INTRO
I discovered TRP five or six years ago now. At that point in my life, I was smart, egotistic, socially awkward, and not particularly (read: not at all) attractive. I'm sure we all have our own treasured memories from high school.
Over the years I succeeded and failed in applying TRP. A few years back, I met the girl who would become my first LTR ever. TRP gave me the ability to predict a lot of how she behaved, but I also used it to mask my insecurities. Instead of writing a novella with all the boring details, I jump from idea to idea doing my best to avoid TRP cliches.
BODY
First things first, my self awareness when she and I met might have put me on the autism spectrum (she used to point out similarities between myself and her friend with aspergers). My looks compensated for it; weight lifting contributed to my looks more than any other factor. I cannot overstate how important weight lifting has been in my life the past half a decade or so.
Sex was always the most enjoyable when I treated it as a game. I learned to not go into the bedroom with a script in my head of how things were supposed to go; instead I went with the flow based on how she and I were feeling. Sometimes we fucked dirty, sometimes we made love, other times we just fucked around giggling like kids. Going with the flow always kept it natural; forcing it always felt rigid and unnatural. The only book I've read on the topic is The Sex God Method. I think it's a good starting point.
An LTR will change you. You'll likely become gentler, softer, and more pleasure seeking. Being on the other side now, I can see how my LTR changed me in those ways. It's inevitable, and it's something you should be aware of before shacking up. This change has pros and cons: I lost some of my aggression and ambition, but gained empathy and a certain joie de vivre for life's sensual pleasures. Now that my relationship is over, I've regained my natural aggression and retained the softer skills I developed with my girl.
CONCLUSION
I'm grateful to have known the amazing girl I dated and for being TRP conscious going in. Before my relationship, I was decently attractive but very rough around the edges. IMO, LTRs are great for refining all aspects of seduction (wit, foreplay, etc.) and social agility. More than anything, I enjoyed really getting to know the other person in a way I know few others. All in all, I'm very satisfied with how things turned out and what I learned from the experience.
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