often bitchy... but as they are beautiful men forgive it. And it's because they are always forgiven that they continue to act bitchy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 04:34 PM
12

Men don't love bitchy women, but a "bitchy" attitude can give the impression that the person have a higher SMV than he has in reality. It only work with people that don't know how to vet properly, and don't work anymore in marriage anyway. That said, being too "nice" can give the opposite impression ie that you have a lower SMV than you have in reality so you can work to be a bit more distant to avoid that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 03:54 PM
-1

This
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 06:56 AM
4

If you eat well (fresh vegetable, fruits, meat of high quality) and you lose weight steadily your body definitely won't be ruined. You'll be beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 06:48 AM
1

She divorce you because you are not attractive anymore. Change that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/19 06:46 AM
1

Well some people are incomfortable with others having emotions and fears... it's not a good thing, you need to listen those and reaffirm your own commitment.It doesnt mean not having boundaries, you can still ask for no Tinder for example. But the relationship won't go anywhere if you don't show understanding for the underlaying feelings. Most men have trouble to open up because they are never listened. Most (interesting) men won't commit with a woman who can't listen and will test that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 05:25 PM
-3

He opened up to you with his feelings and his fears... and you pulled away. I'd say he was right in his doubts.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 12:14 PM
3

Men notice, but sometimes a "natural" look is much better than a "sophisticate" one.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:01 PM
13

You can be High SMV to someone and low SMV to someone else. But attractivity is subjective so you can think that the other have a higher SMV than you and he think the same :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 03:02 PM
5

Let the man pursue alright, but put yourself in a position where he'll want to pursue you. To not be the pursuer is NOT be passive.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 06:03 AM
4

"I tend to ignore guys that I like honestly" Then you know why you "can't find a man", and why you'll end alone if you don't change asap.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 05:29 AM
4

If you're focusing of something that will not make happy... it's definitly not doing things right ! Not saying that you should not go back to studying though, but that you should use your free time to look actively for a man. If you're good looking, how come guys don't approach you? Do you do eye contact and maintain it with a smile when you like a guy? Do you have too high stantard? Do you not have social activities that enable you too meet new people?
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 05:04 AM
6

Focusing on personal development is fine, and you need to continue to do it even when you'ld find a LTR. But you also need to be realist as finding a good husband is NOT easy and the wall is ALREADY HERE. Do your best to find one quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/19 02:12 PM
1

Lol why should he start all over again when he already have a good relationship and a son.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 08:30 PM
1

Stop talk and act. She want you all over her, not showing past picture. Do it or tell her what you want from her to do it.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 08:09 PM
1

The thing is that being confident in yourself and make her feel it is more important than making the "good" decision.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 12:29 PM
2

You're right, except when you let your wife give you doubts about your decision and that you need validation of others men on internet.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 12:03 PM
9

A girl who choosed him and are not broked by the cock carousel. A life with his son. A man assume his choices and make them perfect. The herb is not greener elsewhere, it's greener where you water.
/r/askMRP08/09/19 08:02 PM
16

Beware to not lose what you have for what's a dream and don't exist.
/r/askMRP08/09/19 01:13 PM
-4

Your own obviously. Show him that you're interested in him and not just in his money.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 07:47 AM
2

Actions are more important but you can tell him what you pass throught, it can help him understand you better.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 07:17 AM
-1

Studies showed that blond hairs make you look younger which is why men generally prefer blondes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 08:18 AM
2

Talk to them, sing, read... at 4 you can begin to teach them the letters. Make them discover the society and others, explicate things.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 06:14 AM
1

I think you don't understand what pro LTR not into marriage mean. You can totally share same beliefs and goal without having the same desire of marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 06:07 PM
3

I really like the idea that you have to be worthy and ask implicitly and he take the decision. It really remind me how it (should) happen(ed) with sex. That said men can be dense about implicit things sometimes ^^
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 06:57 AM
3

There are men that believe in LTR but not specially in marriage, and if it's your thing why not make a proposal?
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 06:54 AM
1

It's possible that you're quite low on attractivness.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 06:19 AM
2

Grateful?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 04:16 PM
1

Tell her there are two type of attractivity and that they are both important. There are obvious attractivity that make you sexually desirable and there are quiet attractivity that make you good boyfriend/husband... she must strive to have both and not be blinded by the obvious attractivity nor renounce to it when time will come to choose her long term partner. And when her choice is made, she must stop judging her man and strive to be the best wife ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/19 07:27 PM
3

Better make you ready if you want keep Mr Right.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 04:14 AM
0

Try to use we and our a little more ;)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 12:10 PM
13

Work on your behaviour as much as on your looks
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 12:05 PM
-4

It's so simple in your head. Is it that impossible that she already had underlying mental problems which push him away from her?
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 05:54 PM
-6

First she ask how to regain trust. I'm the only one that offer an answer to her actual question without judging her relationship. Second "cooks, cleans and lets him fuck around" is not sufficient to deserve someone, there is so much more and thinking that you know everything based on only this just show that you have difficulties to apprehend both side of a relationship. Third my answer encourage her to work on herself and improve her RV which is almost always better than fleeing.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 04:22 PM
-16

"fell into the victim mentality, lost weight, had a lot of mental problems, went to therapy, it wasn't fun." That's probably the most important reason why he fell into that girl addiction. Look at you as the responsible one, think less in term that he betrayed you, and more that you're the one who didn't deserve his engagement anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 11:49 AM
2

This is how i see it... but there is always people to misinterpret things.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/19 09:49 PM
5

Calling the other a child kind of force you to act as an adult.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/19 09:33 PM
24

No but a 5'0 girl is less difficult about the height of her SO so she has more choices.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 05:26 PM
2

God she's all over the place. Your weakness is not a weakness, all men are like that, we should being able to use strengh in these moments. It's hard with certain women who don't know how comfort test properly. They want to be comforted but they instead of being respectuous they provoke you... hard times but they eventualy learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 11:58 AM
1

When you read some evopsy work you learn that the poly or mono question depends of the ressource of the environement for most (mammals) species. If there are lot of ressource females live together and reproduce with the most dominant male. If ressources are rare, females live with a male in monogamous relationship to have access to more ressources.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 07:59 AM
1

I kind of agree with you, the western culture view polygamy as a lack of commitment of the man, as such and with the importance of preselection for women, they generally become unhappy in poly relationship... that said it's mostly cultural. You can have a real commitment with polygamy or polyamory... even if it's rare i admit. On the opposite men have a certain desire of variety and you can argue that they're unhappy in a forced monogamous relationship, especially if their wives don't care of th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 07:56 AM
14

Your desire to have a child will probably growing with time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 02:08 PM
19

Your education and social conditionning conflit with you inner instinct.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 01:44 PM
1

It's crazy that this post don't have more upvote. Thx to share mate.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 02:16 PM
3

Seems like a covert contract to me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 06:34 AM
-3

Don't count calorie, eat as much as you want... but fruits, vegetables, meat, fish & eggs. No industrial food, no or few grains (cereals, legumes, nuts...).
/r/RedPillWives25/06/19 07:29 PM
3

Begin by that " I'm not expressing anything that indicates that I do understand him " It should be at least 40% of what you expres.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/19 11:47 AM
1

It will take you several years, it's normal, better to be consistent.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 07:09 AM
16

She must be prettier or nicer in a way you don't understand (yet). This is where you was wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 04:29 PM
3

What's your end game? Move toward it.
/r/askMRP18/06/19 10:23 AM
10

Conformity is linked with our instincts. Progressives go away from that which explain why it's tougher for them to find happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 08:58 AM
3

She didn't follow your budget and even pull a fast one on you. You need to first call her on that until she own her responsabilities and apologize. Stay calm in front of the predicting yell and tears. Move out with your family close to your job. Why the "where she want to live" matter when she don't give a shit about you? Definitely sell the house. It's a no brainer. Inform her that if she don't cancel right now her fucking credit card where she accumulate a debt you sell the horse to refund it.…
/r/askMRP16/06/19 08:50 AM
1

Work more on you to find your happy end and care less about her relationship for which there aren't obvious red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/19 08:57 PM
1

Yes
/r/askMRP11/06/19 06:33 PM
8

If you don't want to change the way you act to be more feminine (aka change personnality) you'll have a hard time to find a masculine man. Men definetly seek more than sex... but they don't need masculinity from you, they already have that. Acting like a man can be fine with friends or with coworkers, but NOT with a lover.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 12:45 PM
47

" I made an edgy WW2 joke and showed him a picture of my airsoft gun " Was it feminine? If you want the embodiment of masculinity you need to be the embidoment of femininity
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 10:50 AM
3

Why are you so insecure?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 03:17 PM
2

Stop caring.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 07:28 PM
0

"I understand that all this situation upset you, but you need to stop that agressive attitude with me."
/r/askMRP05/06/19 04:50 PM
1

First year i saw the effect the next day.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 10:29 AM
21

Breastfeed. Use a wearing scraf. Play with them. Let them do things even when it's a little dangerous/longer than doing them by yourself. Teach them discipline and rules to act in society. Be an example.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/19 10:02 AM
21

Men seek young hot women to fuck/reproduce. But they love a more mature feminine pleasant woman to stay with. Don't understimate yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/19 07:25 PM
8

Teach them to trust themselves. Teach them delayed gratification. Teach them to interact positively with others.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 07:00 PM
14

I'm not as sure as you about teaching inherent value. It's what lead children to not study, not make effort, not try anything... because they're perfect as they are and nothing else is worth enough to achieve. Not saying we should say to our children that they're bad or not good enough, or that they should seek external validation. But there are a balance. I tell my children that they have qualities and a potential that they should use, and work hard with those to obtain a fulfilling life. It'll…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 06:58 PM
35

There's nothing confusing : he loves you and you're the most important people in his life BUT you suffocate him and kill his love when he's with you. He want to be happy with you, not miserable with you. You have all cards in hand to make things right.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 01:52 PM
1

You're not a woman, you can't be love for being emotionnal and vulnerable. The only way you have is to stop being afraid of losing her, and to make her glad to have you. As you must fake it until you make it... just confront her when she's not glad !
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 10:36 AM
8

About you depressive episodes in winter, vitamin D3 supplement can work well.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 06:56 AM
5

It's not up to a woman to make you happy, OYS.
/r/askMRP26/05/19 06:08 PM
1

Not really, between 6 month and 1 year i guess.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/19 04:11 PM
2

My children skip the bottle. The last one take it sometimes (water) but she learned to drink with a cup before :)
/r/RedPillWives25/05/19 02:39 PM
1

As much i'm traditionnal as much i think these kind of expectation are bad. Why do you wait? Look for things yourself. Tell him and show him what ring you like. Think about where you want to get married and talk with him about it. Same with babies names and stuff like that. Make things real. How can you expect of him to do everything you want when you don't even give him inspiration?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 06:59 AM
17

It can be genuine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 02:00 PM
4

Imagine you want children and he change job for something less paid without a discussion with you. He feel that way. Even if he was too blunt i think you should apologize.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 01:58 PM
8

You don't have to say anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 08:10 PM
1

You totally can make her interested in you without "seeking approval". But i guess that if you don't see how you're certainly beta.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 06:50 AM
0

I wait to be alone with her and ask if she's alright, what was wrong for her to act like this and i listen. Yeah i know total beta. But as she wasn't a bitch with you i think it's better to treat it like a comfort test.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 06:50 AM
1

Try, fail and start again. Focus on others, how to make them happy. It will come with time.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 06:38 AM
-1

Wait until he ask and answer that you're not up to Netflix and chill. Suggest another plan or to shift the date. If he's really interested in you he will follow... except if you expect him to pay for you on date because in that case it's you who show yourself self-interested. Men want sex before commitment. Women want men to provide before commitment. And some trade, sex <=> providing.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 05:53 PM
2

She's butt hurt and piss off => STFU, do your things. If she complain tell her that you're not interested by her when she's a bitch (be specific how she is). Sit down, talk to her => don't run away, continue until she REALLY got your point, tell her that you can't accept anything else. Keep your calm all the way. A the end of the conversation you must had the same state of mind as at any other times. Why are you afraid to be confrontational?
/r/askMRP20/05/19 05:44 PM
25

I don't think men are disturbed by masculine qualities but by lack of feminine qualities. Usually people who are very smart & confident are also exigent, hard to please, bad follower, etc. You don't need to "bit your tongue" you need to learn the qualities you neglected : indulgence, cheer, admiration, deference, gratitude... create joy & confort for others.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 07:50 AM
3

Don't have these conversation by phone Don't complain, at most tell her from a stoic place that you would have like that she did X Don't complain, but don't chase her when she's lazy Don't make request, tell her what you like and if she don't make effort for you stop giving your time and attention to her.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 07:34 AM
3

She cannot connect with you because she's not attracted to you, it mean the same thing but she prefer those words. After all these years i know none women that can answer what it mean for her to "connect", except when they say this is doing what they want when they want lol.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 07:21 AM
1

I haven't the same definition of Alpha and Beta as you. To me, empathy can totally be Alpha. And i didn't argue about the general place of empathy in a relationship (which should be a secondary quality for a male imho), i said that showing some empathy (good kind as you described) was better than not *in that specific situation*. So many men here are prompt to advice independence & stoicism, and fail to see that a small touch of care and empathy magnify it. It show you're not of these men who ar…
/r/askMRP15/05/19 03:31 PM
1

Tell her to read it period.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 10:40 AM
1

Yeah because you always exactly understand and say what you feel deep down i suppose... Marriage is too risky... but if he have total trust in her it don't feel risky anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 07:07 AM
2

You just have to convince him that you're better from others. Like, what did you answer when he said "men's lives are ruined by divorce"? If you plan to marry him you should have said : i'll never leave you ever, i choosed you to be my man for all my life. If you aren't there, you actually got upset by some legitimate concern ! And it certainly won't help him to change his mind. Why would he consider marriage if you're not 100% commit first? Marriage aren't there to making a commitment but to ex…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 11:34 AM
2

I was there. After three sessions i said to her that it was shit because it's all about complaining and not working to improve our marriage. I added that her complaining is just insulting and that i won't go anymore. She went alone 2-3 times after that but that's it. She worked on things on her own and with me so it turned well. Hope the same for you.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:15 PM
4

Well you can also use it during sex, like "you sucked me well, now you can have it on your ass".
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 09:12 PM
18

He's your husband, it's his dream, support him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 09:10 PM
4

You love to do it with a worthy woman, not a hoe. It's reward because she had to deserve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 08:45 PM
2

Fucking immoral society !
/r/askMRP17/04/19 04:37 PM
-4

What about restraining her until she calm down?
/r/askMRP17/04/19 01:09 PM
0

Find your (feminine) way to flirt with him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 06:22 AM
2

Do less, and ask for help for the essentials.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 07:42 AM
2

A percentage of not enough means nothing, it would be better to talk about your BMI.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 07:37 PM
11

You love men who are ok to invest themselves without sex like a man love women who are ok to sex without investment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 05:02 PM
6

If you are underweight it definitely impact your fertility. Eat more, especially protein and lipid (hello meat).
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 04:58 PM
0

Yeah you're quite right. In a fantasy world a man want a woman that love him at 100% even if he's not manly (and a woman want a man not interested by other women even if she don't fulfill all his needs).
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 04:56 PM
1

You can show empathy with words. Are we still talking about a stressed LTR girlfriend?
/r/askMRP03/04/19 07:00 PM
1

Glad it work for you, perhaps you could try new things to see if it could be even better with more balance?
/r/askMRP03/04/19 05:58 PM
0

It must be so good to have an unique solution for everything... until it didn't work at least.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 05:41 PM
-1

Well you're probably right about that, but about the described situation the best behaviour is nonetheless to show some empathy.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 11:22 AM
0

Manicheism in all it's glory. Do you even know the concept of balance?
/r/askMRP03/04/19 10:22 AM
5

She's stressed, she want you to comfort her. It don't seem like a shit test because it's not really directed at you. Stay calm, tell her that yelling at you won't solve anything, that you expect her to apologize, BUT that all will be fine, that you understand that it's tough for her, and give her a big hug.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 09:49 AM
1

Yeah :) what matter is the attractivity she feel. It's the only standart that count. Not saying that doing all she want is attractive though (for the newbies).
/r/askMRP01/04/19 09:39 PM
-1

Be more exigent with her. Tell her to own her shit and refuse to treat her like a 3rd kid. Listen her about her issue with depression & help her in her steps to resolve it (but it come after the two others advices). I didn't understand the complement thing.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 08:31 AM
4

Depend of the dynamic of the relationship. The way you behave with her is more important than your overall attractivity.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 02:22 PM
4

"I have always been a sucker and given her more than I should until recently" <= it's a daddy issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/19 07:38 AM
1

I'm French, what's the right word? Did?
/r/askMRP30/03/19 07:36 AM
3

For what it worth i think you're right. The best women are taken between 18 and 25 and don't came back on the market afterward. And, as too much of an age gap is a hassle... it mean you have until 30 to find a good woman. But they are really rare so you must begin to search as early as possible. I had myself the good fortune to meet my wife at 23 and we made our first baby at 25. I'm happy with that choice, and your journey will probably be smoother than mine as you already know the red pill.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 04:34 PM
7

Work to be attractive. Gain experience in love things ;) Think seriously on what kind of woman you want and learn to recognize that type (i like to listen Stefan Molyneux on relationship things). Don't invest yourself before being 100% sure
/r/askMRP29/03/19 01:50 PM
1

Well. If you want a relationship to work, the man must work on becoming a better man and the woman must work on becoming a better woman... and you specifically work on the aspects that are problematics. If you work on you "to be the prize" but the woman don't do shit, it's unsalvable.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 08:21 AM
4

She said she'll follow you and now she renege... tell her that you won't do LDR and if she don't follow you it's over. It's possible to save the relation if she accept to follow you and that BOTH of you work seriously on the problems you have.
/r/askMRP27/03/19 10:54 AM
2

Probably living together without inlaws nor children, it give time to find a good balance ^^ but i never lived that way so hard to say.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 06:43 AM
15

Try to not be vulgar?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 04:12 PM
10

We lived one year with my parents, we had a newborn with us. Well, we survived, and made savings. But it was hard to find our place and a good dynamic, not the best way to begin our life together.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 03:23 PM
1

Well, you know... maybe you'ld be better with others friends.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 03:44 PM
1

And they try to argue they are the tolerants ones !
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 02:41 PM
1

Yeah, i don't know about this topic in particular but i always found the propensity they have to ban all people they disagree with disgusting.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 01:49 PM
4

It's fine to be selfish sometimes and go to see your boyfriend. If you don't, he'll feel that you don't care about him and it's bad for your relationship. Your sister will be fine with her friend's families, it's not like you abandon her. You have the right to live !
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 08:50 AM
6

"he smokes weed daily " Get out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 08:00 PM
4

You're doing nothing wrong. They abused you, don't try to be close to them. Cut them of your life as soon as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:39 PM
2

" Every time he mentions her I get in a quiet, bad mood and he knows it. " Well maybe he know it... but have you try to communicate it? Ask him to not talk about her in front of you please? You should always explicitly communicate you needs in a couple.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 11:32 AM
1

Yes
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 07:29 PM
3

It's not negative emotions if you're find pleasure in it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 07:10 PM
2

Asking defeat the purpose alright. It's true for a lot of things in life... but no communication can't bring you what you want. So you must make a choice : either accept to have only what he bring without incentive, or accept to express your desire. When the other don't express her desires. Even if you care about her and her happiness, you will care for her the way you think is best, but it's rarely the way she want. You ask, but he can say no if he don't want. If he do it it's because he choose…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 12:31 PM
-1

What do you do about that yourself? - Have you mentally work on giving up yourself to him? It can make you cum faster. - Have you try to masturbate during the act? - Do you physically participate during the coït (moving your leg/butt, moan...) or do you assume he must do everything? - Do you ask what you want "Honey i beg you to go down on me, i want your tongue there so much"? etc...
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 08:43 AM
3

Challenges are good. Easy mode is so boring.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 01:39 PM
6

Just choose a SO that carry his part.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 01:06 PM
24

Look at how much he is into you. If he pedestalize you... he's under your league. If you must chase him... he's above your league. If it's a balance you're in your league and the relationship can work.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 09:07 AM
20

Talk & Try
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 08:06 PM
2

It's also that career and caring for children is hardly compatible, you have to have a priority... and if it's a man that want children, he'll prefer a women who make her priority of children.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 11:04 PM
6

It isn't repellent at all BUT if you devote your time to study and work it's much harder to develop other qualities that men seek. Moreover, women tend to want a man more successful than her. So, if you have a high degree, you'll want a man with a better education and your pool of men for choosing will be smaller.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 06:50 PM
2

Who care? You do it anyway. I bet you're the type of guy you'ld bitch if a woman refuse to have anal because it felt awkward.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 10:09 PM
5

No hope. Talk to him about it NOW. That's seriously a huge thing.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 09:20 PM
0

It's not the hormones, it's the time. Even without kid, most women change when the relationship last long.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 06:32 PM
12

Three kids, my wife is perfect as she is. If you eat (really) well, if you do sport, and if the hospital don't fuck during delivering (seriously consider homebirth with a midwife) your body WON'T be fucked. About the primal brain, if you show loyalty so your man can trust that he's the only one for you, he will be even more in love with you because of the kids. Quantity is just a strategy for men, and not the best because the kids haven't a father. If the primal brain can go quality it takes the…
/r/askMRP08/03/19 06:27 PM
1

Spotted :) i'm French. You're good man. Nobody ignorant can recognize the truth.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 08:47 AM
5

1 You especially must do. 2 Tricky one, men are supposed to initiate most of the time (but not by asking !!). That said she reject you, so it can look desesperate... My advice is to STOP DOING ANYTHING FOR HER because what does she do for you? Keep taking care of your child and the baby to come but that's it. Tell her that if she don't take care of your need you won't ever and fucking do it (without that butthurt attitude pls). Tell her no, again, again and again, for everything, until she serio…
/r/askMRP06/03/19 09:34 PM
0

He definitely made a mistake. I wouldn't judge him only on that though.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 10:06 PM
18

Some men aren't interested by children and still want a marriage. You can find it if you want it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 11:47 AM
2

Improve yourself. Learn domestic skills, be open and adventurous sexually. That you don't know these things yet is not important if you show enthusiasm for trying and learning. Build him up. Show your respect, love and admiration for him, and be specific about things he did. This alone can make wonders. Don't bother him when he need to rest/do something. Seem simple but most women don't do it...
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 10:58 AM
12

You take care of your son instead of sleeping. He should show you gratitude. He can't himself take care of your child, letting him falling and didn't take him after... You can't accept that. You're right. Ever leave him or stand your ground.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 10:53 AM
1

Dumbbell + pull up bar. You can do almost all it matter.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 07:30 AM
12

Investing sex hoping they would have time and money in return.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 10:21 PM
1

No and yes. What's important is the demeanor and the moral of a woman. Which are expressed by not sleeping around.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 10:18 AM
1

Working at a bar or not if she want another guy she can have it. Don't try to make things perfect, don't worry about being too much a beta, the only thing you have to do is accepting that she'll direspect you sometimes and that you need to put her in place when she does. If she stop you during sex (disrepect) it's an opportunity to show her your alpha value and thus preserve the relationship, *call her on her behaviour* this is how you'll make things perfect for you and her.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 09:08 AM
4

There is something that is important to him that you didn't understand. Ask him what and show him that you want to understand him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 08:55 AM
1

"In my mind, this means that her leaving is her belief that I won’t change." Because you didn't show her that you could. There should be things about you that you don't see but which make you less than a man. Find them, kill them, be better. Don't care about her as you can't do anythings until you truly change anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:52 AM
1

Texting is worse than calling. Just be sure that she isn't entitled to that call.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:45 AM
2

Apologize for your lack of respect and promise to do better. It'll be beneficial (if you follow through), it'll be a first step to show him the love he didn't feel before.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 06:22 PM
1

Take any occasion to be grateful.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 07:51 AM
23

You have not less, you have a real relationship with someone you genuinely love which will bring you happiness over the long term. All she/they have can't compare.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 08:49 PM
1

Eat well, do some sport, wear nice simple clean clothes (dress, skirt, tight gym clothes...), nice simple coiffure (ponytail, braid...), wash and trim your nail, a bit of lipstick, and if you want to killing it a hint of mascara. That's all you need to make him think you're pretty as a goddess.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 09:49 PM
1

Seriously? Try the other way, buy something cheap but personnalised and thoughful (if anything).
/r/askMRP13/02/19 10:01 AM
11

You could find a more prettier woman without too much hassle. It's another thing to find a woman as amiable and loyal to you and your children (assuming you tamed your wife). There's also the possibility of getting her agree to you spinning plate at the side. It's a question of quantity vs quality. If you can have both great, if not i prefer quality (again assuming you correctly choose your wife in the first place).
/r/askMRP12/02/19 04:13 PM
1

Oo you're the crazy one man.
/r/askMRP12/02/19 11:00 AM
1

I'm not English native and that pronoun escape me xd, i'll correct this. Otherwise your opinion seem so obvious that you can't find one argument do back it up, wp.
/r/askMRP12/02/19 10:56 AM
2

It's simple enough. Alpha behaviour ok, dread ok, but if there are never any comfort she'll think that you don't care about her and leave, so you must use comfort now and then too (when she's doing great).
/r/askMRP12/02/19 10:38 AM
0

Lol. First i'm a guy, second why a woman shouldn't be allowed on MRP?
/r/askMRP12/02/19 10:35 AM
1

Well maybe there are really things that you do that was honestly bad with her and that you need to provide more comfort in the relationship (not saying being a beta).
/r/askMRP12/02/19 08:31 AM
1

If she's playful you could go with "i can't live without you". If she's it's better to use "I'll do it myself obviously" mixed with some "i'll find another girl". Obviously she must believe that you're capable to do it, work on it.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 07:31 PM
1

She's not specific and don't try to work things out (moreover she break by text which is an automatic hard next imo) . Let her go. But maybe her grief are real, think about what she talk about earlier (you only talk about more contact and controling your day which is bullshit, something else?) and how you can be better next girl.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 07:28 PM
1

Can't say much without the actual text, but if she just expressed some doubts and not really break with you you should stfu until she talk about it face to face, if she ever does. If that happen (probably her sister's influence) let her talk, ask her what sort of relationship she envision, and answer that you'll think about it then stfu. And think about it. What you absolutely want, what you absolutely refuse, what you can accept.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 05:42 PM
7

She can't make her pregnant. She can't give her the sense of security like a man do.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 03:43 PM
2

Why did you called her, asking her for validation before buying the car? It was what trigger the shit test.Absolutly don't apologizing.You could ignore her until SHE apologize for her behaviour (verbally or by being especillay nice with you - which she apparently did) or until enough time passed.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 09:40 AM
0

Talk with him about your desire to move after your graduation. Trust him and defer to him about moving in together. His mom waste him but he can learn to do things himself when moving out if he have the will. Sex are a bigger issue. Either you work on youself to eliminate your blocks, either you're not really attracted to him and it would be better to leave the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 08:01 PM
12

If you love him, accept his flaws and work on yours. If you can't do that, you should work on your love issues and/or leave him for a better fit. Your call.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 02:00 PM
1

Hotter, but worse behaviour or he would still be with them. Don't destroy your relationship by lack of self estim. Hot girl are for sleeping around not for LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 08:35 PM
3

First months will probably be worse, but if you keep your frame with her and with the baby she'll come back to you.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 07:38 PM
3

Neediness/Clinginess go away. It's depends of the woman for the sex drive. Moreover tiredness and baby worry can be obstacles. You need to work on yourself on the new points that she seek : protection, super daddy.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:54 PM
4

If she reciprocate it, it's not an issue. But be ready to go cold and strict when she'll misbehave. It'll begin with small things which will become bigger things if you let the place.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:51 PM
9

So, what about "I can't live without sex anymore, i love you no matter what (mean it) and i'm ready to do anything to improve the situation, but you need to tell me what's wrong so that i can work on it."
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 08:35 PM
2

Fine with me :) but maybe not adapted to everyone ^^
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 08:02 PM
19

If he shut down when you initiate i think that you need to talk openly to him about it. Something like "we have less sex than before the pregnancy now, i miss that, what do you think i can do to fix that?"
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 07:53 PM
7

Take the challenge.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 07:10 PM
6

Two rules from J Peterson : - Don't let your child do anything that make you loving him less. - Don't do anything for him that he can do for himself. It's a story but i'ld advise Way of the Warrior Kid by Jocko Willink. Other than that it's important to know that under two yo the mother is the main parent and you just help to take care of the baby. After two yo however you must step up, develop your own relationship with the child, and progressively educate him to rules, discipline and such. If …
/r/askMRP05/02/19 09:46 AM
1

I always assured access, and checked, her fb, historics and such, even before rp. Information is the force of the war.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 09:33 AM
3

"i text her saying we should meet again" "i Told her i hope well meet again soon" "i tell her we should meet up" Stop that man. No should, no hope. Text "i'm going there, join me if you dare" and that's it, and don't came back to her.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/19 09:07 PM
3

STFU. She can have her preferences and her needs, but follow her wants only if she follow yours first. You're not happy to wait, but you don't want to have sex with a woman not enthusiast about it. Work on you for that she seek sex from you and not the other way.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 02:52 PM
1

You ought to be a leader. You should be the best and be the one to tell other to take care of their shit. Strive to that.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 09:33 AM
5

You're not there yet. The change take time and your wife need to be sure that you have really and totally changed. That mean more than one year of perfect frame. "I'm only with you because i have no choice". You can't accept this. She must want to deserve you, not considering you like a no choice. Don't give anything to her if she don't deserve it and work on yourself agin and again and non stop. No house, no dread, no attention to her... work, work out, read, daily frame with people, your child…
/r/askMRP04/02/19 09:30 AM
13

If you sexted it wasn't the time for a big conversation. If you want a deep conversation about it tell him straight (but it's better in person).
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 07:01 PM
-5

You ask him. You need to accept his answer and stop nagging him with that. Next time, if it's so much important to you, tell him *you want* to go see your family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 06:42 PM
1

He already choose but he don't assume :(
/r/askMRP01/02/19 06:39 PM
2

Taking an amoral RP don't mean you musn't have a hierarchy of value in your life.
/r/askMRP01/02/19 05:54 PM
3

Here are the two rules of Jordan Peterson :- Don't let your child doing something that make you love him less. - Don't do something for him that he can do himself. One of my own : Before 2 years old the mother is the world for the child. But he need that his father take more and more place after that for his development. As a mother you must be ready to let this take place and encourage your husband to build the relationship (because he's used that you're the priviligied parent). This is also th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 08:39 AM
7

Okay you did a lot of work on yourself. If you continue there's still one big question : Did she work on herself? Is she really invest in your couple? Most women ask a lot from their man and don't make shit herself. And it's impossible to have a good marriage if she don't work her ass for it.
/r/askMRP31/01/19 10:53 PM
0

Dunno, seem useless to me.
/r/askMRP31/01/19 04:25 PM
5

The mirror (or your husband eyes) is better than the scale :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:34 PM
17

An important point is, if you want to stay in good health or improve it. Reducing calories can be a bad thing if there aren't enough micronutrients (vitamines & minerals) in the food you eat. Fresh fruits, vegetable, eggs, fish, meat, (dairy) will bring you micronutrients and are relatively low in calory. Junk food, sodas, flour, cereals, legumes (and other seeds) are high in calories and low in micronutrients.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:33 PM
1

First, we don't know if she had cheated. Second, yeah when she behave badly you need consequences, but the consequences must come at that moment. There is no use if too much time passed. Third, the consequences are for her to learn how to behave... and she's great right now so she learned by herself which is a good thing.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 11:07 AM
-1

Well, he didn't. And NOW she's great and they have a child. What's your advice? Leave her because of a mistake she maybe did years ago? He can leave her if he want, it's his life, but this will not settle the issue. The issue is not her it's him, him unable to accept and overcome his past weakness, unable to take responsability of his attraction and expecting unconditionnal love.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 10:04 AM
10

Your text is a mistake imho. She tested you, it's a normal feminine behaviour. It's dumb to say to a female that her testing is a problem... because it's mandatory to her and she can't see the problem except if you're too weak to handle it.You need to accept that she'll have testing behaviour and be fine with it. Push her back/Soft next her when she disrespect you, don't talk about it afterward, like it never happen. If you do great, it'll happen less and less.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 09:18 AM
-1

Around the end of your first year of marriage you started to suck and your wife lost trust in you. How could you be such a faggot. Even now she think about the fact that you're not the infallible guy she want and ask herself about it. Strengh is important to her. But she choose to stay. She had your child, and carry her part of the relationship. Let the past be the past.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 09:45 PM
1

Stop criticizing her. Be short and sharp : I want ... for that you can do ... (the easiest way for her to satisfy you). And STFU until next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 07:57 PM
1

You can't handle fight and her stopping talking to you. You let her manipulate you with guilt. Stop talking about the fight after it, stop apologizing and work on you. Maybe the way you fight is bad (you don't describe it) but it's sure that the follow up is a disaster.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 07:34 PM
6

Pulling the girl was fine. Letting her go because she talk about a boyfriend was not.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/19 10:51 AM
1

Hard to say without knowing your relationship better but you seem fine. Just make sure to tell her that you're only cold/distant because of her behaviour (and be sure that it's justified). It's not something you want nor you enjoy but you don't put up with disrespect. It'll be better with time, when she'll see that your change of attitude is solid and long lasting. On the other hand don't forget to reward her when she's great (attention, compliment, gift...).
/r/askMRP29/01/19 10:12 AM
6

Awesome. I don't know how the star system work but this definetly deserve you a 4th.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 10:00 AM
1

Joint account where you and her put the same amount for household expanse. Can't you think about that by yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/19 09:55 PM
8

Absolutely
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 09:32 PM
17

and if they are feminine women :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 04:55 PM
1

Well, showing that you care about him and his commitment is still a good thing. And men have that quantity strategy...
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:10 AM
-5

ahah, you're right :) i guess you just have to be a little clingy when they are there ^^ not in a way that disturb your husband, but showing that you're in the place.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 12:42 PM
1

There are virtue in saying "Back off, he's mine" in his presence : you show TO HIM how important he is for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 09:57 AM
1

thx :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 09:47 AM
29

Guys come to dates seeking fun, complicity & physical affection. Your rules and expectations keep them from finding that and pursuing you. Work on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 04:40 PM
1

Cultive that feeling you have when you lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 04:20 PM
4

Of course you don't want that, and hopefully it won't happen. Nonetheless, if you live your life in fear of their disapprobation it's very likely you'll end miserable.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 04:19 PM
7

You'll be happier if you don't bother with intolerant people.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 03:45 PM
0

I think the most important issue with having a "best friend" husband is that he's your best friend before being your lover... and that's really bad for a couple.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 10:36 AM
1

I predict you failure of relationship. Your expectations are irrealistics. You're not the best but you want the best, and if a good enough show himself you'll see him as a "low quality man" because you see yourself as ugly? Better stay alone and buy some cats, no offense.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 09:10 AM
-1

Well it's better. Because TRP men stick to individuals considerations, and prone honesty in relationship. Feminism on the other hand use men with hypocrisy, and try to politically attack men as a group. That said, better don't mean okay when some men in anger phase let their words going too far. At their discharge they unwind in a non mixed reddit group and don't ideologically attack women anywhere (unlike feminism who do that everywhere).
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 10:40 PM
5

Women have two strategies : hypergamy and double. Men have two strategies : playboy and patriarch. The thing is that the sexual norm today is for men to be patriarch and women use them knowing that. TRP push men on the other strategy, and protect them from being used. Women today use mostly the double strategy, ie marrying a ressourceful guy without loving him (and she had more sex before him than what she offer to him/she cheat on him/she divorce rape him). RPW encourage the hypergamy strategy,…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:38 PM
5

Because, most of the time, when they encounter this type of women irl, it appear that they are hypocrites. They "rode the cock carousel" but play the maiden with them. They act like RPW but use them emotionnally and financially. They manipulate and "divorce rape" them. There also the cheating and paternity fraud problems... They have been so much deceived that it's hard for them to believe that there are others women who are honest. Like a woman victim of rape have a hard time to trust men.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:29 PM
20

It's not the same public. RPW public is women who want to succeed in finding a man/keeping a man. TRP public is mostly young men who try to learn how to seduce and divorced men resentful about their ex wife. But the evopsy core principles are the same.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 04:59 PM
2

Make a woman think you're a god and brainwash her to only see your dick.
/r/MGTOW10/01/19 07:26 AM
9

Go your own way.
/r/MGTOW09/01/19 12:40 PM
1

It's a common behaviour. Look at shit testing on TRP.
/r/MGTOW08/01/19 06:38 PM
25

It's not your boyfriend as you're on a "break". Choose to go back with him and talk together about your issues, or leave hime and let him live as he want.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 11:02 PM
1

That certainly happened, but only if the man is not attractive enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 10:30 AM
22

Just cut all contact with him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 06:27 PM
8

Always take his side no matter what when it comes to them. Say to him that you find that they exaggerate to add to his stress and tiredness. And let him manage things as he wants. Travelling together is a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 09:28 AM
17

Great :) What did you do for him?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 09:23 AM
3

- Paragraphs. - She's teachable, you just haven't yet find the way. Learn to communicate better. You don't need to understand each other, just to listen and meet your respectives needs (and most of a time what she say is not what she really want) - The politic don't matter. As long as she show respect to you she can think whatever she want.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 07:57 PM
5

It's something you say about friend, not lover. It's different to make the other happy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 09:26 PM
2

It's not working harder. All women need to do this to have a happy mariage. Without enthusiasm and love expressivity a man always go cold and cranky. If you fall back on children, your problems will become bigger and mariage dying. He said that he's fine with you physically even if you're not the best (no women is the best physically, especially compared to TV or internet stars), but you can be his best if your behaviour make him happy. That part is on you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 08:09 PM
-11

If you feel that you're not attrative enough you should compensate that with more enthusiasm and love expressivity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 09:57 PM
2

" I try to let him be rough ", i was thinking about that. I just read your ASKtrp post, with these informations it seem that the issue isn't sexual, it's a broad lack of respect from him. Stop doing things for him if he don't show you love & respect.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 09:28 AM
1

You like gentle, he like rough. Before asking him to do efforts, maybe you can begin to make some yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 10:20 PM
3

He's abusive. Collect evidence and leave him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 06:34 PM
1

These are things that show him that you love and desire him. How do you arouse his love and desire?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 02:20 PM
2

What do you do to flirt with him through the day?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 08:49 AM
0

If you're attractive, they will develop sentiments for you. And goot time/company is a very attractive for a girl. ​ Are you with a guy because you like him or because you're attracted to him?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 08:13 AM
1

Drunk and video game addict. Get it together.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 08:10 AM
7

I'm married for 8 years. I win.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/18 11:14 AM
15

More than virginity what's expected is morality and fidelity.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 09:37 AM
4

Don't wait she contact you. Act with her like you did earlier and wait she say that she's ok for an OLTR.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/18 01:05 PM
6

Eat Fruits, Vegetables, Meat, Fish & Egg. Organic or good quality. Buy raw. Be cautious about cereal, grains, dairy. (& obviously all manufactured stuff).
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 08:41 AM
-3

I didn't say it's easy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 02:37 PM
-4

With a good nutrition and some sport your body can be pretty much the same.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 12:46 PM
7

Not bad at all. Men are stoïc and women emotionnal... moreover, like instakar said, ILY don't have the same meaning for men and women. So it's normal that it is the woman that say it first.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 11:21 AM
3

If she don't bring some vegetables and fruits to the table she's not worth it. You'll pay... after she showed that she deserve it. A good provider don't give easily what he had.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 10:11 PM
12

That need to change if you want a relationship
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 06:29 PM
9

Never pay if she expect it.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 06:27 PM
18

If it's important to you tell him. I really think that women should say it first.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 06:26 PM
22

What you seek is recognition. The issue is that it's not sufficient to win to have it. You must also put up a performance and seduce others with your frame etc.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 08:16 AM
3

It's a team work. The man make the decision, but the woman must be onboard with all the big ones, and support him on them. A simple exemple : If he decide to host a party, the woman must know how it will be organize, and take charge of half or so of the things.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 08:12 AM
1

Not at all sufficient. Ask him "I would be delighted to go out (to that restaurant, to watch that movie...) with you (that monday/whatever day you're free), would you give me that pleasure?"
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 08:03 AM
17

Why would he want to ask you out when you showed no enthusiasm for this stuff? If you changed your mind, you should plan something yourself to show him that you want more than sex now... Men seduce for sex, women must seduce for invesment... it's your responsability.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 05:10 PM
1

And this is what happen when a man show honest appreciation and that he seek a LTR. No wonder that they advice to spin plates.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:50 PM
13

I just saw Iron man 3... where the final fight is won in extremis by the woman who did nothing during all the movie. And where Tony Stark finish by saying that he'll give up super hero stuff.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 11:29 AM
5

Psychological issue or hormonal issue during pregnancy or puberty.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 08:29 AM
6

I found the documentary Brainwashing quite good : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cVaTc15plVs
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 07:59 PM
7

Well, there are a marriedredpill. Some men seek relationship (it's just quite hard to find a woman who deserve it).
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 02:55 PM
1

If you try too hard it can be perceived as dependant and desesperate. Be fantastic because you are always fantastic, not because you want to be liked.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 06:10 PM
2

Sound like you're both young. Nothing wrong with that of course but it means that it's normal to be unconfident for you, and to not lead aggresively for him. You're still figuring how all of this stuff work.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 07:28 AM
2

You probably need to loosen up, relax yourself... and it's only possible if you really trust your partner (and are attracted by him). Or maybe they don't have a good enough technique.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 04:45 PM
33

A woman who want to love "someone" will find men who want to have sex with "someone" (and another someone after that). Vet a man ready to offer you the relationship you want. Earning money and achievements are men things. You need pleasantness, admiration, support, joyfulness.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 07:58 AM
2

You're not use to it, he's not use to it. You need some time. It can also happen that the woman is very judgemental, or nagging, at others times and so, because men are very consistant creature, he can't be open to your compliment afterwards.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 08:36 AM
9

Most men on TRP give up on marriage and prefer to "spin plates". That's why they focus on young women. When you want a life partner you choose her more close to your age. That said pleasantness is mandatory for vetting such a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 07:54 AM
1

When the change is dependant of your behaviour it's controlable.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 07:35 AM
2

If there is only one person in the world who should inflate his ego it's you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 08:38 AM
3

Of course he's awkward as he's supposed to win more than you. This is why he made the jokes... because he need you to reassure him that you love him even if the role are inverted (well, he should be more confident than that). Don't pull the cash back, unless you want to leave him. Show that you trust him and the relationship. And that you trust the decision you made in the first place, buy a house. You should try to defer to him for finance (even if you're more qualified about that).
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 07:54 AM
8

Texts are texts. See how it is IRL.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 11:56 AM
1

Dont be her girlfriend in first place. "I told her I had feelings for her. I didn't want to lose her" What? Can't you just isolate and kiss her? You know, like a man do. I hope, at least, that you told that IRL...
/r/TheRedPill15/10/18 12:39 PM
3

House
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 05:35 PM
13

We had tough spot like that. I think that what we lacked the most while we endure is the gratitude of the other. If you're too much in your own stress and pain you forgot to show recognition to the other about all the effort he/she make and the new thing he/she take in charge. You need that gratitude to preserve your love.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 10:31 AM
9

I agree with that. It's positive reinforcment like in the book "Don't shoot the dog".
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 04:50 PM
4

You don't have to share all your hobbies/skills with your SO. If your husband is a boxer, would you tell him that's harmful if he don't do boxe with you?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 07:34 AM
8

Great post, thx.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 07:21 AM
19

As much it's hard to be taken for granted, withholding isn't a solution... he'll just think that you don't love him anymore or that you're taking him for granted. Don't have too much expectations (it's natural that there are ups and downs in relationship like in life) and talk to him about your feeling.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 11:01 AM
1

Is it reciprocal? xd
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 08:45 AM
11

Sounds like a relationship... don't assume you're a plate because there wasn't a talk, he can also assume that you sleep with ton of others men with that thinking. Read that : https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7za0r6/the_talk_is_socially_retarded_dont_do_it/?st=JMKSZKZH&sh=2a22480a Be cautious to no say something like "i want a serious boyfriend" when he maybe already feel like that... he'll just think that you're not thinking the same and use plausible deniability to leave him. Tal…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 07:33 AM
14

In TRP they say it's that you sought plausible deniability.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 03:01 PM
35

If you don't want to have sex, don't sleep over and say no as much time as needed. As a man who is supposed to initiate and overcome boundaries it's hard to know if a girl test your willingness to seduce her and to respect your needs or if she's really not ready.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 01:04 PM
3

Athol Kay site is quite good : http://atholkay.com/blog/
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 12:46 PM
6

It matters, a lot. But it's a true that you must vet properly at first.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:53 PM
9

Women test men to see if they have balls. Men test women to see if they are humble. He cancelled a few meet-up and you reacted like a drama queen, which made him losen his attraction to you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:35 PM
7

You have a commercial view of love. It's covert contract. If you want to be treated right, inspire him to do so. Don't play games to manipulate him to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:31 PM
1

About encouragement, the best is to tell in public how you're impress & proud of how he's serious and courageous with this challenge. When you talk with your friends or with your family and he can heard.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 09:43 AM
1

Do you try to say that men must have sex only when they want a child?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 05:18 PM
-2

Well, in the case of a woman trick him and refuse to abort, i don't see how it's the man responsability. With or without men these mothers have babies... ART is a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:17 PM
2

Show them that they're wrong. About them create more single mothers... it's like a commandment to trp men who pump and dump to not ever have a child.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 03:54 PM
17

You just want that he say that you're not a bad girl. The validation don't worth the hassle. You're together now, focus on build the better relationship ever, not on the past.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 07:22 AM
5

You said that he was distant and ignoring you but it don't seem like that at all. You went overboard with your thought and tell him that "this isn't working" which mean that you want to break out or that you play games with him. You expected too much of him too soon and when things didn't went exactly like you wanted you go full hamstering about him being distant.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 12:07 PM
7

You're in denial.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:48 AM
1

I figured that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:46 AM
4

You post is full of red flag about him. When i read that i wanted to say... just leave him. When i read the text though it's seem that's you who went overboard. He definitely deserve that you talk with him of your issues instead of sent this kind of message like this... you're too demanding and have too much expectations about this young relationship. You need to take things slower.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:11 AM
3

That is hard :( How was things at begining of your relation?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:02 AM
-6

Continue to work on yourself to make you more attractive to him, and be patient. Initiate sex as often as you want it in the meantime (he don't reject you, right?)
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 10:49 AM
5

It's hard (some would say impossible) to gain back the trust and desire of your SO after cheating. You're responsible that he don't talk to you anymore, not him. He would probably prefer to talk to you like before but his feelings don't allow him. So work on yourself (do things for him, be pleasant, stfu...) to gain back that trust rather than trying to convince him with words.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 10:43 AM
29

Stop hamstering. Try him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 07:56 AM
3

So true, thx.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 06:56 PM
1

If we call the angry phase a phase it's because we know that hate is relevant only the time to overcome our bad experiences and process our emotions. And the faster we can do this the better it is.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/18 06:51 PM
2

Try to behave with him like you're a college girl with a secret crush on him. Be pleasant and arouse him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 05:25 PM
6

Well, to me, commitment is much more than exclusivity (and titles). It's mean being a provider, a protector, a listener, making life plan together... So i think you could have sex when you trust him enough to be all that wth you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 07:24 PM
2

And how do you know that you have commitment? If men wait to have sex before considering commitment and women wait commitment before considering sex it'll be hard to find a relationship. Rather commitment maybe you can wait to respect & trust him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 06:18 PM
1

When do you suggest to sleep with a man?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 06:00 PM
0

I feel sorry for your experience. It can be different for other people.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:19 PM
2

And how do you define abuse? Is psychological violence is a part of it? Have you never cross a line with your SO? Where are your limit?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:03 PM
3

You're on the right track :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:01 PM
10

Lot of women are prone to advice leaving when there are violence. It's surely not an ideal situation. But they are quite blind to the possibility of female violence and hamstering... if the woman start it and the man continue it (he sould not) it's female abuse! Congrats on overtake your hate and find forgiveness in your heart. I wish you lot of happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 07:17 AM
0

You leave him. It'll be a lot of work if you want that he believe in you and commit again.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 06:56 PM
8

Je ne sais pas si j'ai bien compris cette partie mais... n'essaye pas de rendre ta belle mère plus féminine :) pour améliorer votre relation intéresse toi à elle, regarder les activités qui l'intéresse et trouve un moyen de les partager avec elle. J'ai beaucoup aimé Fascinating Womanhood si tu ne l'as pas encore lu. Félicitation pour ton mariage.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:55 PM
33

Leadership - Men are supposed to handle responsabilities and the mental load but women are rarely grateful for that and even throw tantrum when you don't decide things like they would want.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 04:28 PM
5

Submission mean he has more power because he make the decisions. Submission mean she has more power because she make him handle responsabilities and the mental load.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 04:22 PM
3

He's not holding back you from your goal. It's your lack of discipline which do that. You can become more feminine and positive if you really commit to it, with him or alone it doesn't really matter. And when you'll be feminine and positive maybe it'll give him the space to lead like you want.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:32 AM
3

Positive reinforcement it is. I like the book "Don't shoot the dog" about that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:23 AM
1

Look at this book : https://www.amazon.com/Want-Sex-Wants-Fries-Testosterone-ebook/dp/B0145NFJ1W
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 12:31 PM
3

To me you can't offer security and ressources without strengh so you're Beta traits are in fact Alpha... Women are hypergamous when the strenght of their current are not enough to sustain the emotionnal security and the attractivity. The risk of marraige is high only if you don't vet your woman, and you don't lead her everyday. What's the alternative anyway? Spinning young fertile plates who won't ever bear your children because, you know, contraception? Unless they feel the clock ticking and us…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 07:16 AM
9

I'm a man. I don't know any woman that is truly pleasant everyday. Not even my wife that i nonetheless love deeply. There are certainly NOT billions of women like that. Or you don't know what pleasantness mean.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 07:46 PM
76

It's easier to be adored as a woman. You just have to be pleasant. A woman's value is based on building a family. And lot of men want to commit to have that, because spinning plates is good for the self esteem but in the long term it's also a lonely and sad road.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 03:31 PM
-1

"his response was that if money is ever a reason for saying no to something I can tell him, and if it's something he really wants to do he will pay for both of us." He answered you but you're not please and don't trust him. He'll not pay regurlarly for you if he's not commited to your relationship. And he won't commit if you don't inspire and seduce him to do it. So you can choose to invest on him to make him commit or leave and hope to find better elsewhere. Men seduce to have sex, Women seduce…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 09:19 AM
6

Thx for your post. I agree with you. There are still the issue of free speech obvisously but fellow redpiller shouldn't ignore their responsabilities. The Anger Phase aren't the issue, but the space it take on the reddit is. And be cautious to not fall in a Anger Phase against the quarantine ;)
/r/TheRedPill28/09/18 08:24 AM
4

It depend of the vision of your man. If his masculinity is tie with a work then it could affect your couple. If it's not that important for him, that he have other passion projects and he stay the captain of the relationship, it will be fine. I'm an "Alpha" SAHH homeschooler myself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 07:59 AM
17

Make him want to be exclusive rather than talk to him to convince him to.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 04:38 PM
5

Reading you i have the impression that he lie to you because he's used to you making a scene about everythings. It don't justify it. But if he was a super sweet guy and changed... ask yourself if it's not your attitude that make him change.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 04:17 PM
29

Better rejection than regrets.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 09:38 PM
2

Well is the reason a man commit is for sex? An attractive man will have less diversity if he commit, even less sex if he have plates... like you said women sleep around these days. It seem to me that a man commit to perpetually have a pleasant woman with him, a good housekeeper & cheerleader, who bring more joy in his life. Not for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 04:28 PM
10

Send him a text. If you don't show that you're interested in him why would he continue to pursue? (unless he's a masochist or desperately blue pill)
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 04:12 PM
-2

Lot of men like when a woman slept quickly with them if she also show that she's not like that with others. (and we don't really have info about the timeline here)
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 03:55 PM
11

It will be tough but your captain made a choice for your future. Trust him. You'll find how to spend some times with him. Bring him some homecooking cake, organise dates...
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 03:52 PM
2

Maybe take his time to prove herself without pressuring him is a good strategy. Men are selective when choosing a woman to commit.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 03:47 PM
5

Well, most guys don't look for marriage, it's a thing. Specially when they experiment how women are these days. But if they find a woman that inspire them, that is truly feminine, interested in them, a blooming RPW ready to be their first mate, they will naturally want to commit and make her happy. Marriage & Kids can be like commitment, but it's depend of the individual... Maybe you talk about it too soon for him? He don't want that for now, but in the future with his ideal woman, it could be d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 02:59 PM
2

If he have personnal issues he probably need some time for himself. How long since that change of behaviour?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:46 PM
13

Sort out that feeling before marrying or else you'll be miserable and divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 07:46 PM
1

He's right that the dog should have be kept outside the room, he's right to be angry that the room is a mess. Maybe blaming you is going too far because you did your best, but don't let this petty consideration harm your relationship. Show him that you understand him like you want he understand you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 07:37 PM
-2

You could say to him that you're sad about how the conversation went, that he was right but that you'ld like that he talk to you more kindly next time. After that STFU
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:55 PM
1

Well, those you talk most often know the least. But some topics are very instructive. Read, dismiss what is not interesting, work on yourself. You'll learn.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 03:24 PM
1

Look around you and into yourself, lessons are everywhere. If not, there are red pill men that can taught you, red pill places on the internet, and books... It's easier for us than for numerous guys in the past or others countries.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 03:15 PM
3

It's simply because they're selective rather than competitive.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 03:04 PM
6

You need to understand that's a part of the game. You can't play if you don't know the rules.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 03:03 PM
17

Women are diplomat and indirect. They seem hypocrites to men. Men are truthful and direct. They seem boorish and unpolished to women.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 02:35 PM
48

The analogy don't work. A man appreciate his wife initiating sex. One is about his role as a provider, the other one his about her desire for him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 08:15 PM
1

My point is : you can keep an "old" relationship exciting and -not stale-, if you work on it (and on yourself). Adding the stability factor, it's better for a women (approprietly selected) than a new one. But most men don't know anymore how to do that because Western societal structure turn them into Betas.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 12:25 PM
2

If the uncertainty of a new relationship, even with an Alpha, is better that the current stable one with you, it mean that you don't do your part well. Abandon the relationship with you must come with losing a lot - if you bring a lot to the relationship (strength, discipline, leadership, security...).
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 12:10 PM
3

I'm agree that most of women can't be trust. That said a minority can be trust IF you are enough Alpha in the relationship. Don't forget your own faults.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 11:10 AM
3

Unless he man up, and move out (or make her move out), and stop messaging her all the time, you should leave.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:30 AM
9

It seem like what annoy you is his lack of leadership. First example you could have told him that's better that he choose the time himself and you follow. Second example well, he fail, but it happens... stfu and be pleasant while remembering when you failed yourself in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 12:45 PM
2

Argumentum ad personam, thx to illustrate my point.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 08:59 AM
10

OP is strong enough to talk about his weakness in public place and own it. Seem like you're confused about true strength.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 08:32 AM
4

You're defintely not alone Bro. Thx for the story.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 08:19 AM
9

TRP and Alpha is not the same as vulgar and insensitive. Those are false strengh to hide your weakness. This isn't a politeness class but TRP with politeness are better than without each time, like for James Bond.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 08:10 AM
3

"she asks me why I'm looking at her so much" What ?! It's you that look at me without stop ! (which it's true else how can she know you look at her?)
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 07:41 AM
9

Let him figuring this out. You talked about it, now trust him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:37 PM
1

In French this word are not inevitably link to one person. You can be devoted to help people in general or to be a good housewife etc... by opposition to doing things with no heart, superficially.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 08:20 AM
3

English is not my first language. Maybe dedication is a better word?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:12 PM
6

I'ld go with devotion. And discipline for a man.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 05:47 PM
30

You are with him only since May and he don't have the job to support a SAHM... definitely don't drop your uni. If he's a man of value, and really love you, he'll learn english and find a solution for the visa, or wait two years.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 02:54 PM
–

It's better to work on a positive mindset and don't bitch at all. You can possibly talk about an issue if you need to be listened and advices. But no bitching.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 02:23 PM
6

With sport & nutrition you can gain a bit of volume on your breast, ass & thighs. Try to eat more, specially protein, and work out with (weigted) lunges, hip thrust, squats, push up & bench press)
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 12:52 PM
1

"when you truly love someone, no one else should interest you" It's definitely a woman point of view. A man never feel that way, even if he say it, even if he choose to not be involved with other women for you... The only man who can say that is a man with no other women interested in him and who try to frame his girlfriend with an unconditionnal love ideal to prevent her to take interest in others.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 08:06 PM
0

The others are maybe better for casual sex. But you're better for a relationship. He could have said it better.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 06:05 PM
7

He don't know what he want. He play game with you (make you jealous)... he's definitely not ready for a relationship. You should forget him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 08:44 AM
2

Thx :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/18 06:09 AM
17

Men always want sex when it's available, it's their nature. Their love is showed by their investment with the one woman they choose. Women always want investment when it's available, they'll rarely refuse that a man buy them something or protect them... Their love is showed by their sex openness with the one man they choose. I think that's very much more a betrayal for a man to invest (financially, emotionnally or threat exposure) in another woman than sex with that another woman.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 07:18 PM
5

1,3,4,5 are legit. The rest is shit, if you force her she'll ressent you. And where are your part?
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 07:04 PM
1

Love, Respect, Obey (or follow), Make you children. I let the women answer for what they crave :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 06:58 PM
3

I'd say he try to make you fall in love with him :) (and personnally i think you don't waste such a chemistry, you try it). He's definitely interested in you. But what's his intentions? Is he familly oriented or just fooling around? Nobody can say but him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 06:38 PM
22

The Mating Mind by Geoffrey Miller The Red Queen by Matt Ridley Don't shoot the dog by Karen Pryor Sperms Wars by Baker How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie And for women : Fascinating womanhood & The secret of fascinating womanhood.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/18 02:59 PM
2

Ok, there is a whole context out there ^ Shouldn't the comments be more about her bad judgement and less about the horribility of the man?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 04:41 PM
2

I don't know the man. She say he's perfect with her (he's honest at least). If he have a bad past but overcame it, this is not a reason to leave him (men are born in difficulties, it can even be positive !). Maybe the odd are low, and his history should make her extra careful, but she should judge about his actual behaviour. But i'm an idealist in recovery... i must say that all this comments push the red pill further in my throat.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 04:12 PM
-3

He's perfect to you. He trust you enough to open himself about his hard past... and honestly with this kind of abuse it's admirable to become this amazing. What's important is what he do , and how he behave, now and in the future. Not a distant past.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 12:28 PM
2

Up your attraction (lifting, dominant attitude, etc) and she'll be so much more orgasmic. This is the real "warm up".
/r/askTRP17/08/18 06:09 PM
1

Op said that she's anxious around men and act like she's not interested to protect herself. But men don't want someone anxious & not interested by them. They want women who have confidence and who show their interest by flirtatious comment & light tease.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 07:53 AM
5

Man here :) French, 35, married since 10 years, 3 children. 2-3 dates to know each other, kissing next date, sex next date after that (date number 4-5). I can wait if i see that the woman are really into me and show respect and admiration. But, too long and i would think that she use me for entertainment and will drop her. She need to be open and enthusiast about sex activities, not too prude but not vulgar either, and diplomate when saying that something is wrong for her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 12:57 PM
11

You need to lose some more weight, ~40 lbs. Wear dress and skirt. Jeans are too masculine imho. You could use some make up (not too much but a bit is always attractive).
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 10:21 AM
3

How do you dress?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 09:44 AM
8

You can try to say to him that you're angry for something stupid and you know that's dumb and you need to work on better processing your emotions. Thanks him to care but tell him you need a quiet space to do this work at that time.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 09:09 PM
15

I'ld ask myself why is he in this state... Something emotionally big probably happen to him. In any case it's his familly, for you he trump them every time, he's your priority. Do you want to show to the familly that you love & follow him even when he's against them, or that you distance yourself with them when it's difficult for him? I advice you to apologize to him, saying that you was surprised but that you fully support him whatever happenned. And if it's just the sleep arrangement, show tha…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 06:35 AM
10

I think that women try to date the best man available and men try to date a woman that fit his standards (which can be quite high with internet, porn, photoshop etc). I also think that's not that overgraduated women are less attractive, the issue is that they aren't familly oriented.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 11:42 AM
1

Of course he could help... but right now you don't need help and you still predict that you'll ask him that, that you'll need him to fulfill your responsability. Actually you telling him that you'll not ensure your side of the relationship... If you veted your man correctly he'll help you when you'll need it but asking him to do your part? Even worse, predict that you will asking him? Imagine he say to you "Even while i'm the provider occasionally i want to take sabbatic holidays and you'll help…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:00 AM
2

Well i don't know them but it's the feeling i get from your post. She don't want to bear his child... that alone can explain the break up.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 03:02 PM
14

she did everything right in this relationship It seem to me that she was not attract to him since the start. It was a convenient relationship for her, not a love relationship. Maybe she love him but she's not in love with him. He want a women that is really into him. Why should he stay?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 01:16 PM
1

Begin to work out and don't show her that you wouldn't trade her for anyone, even if it's true. In time, it would encourage her to look elsewhere.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/18 06:32 AM
2

Don't seem very likely unless he have some cuckhold fantasy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 07:31 PM
5

For men feeling loved they need to be admired, to be desired, and for emotional attachment they need sex. A woman who don't show she desire sex with them it's like saying "sorry dear i'm not attracted with you". You automatically dismiss her. For it to work you need to be specially fun to be around, show you desire him very much, but that you care even more to making things right and it's why you grudgingly want to wait ... a little. That said having sex is in no way sufficient and a man will co…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 08:29 AM
1

Don't judge them about working toward what you want, but about working for, and carrying, the relationship. It's quite different.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 07:51 AM
2

I'm sure you understand. If the girl make out with some random dude, even for a few split second, and you left it alone, she lose all respect for you. It's easy to reject all fault on her.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 01:45 PM
1

It was half a joke :), not the ask part though.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 02:09 PM
7

A man who sleep around is attractive because he is respected and admired, he has social proof, he has value, which women want. One of the more important thing a man want in a woman is the guarantee that the children she'll bear will be his own. A woman who sleep around is the last thing you want.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 11:57 AM
3

M:The weather is fine for a walk. S: I don't wanna walk M: What do you want? S: I don't know. Don't ask. Propose another thing or cancel. "You can also come to fuck at home."
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 11:49 AM
2

keto =\= kino Your situation is quite different. Your wife was sexual because of preselection and competition. His girl was sexual because he showed confidence and independance.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 02:42 PM
3

He showed that he's not afraid of losing her.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 02:17 PM
1

Maybe you mean Agree & Amplify. But it don't work with any shit testing you know?
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 07:01 PM
1

Escalate what? I don't talk about having sex with her, who cares about that. I talk about making her submit to you. Of course it's not something you do with a plate (honestly who even try to do everything right with those?). But if you build a relationship with a woman you should train her to behave. If you don't, there is no need to be surprised when she cheat on you.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 06:48 PM
1

Well, it's the nature of women to shit testing. Do you leave each time one do it? Or do you make her learn to behave with you? English is not my first language but i'm pretty sure i didn't talked about threats. Just to be sure that she knows, and dreads the consequences.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 06:09 PM
2

Maybe it's something that some women need to be reminded regurlarly in a relationship.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 05:39 PM
1

There are threats and there are consequences. All leader use consequences, all the time. You don't do correctly your work? You're demoted or fired (or bankruptcy if you work for yourself). And you know it, that's why you give your best. No consequences? Well if i'm payed the same i stay at home and watch Netflix.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 04:32 PM
-4

He didn't do everything right. He didn't frighten her that he'ld leave if she don't behave. And/or he didn't choose a woman who had already integrate that infidelity have consequences. They are like children they need to be discplined. Be better than others & be sure that she understand that you leave her the second she don't behave.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 02:52 PM
1

Red Pill tell you to focus on yourself and stop all addiction. But so much people here are addicted to pussy. Women are here to make your children and take care of your home. To only play the playboy (or pump and dump) game is like doing cardio without lifting. You don't gain shit.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 10:43 AM
4

Well some men on red pill are definitely like that. But it seem that you're not, so NARPMALT :)
/r/TheRedPill08/07/18 10:55 AM
1

Lack of Discipline. Well, everybody have this phase because we were forced to do things all our youth so we didn't learn discipline. What matter is how you react now.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 06:03 PM
2

Perterson made a point about children. It's much better for children to have a mother & a father to take care for then during long time (a t least 15 years). So evolution will select this features.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 05:23 AM
26

I'm strongly disagree with the "not caring" policy. I'm more in favor of a principle of reciprocity : Give him your best, but only if he do the same. Don't try to go too fast too deep. But always give 1% more of what he give and stop until he reciprocate. Like that you don't give too much (which kill the chase and demote yourself) but you encourage him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 12:46 PM
1

Tell him something like : "Honey, you know what would be perfect for our anniversary? It's an overnight stay at an airbnb by the beach. How nice it would be of you if you plan all of this for us, you'ld be the best of all men of the Earth."
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 12:07 PM
2

In that case it's only that he's not as you dream. You can leave him and try to find a better man, at the risk of finish alone. Or you can accept him like he is and invest seriously in the relationship. IE Working on yourself to improve the relationship and his behaviour. You tested him and he's not that natural Alpha in his reaction. But if you take another approach he can become it. By behaving like he's already that attractive, telling him that you'll miss him and can't do without him instead…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 09:05 AM
2

Do you have another guy you're interested with?
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 08:04 AM
9

You found the answer :) Work out, find some steps to improve your diet, find hobbys you want to try.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 04:51 PM
9

They evolved to get good genes... but not only that. Men & women have a two-strategy game. Men have the playboy (no investment) & the patriarch (full investment with the best woman -pretty & faithful-) strategy. Women have the hypergamy (full investment with the best man) & the AFBB (no investment, sex blackmailing for ressources) strategy.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 07:21 AM
48

It's a biological explanation. Men who sleep around prove that they are attractive (Female select good genes). Women who sleep around prove that they aren't trustworthy to bear your children (Male select fidelity, they need to be sure it's really their children there).
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 02:56 PM
0

Question : are you a quality man? Answer : i'ld knock the guy out. Who cares if it's true or stupid? Just show you're not afraid. If it's your girl/wife who ask then answer 2 is : if it's you i'ld knock the guy out but if i don't know the girl why should i care? Or answer 3 : i'ld knock the guy out for sure and she'll reward me with some sex.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 09:30 AM
1

If you criticize her he'll think that you want to belittle him (that he can't find a better women). Tell him he's better than her instead and that he can find someone who really respect him and that he don't deserve to put up with this red flags.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/18 07:41 PM
-4

It's hard, i used to do the same thing... You must learn to shut up, don't show you're afraid, and compliment him occasionnaly. It'll be better.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 07:57 AM
1

Or be the man that will rule women and the family and sure, you'll be responsible for them, but they will admire and obey you. They only leave the weak ones.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/18 08:56 PM
1

Evolutionary psychology, females choose their male because ONS mean a potential pregnancy. Males don't choose but compet for female, when they have only one option they invest all their emotions on her and trap themselves.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 12:03 PM
1

You already know your anwser but you're afraid to assume it. There is only one decision you won't end up regretting.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/18 11:57 AM
5

You give up? You're a work obsessed guy and it's too much work? Too difficult? You don't handle failure? Poor little one. At least, be a little more considerate of others who work their ass off and don't use your weakness to drag them down.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 08:34 PM
0

try "honey, can you take me out to dinner tonight please, i so much want lover time with you" and after, take his arm, hug him and say "thx honey, i feel so loved when you take me out like this" if sex is hard (lol) you can try blowjobs? Repeat steps above until he understand. You probably want to keep the money issue for later though. One step at a time. oh, and don't pick up after him. If he don't do it himself even when you ask politely just bring it all together in a trash bag and he'll tidy…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 07:58 PM
8

Let her go, it's not time for strategy anymore.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/18 05:50 PM
8

Become better so people naturally don't disrespect you rather than force them to.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/18 05:28 PM
19

Video games, Films, Series, Books. It's difficult to find a good story somewhere without a fucking girl in masculine role toping men...
/r/TheRedPill13/06/18 04:01 PM
25

Being too sensitive is like showing lack of confidence. You should ignore most of those who don't respect you and work on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/18 03:54 PM
1

Let them (aunt/sisters) alone. Focus on yourself. Answer to shit test : "of course you are/i am" If you tell her she's wrong, she'll have a defense reaction and she'll be less likely to change. Moreover she'll resent you and cause issue Leave her and shut up.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/18 03:04 PM
3

Great :), next time you have him on the phone you can try "would you ask me out this (week), i want to see you"
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 05:21 AM
5

Show him some enthusiasm. text him "please call me, i want to hear you".
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 05:31 PM
2

When they must start working and they realize that they don't want it but would like to have a real man and have a fun job or stay at home.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/18 05:25 AM
5

Or these girls date rich people by interest despite not being attracted by them. That say lifting is not sufficient, it's just a part of your journey.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 08:19 PM
11

Go nun mode for 6 month, focus on yourself. all will be better after that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 12:49 PM
5

You're right it's not up to you to remind him things all the times, you're not his mother. You'll need to explain that too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 12:35 PM
7

A man must keep his word. It's legitimate to expect that much. Tell him that it make you sad when he don't do as he say.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:49 AM
2

You do well. Let this thing behind you.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 11:42 AM
1

You should not check to confront her but to get information and do the best move (next her/plate her/let her being around on condition). I don't see an issue with this.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 12:14 PM
4

Well, usually it's not. Most men must learn to talk less about their emotions, and increase Alpha features. Also because we're not focus on LTR here, and no point to talk about emotion in that context. But in a LTR, when you have already work a max on your Alphaness, it's positive to sometimes show your emotions in a self confidence way.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 06:20 AM
1

Well, by date i didn't mean to be nice. You can tell hang out if you prefer. English is not my first language. The thing is : find girls, talk to them, try to escalate.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 06:23 AM
4

You're ready to try. Just talk to girls, try to get a date and escalate. You'll fail and you'll learn.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 05:54 AM
3

Try How-Friends-Influence-People-Digital You don't have to get out and approach if you're mentally exhausted. Focus for a while on self development.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 05:53 AM
3

I tried to understand things with OP POV. I read : "we're both marriage minded. We've met each others families." "He does a lot of sweet things for me: romantic nights out, massages, great discussions etc." But OP say that it's not enough for her to take care of him and his needs because she doesn't like sex multiple time a day and that she need something more in exchange. The issue is not that there is a need for compromise. It's that rather than to talk with him and find a way to be both satis…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 04:39 PM
5

He seems to give you all a woman can want and you say you're not willing to give him all a man can want on your side? And you don't show in this post that you care about him and his needs but you talk about money? If you're not ready to fulfill your end of the relationship, you're definitely not ready for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 06:17 AM
18

Well women like when men talk about their emotions sometimes because it show they are stronger than them (emotions) and that they value them (women). But only if there are no doubt ever about it's Alphaness and his confidence.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 05:28 PM
5

They can offer support by themself.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 05:23 PM
38

You must to be able to take implicit feedback. They hate to have to talk about thing that you should understand by yourself.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 02:12 PM
–

More you give to men better it is. Usually it's women who find out-putting this kind of thing, definitely not men.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 05:19 AM
18

maybe he just want to talk with you a bit to see if he's really interested before offer this kind of date.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 08:27 PM
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Stay fit & treat him like a king.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:46 PM
2

How a man really interested would behave?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:32 PM
2

I'd say both but Alpha is a must anyway.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/18 06:19 AM
1

Well, yes she can be loyal to you. IF you are always more Alpha to her than any other guy AND if you train her to be open to her femininity. So life on hell mode as they say.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 09:07 AM
1

Don't let the scare prevent you to set up the goal you really want. And don't misjudge training, it's definitely something you'll need.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 09:03 AM
4

I'm not sure to understand your question but : to leading, never say i don't know or whatever when a woman ask you a decision. Time to time, plan something for both of you without asking/telling her anything. to training i really like the book "don't shoot the dog", try that.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 04:38 PM
25

That their behaviour has a kind of logic xd
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 02:49 PM
9

I think that this feeling is link with a lack of meaningful recognition. This kind of recognition can only be brought by a familly, with a women who had choosing you, and who really take care of you. An unicorn. It's life on hard mode and you need to be a daily Alpha. You often need to train her too, so that she open up to her femininity. But you realize the greatest instinctives goals of all animals : survive reproduce be sure that your children survive and reproduce too
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 02:46 PM
13

Beta is attractive in the good ratio, ie when Alpha features are stronger than Beta features. A fine woman will seek an A & B combo, choose this valuable man and stay with him. But of course finding the right man is like finding an unicorn for men. Because most men are putting their SO first (idealisation) and don't care enough about themselves, as most women are putting themselves first and don't care enough about their SO.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 01:39 PM
2

She seem to use you more than choose you. Move out, at least, unless she change big.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 11:18 AM
2

Most women don't settle down with a valuable man which they love but with whatever available man because they want a boyfriend/family (sacred goal ;) ). And with the process of settling down most men lose the few manly feature they had. So women end up divorcing. But a woman will go far to preserve a relationship with the valuable man she really choose.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 04:19 PM
11

Mate guarding is actually occupying the field against other men (kiss & grapple her in front of them by example). It DON'T mean being afraid of other men or that your girl go away. It's a mix of total confidence and nerve where you let her be with other and mark your territory at the same time.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 05:15 PM
1

It seem tough to you and i understand that you don't want to live this hardship again. That said there is no urgency. I'd like to point that making babies is an essentiel part of a marriage and if you take this decision against your partner it can break your couple. I don't say to do as he say on this point. I say to talk A LOT to be sure to understand each other.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 09:39 AM
4

You can think that the team have joint responsability but in fact, if there is an issue, it's the leader that is judged. When you're the leader you don't feel the same weigth of responsability at all. It's why a man go mostly with his ideas because he know he will carry this responsability, he know that in the future he will be judge on this choices. It's quite the same feeling that a mother have with her children. She can discuss the planning with them but at last it's her decision because she'…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 05:33 AM
-2

You go to his opinion because he lead and he endorse responsabilities, not because your opinions are less respected. You should thanks him rather than questionned it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 09:18 PM
0

A man need to feel that you respect and admire him. A man need to see that his woman want to take care of him (cooking, massage, blowjob, clothes he like, support on his projects...). You don't talk about this at all?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 06:09 AM
16

Lose your lbs, put more effort on your appearance, work on your anxiety and learn to be playful with men. A good start.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 07:44 AM
3

If you're really secure it's not problem to give love and respect even when your SO is wrong about something minor like this. Like sometimes when you feel tenderness for the nonsense of children. That said men and women need to do some fancy footwork so that the relationship are fulfilling for both of them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 10:38 AM
8

Hormonal IUDs are frequent nowadays
/r/TheRedPill17/05/18 06:41 PM
19

About your story, it's a good post but i'd not talk about "intimidating women" but about women who don't develop their attractive side and who aren't familly oriented. It's not that men are intimidate it's that they aren't the kind of women they want.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 07:22 AM
8

Dumbells are lifting.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/18 05:35 PM
5

Think and look about other options. Work on yourself, if she cheat on you it's because you're not attractive enough.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/18 05:34 PM
1

Don't ask for favor to a woman. Either she offer it or you manage alone (or with your buddys). If it's your gf/wife then you can lead her (don't ask either) If she say no, you manage alone and say no each time she ask for something after that, she'll learn. Of course your lead must be appropriate.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/18 05:31 PM
12

Go for it and do things to make your SO happy with the time you save.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 06:37 PM
9

Does he want to feel "needed" or "admired & chosen"? When you're not need him anymore but want him, are you still convey to him that he's an essential part of your life?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 06:10 PM
2

If you're not submitting now why would it change with marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 10:43 AM
6

You don't need to "fight" her if she seek you and want to please you. You had already won.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 06:12 AM
25

This is minor issues, that said. Don't wake him, you're not his mother. He must take care of that by himself. Tell him that you don't like double-dipping/licking of jars and that's not ok with you and you need to be respected about that. And drop the matter.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 01:34 PM
2

If you have not communicate the issue with him several times, there aren't an issue with him yet. A relationship can't work without communication.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:53 PM
3

I can't really understand your relationship via internet. And maybe he don't care enough about you. But i find that your post seems to focus too much on "i want to leave him because" rather than on "what can i do to make the relation work". Have you discuss about all of this with him?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 01:23 PM
5

What do you do for him?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 11:15 AM
40

Being a housewife mean that you respect and trust a man (maybe even love !). While it's the common idea nowadays that men are bad chauvinist sexist pigs. Even the one you choose to be your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 10:51 AM
4

Work -seriously- with stfu. You need to stop criticizing him, your job is to be his pompom girl, not the bitch who discredit him. Ask him for directions. If he say "i don't know" or "i don't care", answer that you feel safe and comfortable when he choose for you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 02:43 PM
2

If the man is a real beta and the woman have options she'll break or cheat at some point. You must give her something sometimes, a surprise, a compliment, a smile, but in the good way. Like a king nice to his maid. If you're not sure to do it in a enough dominant way stay aloof. Depends it can be boringness or just that you're not as perfect as you think or social pressure by other girls... Being the perfect alpha and fulfill all her need is not enough if she don't want to invest herself in the …
/r/TheRedPill04/04/18 06:48 PM
1

You must decide by yourself if you want a serious relationship with her, not her, especially not after an ultimatum, and especially not with that kind of sincerity (she sleep with another guy meaning she hasn't really submit to you). I'd say her that i'm fine with the relationship like it is and go no contact, waiting for her to reach me (and don't care if she don't).
/r/TheRedPill04/04/18 08:23 AM
85

This is NOT an issue. This is a divergence of view that you need to respect.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 11:06 AM
2

More or less. SMV is subjectif, more perceived SMV by her than any other potentiel pretendant.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/18 03:40 PM
3

Don't settle for an average women. That said to maintain à serious LTR you need to be better than the concurrence.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 07:22 PM
8

Approach with an attitude "let's see if you're good enough for me", if there are issues drop her and return to your interesting life.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 07:21 PM
6

Next time you're not enthusiastic enough she'll just cuck you with another guy for validation. All is fine.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 07:17 PM
1

Read Fascinating Womanhood. Understand him and his needs. Change your behaviour and your words to make him feel loved. Don't let stress, kid and life in the way, he must be your number one. The sex thing is probably not that much of an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 07:38 PM
4

Humans are a flexible specie. Actually studies suggest that mammals and most birds can be monogamous... if there are an environnemental need. When there are few ressources and many dangers species became naturally monogamous. Sooo if you want to trump hypergamy you need that your women can and feel that kind of need (and be the best option available oc).
/r/TheRedPill17/03/18 10:24 AM
2

Don't let him alone, make nice little things for him (dress up, cook, massage...); don't bother him (talk about things, disturb him when he do something...).
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 04:43 PM
1

It can be useful to know if you need to use a condom or not.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 03:34 PM
9

17 years old, repeat all he read, think he can give lessons. Good job to integrate things though but don't pose yourself as a guide.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/18 10:51 AM
1

Most people who're not happy with traditionnal roles aren't attuned with their profound self imo. But, well, it's their issue and not a reason to not respect them.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 07:59 PM
1

You're nice :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 12:35 PM
1

About Red Pill ideas (for men), male/female psychology etc. I'ld name it Love's Laws.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 12:33 PM
1

I'd say it's purely individual. The Red Pill don't exist in french... I actually plan to write a book about it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 12:29 PM
1

Well i don't think it's that different apart that we don't have the same labels... Women are push to work, tend to despise SAT (not by personnal choice imo), and children are in school/daycare most of the week. The Alpha fuck/Beta bucks seem less present but it's maybe just a question of where you go. Only few women really respect men and feminism "value" are everywhere (with sourness). Manliness is rare...
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 12:03 PM
1

I don't really identify myself like this, and certainly not with this kind of labels which haven't much sense here... in France :p Interesting points maybe, we're homeschooler and i was SAHF for three years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 09:26 AM
3

I prefer that and live that. Without children i think the women should work at least part time thought. Better for the children, better for the relationship (to flourish in your sexual role/qualities).
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 12:56 PM
-4

Two strategies : 1) "Yeah you're very attractive and i want to bang you right now", and do it -dominance-. 2) "Yeah not bad but you're a bit fat/skinny/something wrong" - she'll feel that you think to be a highter SMV than her -.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:16 PM
6

Trust yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 07:07 PM
1

If you're a good looking guy but act like a pussy your look doesn't really matter.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 05:07 PM
3

Or you can ask politely.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 10:11 PM
42

At that time Germans was the enemy, now it's men (or women who say that they are happy with men).
/r/TheRedPill11/02/18 12:58 PM
25

When a man explode like this it's often not because of what happened on the moment (you're obviously not a mind reader), but because of accumulate frustration about this subject. Ask yourself about your sex life and how disponible/enthusiastic you are, maybe it can help.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/18 10:34 AM
2

It's normal to be single. Work on you and with time you will be over him. Academics & appaerance but don't really seek. Focus.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/18 05:26 AM
22

Don't just wait for him to initiate. Make youself beautiful and sexy : makeup, skirt, fancy panties or no panties at all, deep kiss when he come back from work, some specific admiration about him... It will give him the drive to initiate. It's also possible that something stress him (at work or elsewhere), it's hard on the libido. Sometimes, there can be problem too with testosterone level ... be cautious about endocrine disruptor.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:57 AM
17

You overreacting. There are up and down in life/realtionship and you seem to have your share of down atm. It's when we take all our stupid decision. You have no good reason to leave him. Sure the butterfly are gone but they will come back. Take care of your depression, take care of your relationship, take care of your man and discuss things with him (importance of him taking responsabilities and providing...), all will be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 09:54 AM
2

I find your report quite cold "he says he loves me", "i said i will miss him" like if it's something that is said but that you think isn't true. If he said that you can join him and his friend just go and thanks him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/18 09:46 AM
1

Lift. Dress up. Posture. Eye contact. Low voice.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/18 11:51 AM
3

Show some (specific) admiration of his manly qualities. Cook something he like just for him. Boast about your gifts in public (in front of your friend/family when he can hear it). ...
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 09:45 AM
21

He want to do that for you. Let him and show your appreciation with emotion.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 10:10 PM
1

What about telling him that you want marriage and live with him wherever he gonna study?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 03:36 PM
9

On the other hand if a women don't invest much on a relationship there are little chance that the man propose... Especially when this man already take care of financial issue.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 10:06 AM
1

with pleasure :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 09:00 PM
3

Read Fascinating Womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 06:30 PM
2

She has to accept him alright, but things are rarely set in the stone. Especially when he said "of course we will someday". With attentiveness and care lot of thing are possible.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 10:46 AM
2

Please the women he love and who take care of him? It's what we do in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 07:45 PM
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It could only be that he don't see the point and be biased against it for some reason. But if she show him that's important for her, and that his worries are not founded with her, he could be on board. They already share finance after all.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 03:33 PM
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I think that if you live your feminity and show that you want to please him he'd naturally want to please you too. At that time if you have a talk with him (without pressure) saying that marriage (the ceremony) is extremely important for you, things should develop naturally the way you want. But do your part first. Are you sure the way you care of him is worth of a wife?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 06:36 AM
0

It's often a bad idea but it depend of your relationship. You best know.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 06:29 AM
2

The Helen Andelin's "Fascinating Womanhood" book is a must.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 08:17 PM
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